My two year old always sleeps in my bed. How can I break her of this habbit.?

Question

I know it's my fault because I let her sleep with me in the first place but I really feel it's time to stop. Please advise.

Answer 1

toddlers need structure and routine-develop a night time routine that you can stick to and it should help her start sleeping in her own bed.

i have 3 little girls 7,5, and 4. although i never had a problem with them climbing into my bed-my 4 year old was ending up in my oldest daughters room at night and i found developing a night time routine worked great at stopping this behavior.

start out by starting the "getting ready for bed" routine at the same time every night. with mine-we start at 7:30p. It's bath time first-letting them play in the tub for about 20 mintues and then it's out and time to get our p.j's on. right after it's time to brush our hair and our teeth. then we all go in my 4 and 5 year olds room (they share) and we "check" for bed bugs-looking in the closet and under the beds and out the window (my youngest loves this). after we've determined that the "bed bugs" have gone to sleep in another person's house, my youngest climbs into her bed w/her teddy bear and i read her a story. then she helps me turn on her night light (make sure you have one of these-fear of sleeping in the dark might be the reason she sleeps with you) and then it's time to pray and go to sleep.

i stick to this routine every night and she has not climbed into her sister's bed since then.

if the routine doesn't help-explain to her that she is a big girl now and that big girls need to sleep in their own "big girl bed". when you catch her climbing into bed with you-immediately remove her and put her back into her bed-this might be hard to first few times-especially if she cries but stick to it-the more persistant you are about not allowing her to do it-the faster she will eventually learn that mom is not going to allow her to sleep in her bed anymore and will accept it.

Answer 2

the best thing we did was go out and buy our first born a tot bed and then let her pick out the sheets, pillow, and pillow case. Then we went home and set it all up real nice for her.

Change the bedtime routine. Pat her back the first week or so and sit next to the bed until she's asleep. Then you can slowly reduce the time you stay in her room at bedtime. If all goes well, she will stay in bed when you tuck her in at night and go right tot sleep. Make sure she naps in her bed too!

Best wishes

Answer 3

Two is getting there. We had our 1st in our bed until she was about 18/24 months. We set up a little bed next to our bed and made that small step. It was tough for a few weeks. Lots of crying and drama, but you have to push through all that. After a few weeks we bought a bedding set of Dora the Explorer and set her up in her own room for the next step. That was a bit more drama fro a few more weeks. Be firm and you will get through it. We were able to move our 2nd baby out when he was about 16 months old with very little drama because we had him sleeping in our daughter's room. They just love to be with each other. Don't be hard on yourself. Having the babies sleep with you is one of the most wonderful things about being a parent. My wife and I miss it. It takes a little time, but pretty soon they love their independence. Enjoy

Answer 4

I have 3 girls and though it will be hard and it will be noisy make her stay in her bed. May sound harsh but she will go to sleep. It may also take a few nights but it will work. you can also put a TV in her room and set the sleep timer on the tv to go off automatically when a favorite movie stops playing.

And as my mom always said... don't start anything that you don't want to continue doing

Answer 5

wow i just went through the same thing with my son. He has slept with us since birth. Its terriably hard and u may even cry sometimes because u feel so bad. If she is in a big girl bed give her a bath, read her a story, and then sit with her till she goes to sleep (may be a while) then every night move farther away until u are out the door. With crib hold her hand and move farther and farther away.

Answer 6

Try watching a movie with her in her room before bedtime. When it get time for her to go to bed, lay next to her until she falls asleep Also buy her a night light that she likes.
Or even let her sleep with a teddy bear and play so music.

Answer 7

try sleeping in her bed until she is asleep. Or develop a ritual for the two of you at night. Such as getting ready for bed, reading a story, listening to a few nursery rhymes, and then being tucked in super tight. My daughter was the same way and adjustment period was rough but we got through it.

Answer 8

One thing I did with my son was that I would lie down with him in his bed until he falls asleep, take a pillow and put one of my nightgowns on it and put it next to him. It worked. Also get a night light

Answer 9

wow that is the number one advice i give to first time parents don't sleep with your children to be honest you might be doomed the best thing would be to cut them off like, make them sleep in their beds no matter what!

Answer 10

You will have to start sleeping in her bed and sneaking out when she is asleep, and leave earlier and earlier until you don't have to get into her bed at all.