is it stupid to turn my promise ring into my wedding ring? girls only your nicer than the boys for some reason

Question

well i have this beautiful ring from my fiancee that is my promise ring/engaggment ring and i want it to be my wedding ring. my fiancee however thinks we should get a new engaggment ring like a princess cut or something like that and a new wedding ring. hes like "you can of course keep and wear your promise ring but on your right hand. i want to get you a real wedding ring set." so my question is do i let him or do i put my foot down and say i want my promise ring as my wedding ring and thats final? so what do i do? im not a selfish person as some of you might think. my ring is just very imortant to me and i dont want to take it off my left had and replace it with a new ring. ya know?

Answer 1

I understand, but there are a lot of other options here. You could also turn your ring into a bracelet if the stone is big enough, or if it is a smaller ring turn it into a ring for your future child (if you are choosing to have any). Even if it has to come off your finger, it will still have the same meaning and hold the value, it's just that your relationship and your love with each other has grown and changed and having a new ring to represent that just seems right. Good luck!

Answer 2

Why don't you just get a simple band ring (in either white or yellow gold, depending on the metal in your current ring), and wear with your current ring on your left hand. I don't think you're being selfish at all, btw. Tell your fiancee how you feel about your ring, and you really DON'T want to replace it w/another diamond. I know if I had said something like that to MY husband before we were married, he'd have turned cartwheels or something! LOL Just the thought of not having to buy yet another ring would've thrilled him beyond words!! ;-)

I had to edit this, because I had another thought, why don't you take the stone out of your promise ring (assuming it's like a smallish diamond), and use that in a 3 stone setting for an engagement/wedding ring. Since the 3 stones symbolize your past, present and future together, I think it would be highly appropriate. Just another idea, maybe a nice compromise for both of you. Good luck!

Answer 3

It's not stupid, but it's a bit selfish. The guy gave you that ring for a specific purpose, and he wants to give you a wedding ring that he will place on that finger to represent something even more special. Let him do it. Take the promise ring off and after you're married, place it back on with the wedding set. Or...consider having the promise ring turned into a wedding set...with his agreement. Remember...the promise ring was a gift from HIM for a certain purpose...and you accepted it.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with asking him to make the promise ring your wedding ring. He's probably concerned that people might think he's cheap or that he doesn't care about you if he doesn't buy you a nicer ring. Just tell him how much the ring means to you and then put your foot down.

Answer 5

As much as the promise ring is important to you, your wedding ring will be just as important. The promis ring has special meanings for your own reasons but why share that special meaning with your wedding ring. It may sound crazy but you can always still wear your promis ring and if you really must why not find a set that matches it or make a set that matches it and then you can wear all three together.

Answer 6

Well in the first place, your promise ring belonged on your right hand, but! I am not one to judge, as when I got married, I switched over my promise ring to my left because at the time, we couldn't afford the ring I wanted, but a few months past, and my husband insisted I get the traditional wedding ring set...as I did...I say, let your husband get you your rings, it's tough to find a man anyways whom is willing to buy you jewerly now a days, but that is beyond the point, allow him too, it's a beautiful thing to carry both your wedding rings and your promise rings...shows lots of love and commitment from your husband.

Answer 7

I say do what you really want. If you really like your promise ring and think it would mean more to you than a new wedding or engagement ring, I say keep it! Does it have a stone? If it does then he could always just get you a wedding band to wear with it. I think it just depends on what YOU really want. After all, you will be the one wearing it! Just tell him the truth and tell him how you feel. I'm sure he'll understand.

Answer 8

I love the idea of taking your stone out of your promise ring then desinging a new ring using the metal from the promise ring and adding more then adding more stones to make it your wedding band. I also think that your fiance would like to be involved with the designing of the new ring. If nothing else you can melt down the metal from in and make a special pendant to wear around your neck including the diamond that is in it.

Answer 9

I had a vision when I was about 10 about what my wedding ring would look like. I envisioned my birthstone, my husband's birthstone, and the stone for the month we got married. I never told my husband this. I told him I wanted two peridots in it...one for his birthstone and one for the wedding month (both August). I didn't see the ring until he put it on my finger during the ceremony. (I wanted it that way) He had taken the inititive to put MY birthstone on it, too.

Whatever you do, make sure it means something. This is a ring that you will (hopefully) be wearing a very long time.

If you want to work with the promise ring, that would be cool. How about a bridal set that compliments your promise ring? Wear all three!

Answer 10

I think you should keep your promise but on your right hand (as your fiance thinks) because... your new wedding ring that you will get is a new beginning, a new life together it will defiantely have meaning. Your promise ring will always have a meaning, and your new wedding ring will too. Good luck!