It doesn't matter if I am one of not, but I cannot stand it when someone asks. If I respond with "I'm not telling you," or "That's kind of private..." most people think I am a virgin and I am trying to make some lame attempt to make them think I want them to wonder. It usually backfires.
I've also tried telling them straight up "no" or "yes", just to see if they'll stop. It doesn't work. If you tell them you are a virgin, they'll ask why I don't want to have sex, why girls don't like me, and stuff. If I tell them I am not a virgin, they ask me to go into explicit explanations of my sexual ventures. I don't even see how discussing virginity is appropriate in any situation-- even with some of your good friends. I find it especially awkward when it is a girl asking me. I just feel a little violated.
I know some people who would post their virginity status on a billboard if they could, but not me.
What's a good response for the "Are you a virgin?" question?
Thanks for your input, guys
2006-07-24 16:39:00 · 22 answers · asked by doubled254 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
In the men's world, consideration for others has two extremes:
You don't care at all, (you come off as a troglodyte)
and on the other end, caring too much. (you come off as weak)
Having the urge to defend yourself from impolite questions is often taken as a sign that you have something to hide. This will make you vulnerable to more questioning.
When it comes to being polite but confident at the same time (to maintain a certain level of respect), it requires careful balance of how much you care about what others think about you.
If the question being asked is silly, rude, or personal, you are entitled to give them back a silly answer, or none at all.
Some people find it entertaining to intimidate other people by asking uncomfortable questions; don't let them get their fill with you. Ignore their probing questions (absent of emotion) and you will successfully rob them of their enjoyment.
Always be wary of firing back to such questions with a rude or personal comment, as you would be lowering yourself to their level of standard. (dirt low)
People who ask personal questions do so because they seek reasoning and justification for their own actions.
Nobody ever said that you had had to help everybody find their own identity, especially inconsiderate and nosey people.
Adopt the attitude of "I'm cool with who I am" and do really be cool and low-keyed about it.
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If you find yourself in situations where you are being constantly asked personal questions, not because they care for your well being, or are genuine interested in your values, it may be time for you to get new friends.
2006-07-25 12:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by DavidDucati 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you've said it doesn't seem to matter what you say; people are going to be nosy whichever way you respond to the question.
Personally, if someone asked me I would base my answer on how much I trusted that person. If they were a good friend that I knew wouldn't judge me, I would say "yes" or "no"...If they questioned that further, I would only respond to the questions I felt comfortable answering then when it got too far I would just be like ,"I don't really like sharing that type of stuff".
If they were someone I didn't know too well, I would say "it's not really any of your business, is it?"...because why would anyone want to share intimate details with just anyone?
2006-07-24 16:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by aveline89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them something just as annoying. "What kind of a virgin?" "Like, you mean, a drink or something?" "I don't know. How can I find out?" "In my heart I'll always be pure, does that make me a virgin?". You know, something that will make them think you are odd. Whatever it takes, and then if they persist you have a lot of cool answers to choose from. Be creative. Of course, you don't really even have to say anything. Or you could try just telling them that that's a really stupid question.
2006-07-24 16:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped answering that question when I entered high school and that's what I tell them. If they ask why I say that it's a double edged sword- damned if I have, damned if I haven't so just consider me damned and move on w/ conversation.
2006-07-24 19:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And does this come up in conversation very often. If someone asks that question, you don't owe them an answer and you can tell them that. Plain and simple.
2006-07-24 16:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha..i often will just keep quiet,smile and walk away..but if they seriously wants me to answer them, i will just ask them does it matter and it doesn't concern you. But if it was a girl asking,i might teased abit and ask "Why, are you looking for a companion tonight?" lolz..so most probably they would go on and talk about other things..yup..that is a diversion
2006-07-24 16:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off anyone who asks a question like that is invading someones privacy as well as displaying their obvious ignorance towards peoples feelings and personal space next time they ask tell them to grow up or ask them if they need a few tips ^^
2006-07-24 16:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by jasonvdklooster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that it's not anyone's business but your own, and furthermore you would like them to keep their business to themselves.
Or tell them you are not so insecure about your sex life that you feel like you have to announce it to everyone. Then walk away.
2006-07-24 16:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a girl say why don't you find out. If its a guy he shouldn't ask the question.
2006-07-27 08:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Toma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋