Why are some men lifelong bachelors without kids ?

Question

I have noticed some men never want to date even if girls show interest, never want to father kids, never want a family and are happy to remain lifelong bachelors ? They are not gay either. What percentage of the population do they belong to ?
Any answers ?

Answer 1

I don't know the percentage, but I know a guy that is in his 50's and not married, not kids......he is so particular that he just can't find the right person for him.....it is sad because he is very lonely.....

Answer 2

Lifelong Bachelor

Answer 3

Yes, I believe the fact that some men are asexual could be a factor. But I think the major reason is that this is their preferred life style. They usually have a higher degree of outside interests; can live much more comfortably than if burdened with family expenses; enjoy the finer things of life including restaurant dinning and travel.
This is a matter of choice and does not necessarily mean that they are self centered. There is no obligation to live 'the American life style" that includes a house in the 'burbs, the daily grind of commuting, a wife and two kids, two cars, and being burdened with debt, a mortgage, the elimination of discretionary time to enjoy the finer things of life.
Hey, get off their backs. Live and let live.

Answer 4

I'm friends with a guy like this. I doubt he's gay or anything. He dated girls in college, but hasn't had a girlfriend for quite some time. He is merely content with the way his life is. I have never asked him about why he chose this. In some ways I envy him. His choice to not get married or have kids has given him money most people don't have, so now he owns property in a lucrative market, and travels the world occasionally. He is content with his life without a woman.

Answer 5

Lifelong batchelor sounds bleak. Seriously you'd rather pull a bunch of women that you show little respect to that probably don't care about you either than to settle down and share your life with someone? It's up to you but batchelors to me just look like pathetic womanisers who have to buy attention

Answer 6

They are not either in the closet or impotent.
I have been single all of my life, and I'm 18.
High school relationships are pointless.
Spare me the angst, drama, gossip, and expense of having a girlfriend in high school.
I'm not interested in women until I am ready to get married.
The girl of my dreams has yet to come along, and I'm not going to compromise for less just because society expects males to be sexually active at all times.
I'm waiting to meet the girl I'll marry, then I'll worry about dating.

As to your question:
If you're Christian, you might know that God creates some people to remain alone all of their lives.
However, these people enjoy being alone.. like you said.
Some people just don't want to get married, and that's it.
To each, his own.

Answer 7

I know two of them. They work at the same place I do. Both have hobbies and interests that are time-consuming and enjoyable to them, and so they spend their free time busy with that kind of stuff. I guess you have to enjoy your own company for some stretches of time. But no biggie. Why have kids -- because society tells you it's the thing to do? I see plenty of kids whose parents just had 'em without a thought as to how much time and effort it would take to raise them correctly. So there's my thoughts.

Answer 8

Wimp might be right. Some men, though, don't want to bring more children into this already overpopulated world. Some men don't want the responsibility that goes along with fatherhood. Who knows - maybe they are dating someone, but choose not to "kiss and tell." Some may even prefer to go to hookers, or only like a particular type of girl. It's also a possibility that some are married - and have to be extremely careful who they date - so that it doesn't get publicized.

Answer 9

Does everyone like steak? no. So why do you think every one wants to marry, or worse have kids........... The vast majority of people (some 80% of the normal population -----normal meaning not mentally nor physicially defective) marry, but many of those choose never to have children -- notice CHOOSE.... And may who are parents wish they weren't....

Answer 10

They are just scared of punnany and the idea of being attached. Some people have Avoidant personalities from the detachment issues they have faced in the past, usually in early childhood. We all know someone stuck in a past relationship with fears of starting a new one, while some people just move on.

Personalities can change in these types of men depending on new working models, like getting him to trust could be a big leap forward. But, he probably thinks you'll leave or hurt him because that's what he has experienced. Avoidant men who are rich automatically think women are after them for their money or status. Whether they're gay or not these men have a hard time finding and keeping a stable relationship. The main issue is trust, insecurity, violent and irrationality behavior, irresponsibility, and blame for others. They look for something wrong with the potential mate to create an excuse of their fears of potential pain or sadness.

So, they settle for pornos, jerking off, and receiving head from women or men. All because they are scared they will fall in love with the punnany.

Answer 11

Well Atheists are only 19% likely to become married in the United States. Perhaps the guys you are meeting have small religious backgrounds.