I am a 17 year old girl and I always get approached by much older men or psychos (threatening to stalk me) anyways...what is wrong with me? I have always been known as the nice, Christian girl with good morals and who is always friendly but shy around those I don't know very well but I laugh a lot smile a lot. My guy friends tell me I am beautiful, which I know isn't true, but I know they think of me more as a sister. I like to do well in school and I really don't enjoy the crazy party scene and I would rather hang out with my friends than drink a lot. There have been opportunities I have had with guys, but I wasn't for sure if they liked me and I was too afraid of rejection so I just let things go. I just get so tired of people asking if I have a boyfriend and then asking why I don't have one, like I have to explain myself. Then I feel that something is wrong with me. Is there something wrong with me? Thanks so much for any advice and God bless!! :)
2006-07-24 16:38:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't really let thier comments get me down. By 17 I was getting approached by much older guys too. It's common in this day and age for sicko's out there to be doing that crap. I can tell by your post that you are a little unsure of yourself right now about your looks. You have faith though, and that counts. Don't ever say you are not beautiful because in God's eyes, a good woman is one who does not adorn her beauty on the outside but her beauty comes from the inside. being meek, modest and such and you seem to have that quality! There is nothing wrong with being without a boyfriend, especially in this decade of diseases. You are playing it smart to me! God has someone special in mind for you. Just wait and see!
2006-07-24 16:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very mature for your age as was I. Actually, you sound a lot like me. When you are mature then you attract older men because they usually think you are older. Most boys your age are not ready to have a relationship with someone of your stature. I know at your age I too wanted a boyfriend. But, it didn't happen until I was 19. And he was a friend that I'd had many years prior. You could have a boyfriend now if you choose to date a much older man as I could have but, you're much to smart for that. This is the perfect time in your life to be alone. You have so many areas you can focus your attention to. Just hang in there. You'll be happy you waited for the one that will make you happy. Until then stay focused and happy. It's the best way to attract anyone. Good luck!
2006-07-24 16:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. The right one has not come along yet thats all. Just have patince and he will come along when you least expect him to. Thats always how it happens. And as far as the old guys coming on to you well that will always happen, and it has nothing to do with you. For some reason older guys think that young cuties are easy, and would actually give them the time of day. They are sickos......Just be yourself and Mr right will happen sooner or later. Stick to your morals (sounds like you have good ones) and it will happen. By the way you are still very young and have the rest of your life to worry about guy issues.
2006-07-24 16:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by tejasred2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman dont worry about having a boyfriend, for God sakes dont fear rejection, that's the man's job (makes up in part for women's pregnacy). there is nothin wrong with you, in fact its good you dont have a BF because we only complicate things. I tell you what, this plan is fool proof (worked on me). Pick the guy you like the most, tell him (dont ask, he might not like it) that you'd like to hang out sometime. Be ambiguous. and be persistant until finally (not after long) he will ask you. But you don't need to tie yourself to him, or anybody, let him know that you are not interested in a "relationship" by talking nicly about other guys periodically. it wont send him for the hills but he'll respect you more (it's because when he believes that you are fragile and can easily be lost, he will respect you as such.
A lot of this depends on the type of guy he is but if he is anything like you, he will take the bait.
good luck
happy hunting
2006-07-24 16:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Brian P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothig wrong with you, You need someone that will love you for who you are, and you cant always be shure if a guy will treat you right, or respect you. Why do you think you are not beautiful? We all think we arn't at some point, but when your special someone tells you, you are he or she means it, and loves you for who you are, and you dont have to explain your self to anyone. Trust in God He will bring the right person along, God Bless you!
2006-07-24 16:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Superman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always want younger women, that's a given. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, and if people have told you that You are beautiful, then boys your age might be intimidated by that. Usually, girls get conceited when they are good looking and smart, both. Hang in there, You don't have to explain yourself, just keep your faith and the right one will come to you.
There is NOTHING wrong with you.
2006-07-24 16:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....I'm 17 too and I feel the same way! I get hit on by guys that have gfs, do drugs, or are carrying emotional baggage from a previous relationship. I have never given out a bad impression of myself, so I don't understand why these type of guys would approach me thinking I'm going to give in to them. I'm confused....
2006-07-24 16:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Curious_Camo_Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 18 and I used to be in the same exact situation.. I now have a 22 yr old amazing boyfriend. Its not you... i'm sure the one for you will come along. The old psychos are just horny and dont care what you think as long as you bang them. Just do your best to ignore them.
2006-07-24 16:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch a DVD called "The Secret" they have their own web-site,by the same name.It states that we are attracting everthing that we get in life,good bad,young old.You need to watch this it is good stuff.There is nothing wrong with you.The right one will find you,he's out there somewhere.Stay good and free God will help you.Don't let lust confuse you.Good Luck and God Bless You!!
2006-07-24 16:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god you sound exactly like one of my best friends. two of my friends asked her out and i am the only one who has not so i kinda can see more insight. she has been pseudo-stalked by one of my other friends, and gets hit on at church by creepy psycho old guys. you have basically described her in describing yourself. almost to the point that i wander if you are her. i cant really give you any advice right now but that is the weirdest coincidence ever. yay spell check!
2006-07-24 16:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by мΛІ€ҢΛр™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋