I found out that my girlfriend cheated on me, but I forgave her. Today, she broke up with me. How do I...?

Question

I loved this girl with all my heart. I gave her everything I had. Just look at my past questions. I was faithful and treated her like a queen. She was my first true love. How do I get over this devistating loss? How can I get it across to myself that I'm not to blame? Any advice?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Just let her go - she is not worthy of you.

Answer 2

That girl is a Loser, You need to forget about her. She does not deserve you! Since she cant appreaciete a good man, let her find go out here and find a scumbag who will cheat on her,use her and treat her like crap. I cant stand women who do that. Look, you are a good man, and just know that just like that as the song says "Everybody plays a fool, sometimes"..We've All been there, so dont feel bad. I mean, even the best looking, richest celebrities get cheated on, so dont feel too bad...But, I mean, how can you still want her after she laid down and slept with another man? Once a cheat, always a cheat. She's probably going to catch a nasty STD soon, so no matter what--dont take her back.

Dont take away your dignity by becoming some "player" and sleeping with all these girls. Thats so corny, and it seems that almost everyone has herpes or genital warts these days since condoms dont protect you from them... No, You stay the same, and one day a Good Woman, who is 20 times better looking and more satisfying than your ex will come along. And your ex will look like a fool.

Heres how you get over her--realize that she is not "all that". I'm sure she is not the best, most beautiful, smartest woman in the world--is she? Isnt there something about her thats Off? I mean, focus on what is wrong with her, or ugly, and that will get your mind off her.

Well, my brother married a loser who cheated on him, and it hurt him deeply. But from experience, after you move on with your life-that girl will come crawling back. Do Not Take Her Back..She isnt worthy to be treated like a Queen. Let her find someone she deserves--a loser...Move on with your life. Trust me, I know it hurts like hell now, but I promise you that if you cut all contact with her--the pain will go away in about a month...Dont contact her, dont email her, dont call her. And do not accept her calls. Spend more time with your family and your friends now. Travel if you can. If you mean business, change your cell phone number and that will symbolize a fresh start.

Peace

Answer 3

This happened to my oldest son not too long ago and then his dog got hit by a car and almost died. My mom thought he was nuts spending $3000 to get his surgery, but I reminded her that he just lost his first love and this would topple his world. So first thing, don't get a dog.

Sometimes, quite honestly, women who are treated like queens don't appreciate the love and you have to treat them like dirt. This is true about guys too. Look at you. She treated you like dirt and you forgave her.

Send her a black rose and tell her it's for her black heart then change your number. Don't talk to her. She'll be mad at you, then she'll want you. But don't take her back because she's going to kick you in the teeth again, but at least you'll have the satisfaction of being able to move on.

I know this game well. And, yes...love is a game.

Answer 4

Realize that you deserve better than that. That if she had enough nerve to cheat on you in the relationship then if the relationship continued what would make her not do it again? Since she was your 1st true love it hurts more and its difficult to let go, but you can. Best way to get over someone is to find someone else who loves you and will treat you better. You will find your way for a better love, don't worry. Very few people get the chance to stay with their first true love.

Answer 5

You are infatuated with an idea of her that it's not her. So your love is not really for her but for someone else. This is a sign that you didn't really know her, and it feels bad because you thought you did.
The only thing you didn't have to do is forgive her for cheating on you and allow the unhealthy relationship to go on. She can't appreciate your strength of character if you don't show it.
Sometimes people have a twisted idea of love and trust. You obviously have a good love but you had a bad recipient of those feelings. It's someone you can't trust, and a disappointment.
One day you will feel real love coming back to you from someone who doesn't cheat. Trust me, you are better off without that woman. That picture you have in your mind of her is not reality.

Answer 6

When you fall in love, you put that person up high: on a pedestal; and worship them. But they are human beings, not gods or goddesses! They have failings and good and bad in their natures!
When you give your love to someone, you create that they will send it back to you, on the same level. But it doesn't always work out that way. And then, you are left to "pick up the pieces" and nurse a broken heart. The funny thing is, no one is exempt! Just about everyone that ever lived had it done to them!
The true test of a human being is in their ability to "pick themselves up, dust off, and start over"
I wish you all the best; let go and move forward; you will be doing yourself a big favor!

Answer 7

Okay Sig88, first of all you gotta quit blaming your self you did all you can do you love her the best you could you gave everything you given her !! you didn't do any thing wrong in advance she was the guilty one and still is why else would she break up with you after she done cheated on you hm's!!? do that make sense no cause she was guilty you cant blame your self for **** someone else was response able for you know!!

Answer 8

If she cheated on you she did'nt really love you
If she broke up with you, she didn't really want to be with you
she knows that you love her because you forgave her,
a women like this will easily confuse this with weakness,
but we both know being faithfull to someone is a sign of strength
the pain you feel is betrayal, revenge is the only thing to offset this
but then, love turns to hate then you become what she is,nothing.
Since the ratio of women to men (between the ages 18-44)
is 86 to 1 world wide she probably wasn't the one that the creator
of the universe chose for you in his plan for your future anyway.

Answer 9

Well, all i can say is that go on with your life. I'm not saying that you have to move on and forget her, but just think of the saying that what happened with your relationship is with a reason or purpose. God gave you that trial coz He knows that you can handle that. And maybe He gave it to you so that you will be a person strong enough in such hardest situations you will encounter in your life. For now, you should let your gf go if that what's she wanted. If she's really destined for you, she will be with you no matter what. Just don't rush things. Hope this helped. Goodluck!

Answer 10

It's always horrible when you give your all and the other personal dosen't appreciate it. My advice, learn from this relationship. Next time, don't be too good. Don't spoil your gf. I learn that by being too good doesn't always pay in the end. Have some high standards and always follow them.
To forget about this girl, don't think about the good times. Keep reminding yourself about all the horrible things she did to you. SHE'S NOT WORTH YOU! Go out with friends, have fun. In time, you will think less about her and finally she will be out of your heart.

Answer 11

I'm sorry to hear that man, I've been in a somewhat similar situation.

All I can say is it's not your fault, girls can be just as using as any guy. Take your time, do things for yourself now and when you're ready start making friends, going out and who knows you might meet someone who will be appreciative of what you have to offer