For any one, have you ever been verbally abused by a sibling?

Question

I feel like my brothers are always verbally abusing me. I have tried to tell my parents but they think that it is just them calling me names and that I am over reacting. However, I find myself actually believing them and I am changing who I am so that they will stop. I mean I do things like obbsseive exercising and I am not eat like I used to. Even when I don't eat anything all day, they still call me mean hurtful names and I find myself becoming more afraid of what other people have to think about me. My boyfriend worries about how much weight that I have lost in the last week, about ten pounds in one week. I am almost 6 foot tall and I am about 140 pounds. I don't look fat, but they still call me "a fat lazy *** cow who does nothing." It is everyday that I hear that and all day, I find something else to do so that I am doing something while they are sitting infront of the tv. I do play sports all year long and they say that I don't have anything to do. What should I do? PLEASE HELP!!

Answer 1

Time to GET ANGRY. As a young woman I found that this was the only way for me to not get caught in that 'bad self-image' crap that girls bring upon themselves when others are mean to them. There will always be mean people out there. What stinks is that the mean people in question are your family, and the family home should be the place where you feel most comfortable. But obviously that is not the case here, and you need to GET TOUGH and have a serious sit-down with your parents. Tell them about how this is making you feel badly about yourself, and how you don't think you deserve to feel that way. Get upset, and stick to your guns!!! There's an ugly world out there, and if you let these comments affect you this way, you are opening yourself up to much hurt in the future. GET MAD and don't stand for it!!!

Answer 2

Yes you are being verbally abused. The saying... Boys will be boys is a crock! Also, sibling rivalry should not even come close to being that severe! Your parents need a wake up call. If I were you, I would show them this question and the answers. Maybe then they will see that there is a problem and put your bullying brothers in their place. It's not natural for people to be cruel. It's usually taught. Good luck to you and God bless!

Answer 3

I'm the youngest of 5, so yeah, I feel your pain. Your brothers need a butt-whipping.

Start making notes of every time your brothers pull this crap and what they're doing (or not doing) while they're talking smack. After you get together a collection of notes, go to your parents and DEMAND that they make these brats stop their harassment, or you will talk to a school counselor about getting this harassment stopped. If that doesn't work, go to the police. Seriously, don't be a victim - if no one in that house will help you, make it stop by any legal means necessary. Everyone deserves a chance at peace and respect, and it seems you've earned your right to both. It's time to start collecting it.

Answer 4

When my siblings and I were growing up my parents made it a rule we were never to call each other names. We knew that if we did, we would have to answer to our parents and that was something we didn't look forward to doing so we obeyed their rule. When I had my kids, I applied the same rule as I had when gorwing up, calling each other names was not permitted or tolerated. Talk to your parents again. Tell them that you are disappointed that they allow your brothers to insult and call you names. They may think it's acceptable but how would they feel if your brothers called them these names? Would they over look that and allow it and makes excuses for them? If not, why should they think that you should?

Answer 5

another story of ROTTEN PARENTING! if you had good parenting, all the kids would be friends, loving, supportive, happy with each other and dignified. WHAT A #@*#$@!! SHAME!

your best defense against being constantly tore down is to go to work on your own self esteem and self respect. I'd look into anything you can find about self esteem and codependency which is what you and everyone in the family currently (but unwittingly) suffer with.
look 'em up on google..........good luck

Answer 6

If you have siblings, you have been hurt by them. They don't have any reason to do this to you, other than to feel like they are above someone. 140 at 6 feet tall is very thin. I don't think this is about your weight, or wether or not you are lazy, because clearly what they are saying is not true. It sounds like it is more about them trying to feel good by putting you down. Close your heart to them, listen to your head on this, you know they are wrong.

Answer 7

I am glad you have a boyfriend you can talk to. Your brothers have no right to talk to you that way, and what is worse your parents are ignoring it. FIGHT back and don't let them talk to you that way, You are probably rail thin to be so tall and weigh so little. But they are probably insecure around you, are you taller than they are.

Sibling rivalry or competitiveness is no joke and it can lead to families breaking. It is time to put your foot down and lay down the law.

Answer 8

That only happens on TV. Your family must be really screwed up if they engage in verbal abuse. I never heard of such a thing. You and your family should be ashamed of themselves. You might want to consider running away and joining a "normal" family.

Answer 9

Yes.My sister was horrible to me and used to comment on everything about my appearance.I tried not to say anything for years untill recently when the ***** hit my kid.after that i decided never to talk to her again .
She did that because i didn't say anything for a long time.So in your situation i would fight back.Do not let them see that what they say hurt you.Maybe later in life they will understand but i doubt it.And you really need to talk about it to your parents.

Answer 10

Brothers and sisters say horrible mean things to each other. And if they see they are getting to you they only makes them do it more. Please stop worrying about what they say to you, and realize that there is no truth in it. They are just doing it to drive you crazy.

Good luck.