for a vacation we are going on and never brings it up. Should I? Shouldn't she anyways? We are in love, but for some reason this is the one thing that bugs me. If I owed someone $600 I would at least tell the person when I was paying them back. We have been together 6 months. At the onset of the vacation she never mentioned that I would pay for it all, even though it is unspoken that I pay for all the meals. However, on the day of payment I said,"I can pay my part tomorrow." and then proceeded to pay the agent but was told I had to pay for hers too cause they were going fast. So I did with the full expectation that she would pay me back. She even brought it up once at dinner with a joke,"if you eat your vegatables I will pay you back $10 for the trip." and that was 3 weeks ago. I have actually no problem taking all of the cost, but the thing is that is something I wouldn't do, and I don't want to bring it up cause that would make me be the bad guy asking for money.
2006-07-24 17:10:38 · 34 answers · asked by Mr B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just call her on the phone one day and go down a check list of things for the trip and suggest that instead of paying you back she uses the money she owes you as spending money for the teo of you, so she will end up paying for dinners drinks transportation everyhting
2006-07-24 17:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by k 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
XXXXXXXXXXX actually, if I were you I'd bring it up. Right now, if you believe this or not, your relationship is at a stand still because of this situation. You are caught in a sinking hole, and it's like quicksand. The more you fight your thoughts in her presents the harder it will be to trust her to the fullest. The more you take not speaking up the more you will resent her for not paying you back, pretending everything is okay, and promising money when she knows she won't deliver. Is this the kind of girl you want in your life? Someone you can't trust. Someone who has put a dagger in the relationship and not try to do what is the right thing to do. If you are not speaking up because you don't want to ruin the relationship, well let me tell you hun, the relationship is already flickering. The $600 she'd holding over your head will turn into a flame if you don't nip this in the bud soon. Talk to her, if you don't the chip on your shoulder will someday fall off with a bang and it would be worse then than if you solved this problem now. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-24 17:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe what I'm hearing....LOL!!!! You go on vacation and apparently you really don't have the money, so you expect for your girl to pay you back?? Did I hear this correctly??.....Why would you do something for somebody with the ideal that they will owe you later!! If you didn't want to do this then why did you do it?? Honestly I don't think she owes you Anything!! That day y'all had dinner she was only being sarcastic, since you were being the "bad guy", I mean I don't believe in free loading, but some people do, so take this a lesson learned!! Besides if she is your girl money shouldn't be a problem!! And YES!!!...you do have a problem with this or it wouldn't be an issue!! Move On!!!...vacation is over go back to work...lol Never do things only to expect something in return!!
2006-07-24 17:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U said U paid w/the full EXPECTATION of her paying u back. That right there is u'r problem. The issue of who's paying for what should have been discussed long before payment was ever due. Money is always an issue in relationships. My husbands money pays ALL the bills. My money,because I don't make as much as he does, goes to buying groceries, pets food and meds., gas, etc. U and U'r girlfriend really need to sit down and discuss this issue. If she loves u, she will not get mad. Does she even have 600.00 to pay u back?? If so, then i feel she needs to. If she doesn't, well, maybe ya'll shouldn't have taken the trip. Anyway, in the future, the both of u need to discuss finances and who's paying for what before taking vacations or anything else.
P.S. MONEY is a marriage killer!!!!!
2006-07-24 17:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this fester. Come right out with it and tell your gf how you feel and why you feel that way. If you really feel you would like to treat her to this trip do it and move on. If not tell her. These things can be unspoken. They have to be right up front because couple fight about $$$ more than anything else because they do not understand where the other person is coming from. She doesn't understand how you feel. She might think you have given her the gift. She might not have the money. She might be having second thoughts about you. Get it all out in the open right now.
2006-07-24 17:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by davi h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll better off them with out any un-nessasry, Family argument. Once in life you learned a lesson and do not trust anybody when you dealing with money or any other buisness. Friendship and Buissness won't go to gether. I've been screwedup by the Friends a large amount of cash and i let it go. But, not family members and usually family members trying to help one another in generally. You still keep relationship with your brother, but, do not ever deal with the Finance. Money cann't buy people, or family.Try to work it out. I know thei're so many amony fmily members are not talking, angry for some reason and it's hard to erase it. Just let it go.Start a fresh life with your Brother and learn the mistake.
2016-03-16 04:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have written it down as an agreement. She probably has no intention of paying you back so either mention it to her and try to get her to say she owes you in front of witnesses, ask her to sign a contract or just pay for her.
2006-07-24 17:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't have the money to spare off to you. And dont feel like the bad guy... thats quite a bit of money to spend on someone you have been dating for only 6 months. Ask her if she can make little payments to you like once a week or once a month or something like that for the trip. It's not fair to you that you have to pay for the whole entire package.
2006-07-24 17:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a bad sign for future references. I would reconsider her, and think about if you guys are talking about money problems now? What happens when you guys get very serious and start sharing accounts and paying bills. I would most def. have a serious talk with her and let her know you love her and trust her and you are not being a prick to her...but you need to communicate about this problem...or else it might just get worse. Good Luck :o)
2006-07-24 17:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she is the one, then forget about it,don't ask for the money back, because money comes and goes.I'm sure that if you and her stay together, she will,cook, clean, do your laundry,and take care of you. but if you are planing on leaving her then yeah,talk to her about it ,if she still refuses to pay you,then take her to court. one day tape her confessing that she owes you that money and then take her to court , if she doesn't pay you back in a time limit. Good luck
2006-07-24 17:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋