I need some advice....?

Question

well my dad is a person you really can't talk to without him blowing up. Im not sure if i am pregnant, ill find out tomorrow but if i am witch i think i am, i want to tell him but i don't want him to blow up on me and hate me. Im 17 and i live wit my man and we have a apartment, plus my man has been taking care of me for the last 2 years cuz my parents broke up 2 and a half years ago

I'll be 18 in a couple days and i only have 1 year left of high school so i am going back to finish, since i only have one year left. Why do people gotta hate so much?

well i found out yesterday that i am 7 weeks n 4 days pregnant, i told my dad and he being more supportive then i thought. Thank you everyone for all the advice.

Answer 1

If you have been on your own since 15...your dad has no right to blow up! Just be a better parent then him!

Answer 2

If you are not living with your father, why should you feel apprehended? Your bf has been taking caring of you for the last 2 yrs,which in my opinion , isn't appropriate. You were a baby at 15.I don't know your current maturity level, but sweety, you are too young to be living with another man.You might have a baby.Theres nothing you can do about it except have an abortion.I advice you not to, hon.I dont know what your beliefs are, But I truly believe that everything that happens, is meant to happen.So, go to your father only if you are positive that you are pregnant.Don't be afraid.Pray to God, if you believe in one.Everything will be ok.Once your baby is old enough, you can go back to school and become the best that you can be.There is no such thing as a mistake;what we call mistakes are just simple lessons that we had to learn the HARD way.I wish you lots of luck.Remember, look your father staight in the eye.Tell him the truth.If he blows up, just leave the room.Remember, never let anyone complain about anything that pertains to you if they offer no solution..

Answer 3

Hi Honey! OK, what I am about to say may sound rude, but I promise I don't intend it that way. It's really not any of his business. You have been out of his house for 2 years. You have a man who obviously provides for you and cares enough about you to take care of you. I don' blame you for wanting to tell your dad, but if he gets mad, just say, "Look dad, I just wanted to fill you in because you are my dad,and I wanted to tell before some else did." "I want you to be a part of our lives ( if that is what u want), so I hope you will accept this and respect my decision to have this child". Then go home, he has 9 months to get used to the idea and if he hasn't come around by then or got over being mad, then you probably wouldn't want him around a baby anyway. Good Luck honey!! With everything!

Answer 4

My sister was pregrant when she was 20 and had to break it to our Dad, which is something she feared just like you now.

You've been living with your 'man' for the last two years and your father knows this. It will be hard for him to understand that you are growing up but knowing that he knows you've been living technically on your own he will that much more accepting of the news.

Your parents broke up, your father lost his wife(your mother), and i'm sure the last thing he wants is to do is lose his daughter as well. He will be angry at first just as my Dad was initially upset since he is also a short tempered man. But given some time ... he came to terms with it and I'm pretty sure he'll come to terms with you.

So if you are pregnant... let him know and give him space after.

In the end he will be happy for you and his new grand son/daughter. :)

Answer 5

As a father I would rather know than not know... and "taking care of" doesn't mean commitment. Marriage means social commitment... but if my daughter was pregnant at such a young age I'd never turn her away and insist that she learn to take care of the child if she was going to go through with the pregnancy.

Talk to your father and let him know that you understand that his temper is because he wants you to be a better person - and do NOT respond to anger with anger! That will give him the excuse to get angrier! You need to look at what you are doing and how much this is going to STOP being YOUR life and turn you into a parent.

It's not easy. If you want to be a good parent, then YOU and your "man" come second - EVERYTHING. The child comes first until he or she is old enough to take care of themselves. You are no longer the one who gets taken care of - you take care of and are responsible for a human being. And the choices you make, the way you talk and treat both yourself and people around you - all of that is what that child takes with them for the rest of their life.

Are you ready for this? If you aren't scared, you should be. If you are, then you are at least not stupid. But don't be afraid of your father - be afraid of the person you might turn that child into - good or bad, it's up to you.

Answer 6

Hello, I'm Mrs.Advice
First of all, talk with your man and talk about how you should break it to your dad.
Then together with your dad talk to him gently, like start in on a conversation and then lead to the part of telling him your pregnant. Dont just blurt out and say by the way im having a baby in 9 months, so c ya later dad! Break it to him slow so he doesnt get mad.
Your man will halp you out, hopefully your dad will too, tell him your growing up and becoming an adult and can take of myself and explain to him everything will be ok.
Congrautlations on your new baby (possibly) and I wish you a wonderful life and a happy motherhood, trust me you'll love it, I'm a mother of 5 minors! GOOD LUCK!!!

~Mrs.Advice

Answer 7

The only time I was ever "relieved" that my dad was no longer around was when I got myself pregnant! If you think that things are going to get too volatile if you tell your dad in person then maybe a phone call would be best. I wouldn't take the boyfriend to talk to him that's for sure. If you want to do it in person, I would tell your mom first, and have your mom go with you. Good luck to you. Seventeen is awful young to become a mommy and babies change everything so I hope your relationship is strong enough to withstand the pressure.

Answer 8

If you and your man been doing fine then he really don't have a reason to go off. Your man has been there for you the last 2 years and now you guys are about to start a family. So go ahead and break the news to him so he can blow up and get it out of his system then he can start loving his grandchild.

Answer 9

Hun, I hope you are not preggo. Really it's good and all but you aswell as I are a lil' koo koo. leave with your man at 15. Let me tell you i got married at 15 because my pops caught me doin it with my man in da house. but you shouldn't tripp c'mon your man does support you and all. Sometimes we think that our parents are gonna react in a certain way but c'mon he is your father after all....if he does act up on you leave don't say anything...just walk out and leave. Call him in a couple of days when he has given it a thought i mean you are 17 and preggo. well, i hope you planned this, if you didn't think about it an abortion is bad but i would rather you abort than raise a kid with no father and have a disfunctional family the kid is gonna be raised all traumaticed.... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!! IF ANY THING HIT ME UP. u can get my e mail from my profile

Answer 10

Well Hun my opinion is that your an adult after you hit the age of 17. Sit down with your father explain to him that you are pregnant that's if you are, and that you and your boyfriend will take care and support this child..since no one was really there for you for the past 2 years and you live on your own with your boyfriend there really is nothing your father can do your and adult know girlie so please take the responsibilities that come along with parenthood , I wish you luck sweetie and if your pregnant Congrats..

Answer 11

The journey of a 1000 miles begins with but a single step. You may be embarking on a 1000 mile journey that could make your life difficult for a really long time. Can you afford to marry and raise a family? Is that an option? If it is, GREAT! If it is not, you and your man need to talk. I mean, really talk.