i met a girl like a year ago,she was living with her boyfriend since 7 or 8 years ago,in january i started looking at her and she told that their relation was getting to the end,i told her about what i was starting to feel to her and we started to look at each other as more than friends,we didnt had sex,just foreplay,she left this guy a couple of months ago and asked me for time,she needed space for herself,she went to spain like 3 weeks to vacations and when she returned she told me that she wanted to be alone...no boyfriends in her life,she didnt want to feel trapped again in other relation.
i love her,and that hurts me,know we are just like friends,i want to know her better and that she knows me better too.
what can i do?i want her to be with me?i started to think in having like a freelance relation with her,i dont know,i really love her.
every day is the same,i think,i dream with her
i need your help....thank you
2006-07-24 15:48:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not have gotten involved with someone who was involved with someone else.
2006-07-24 15:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very painful thing. Just confront her with the truth, trust me I've been hurt by gys that said they loved me.I know how she feels. Like the only way not to get hurt is not to love. You just need to be gentle with her. Slowly tell her the truth if you have to..just dont make her feel like shes going to be trapped in a relationship again.
2006-07-24 22:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Marines Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect her wishes, also letting her know how you feel and you can not wait forever. Don't make her feel pressured, she just got of a long term relationship and wants to be independent for a while. If you really truly know she is thee one for you, you'll wait. In the mean time you might love other places. Let her know you are always gonna be there for her, and wait if she is worth waiting for.
2006-07-24 22:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by samnygaard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the respect she deserves, sometimes after being in a relationship, you need a break to find yourself again, before you jump into another relationship.
Be patient, quit obsessing, you are only hurting your sanity.
2006-07-24 22:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to her about all of this? that's the best thing to do. and if she really doesn't want a boyfriend, just be her friend and be there for her no matter what. maybe then, when she's ready for a boyfriend again, she'll know that she can count on you.
2006-07-24 22:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE ISN'T INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP. JUST LEAVE HER BE SHE MAY CHANGE HER MIND. DON'T BE PATHETIC. LEAVE HER ALONE. BUGGING HER AND SAYING I LOVE YOU WILL BE A TURN OFF TO HER AT THIS POINT. DO NOT CALL HER OR HAVE ANY CONTACT. GOOD LUCK, LOVE SUCKS SOMETIME. YOU MAY MEET SOMEONE ELSE AND RELIZE YOU NEVER WOULD OF MET HER IF THIS DIDNT HAPPEN. LIFE IS STRANGE.
2006-07-24 23:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her time, she is just getting out of a long relationship. She needs time to find herself again before she can date again. Just continue to be her friend, that's all you can do.
2006-07-24 22:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Its not a bad thing to be just friends. If you love her like you say you do then you'll wait. Let her breath for a while.
2006-07-24 22:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Miss E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't like you than she won't have a problem with you seeing other girls, right! go on a few dates "accidentally" run into her if she is jealous then ask her out if she still says no then question her. some girls love that you like them but they don't like you but also don't want to see you with other girls. she will soon enough say yes.
2006-07-24 22:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by sam I am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her respects her wishes and continue to be there for her as a friend just dont push it or you might just push her away for good.Hey listen love is patient so be that even if you want more be patient see what happens.
2006-07-24 22:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her, than you would want whats best for her. if u love someone, let em go. if it was meant 2 b, she will come back. but you guys can still be good friends.
2006-07-24 22:53:34 · answer #11 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋