My boyfriend and i have been dating for 6 months and our relationship is good for the most part.....but this rather unattractive woman at his work has a HUGE crush on him and will not leave him alone....she even bought him gifts for his birthday...she texts him constantly.....he says he doesnt like her.....we have a long distance relationship, and live one hour apart....we see each other on the weekends only, but talk every night.....what would you do to get her to lay off?? its really getting to me.....
2006-07-24 15:38:58 · 38 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know the girl, and she knows that we are in a relationship....she also says she doesnt like me when she barely knows me...she is an old roomate of one of my best friends....
2006-07-24 15:43:40 · update #1
The worst thing you can do is freak about this.
Listen to me. You need to be confident in your relationship. If you get anxious and worked up and start accusing him of things, it will be the beginning of the end. The best you can do is let him know that you don't appreciate her forwardness, and trust that he will do what is in the best interest of the relationship.
The bottom line here is trust - if you don't trust him around this girl, then you need to find someone else you CAN trust. This isn't about her, it's about his character, and it's about your ability to trust.
2006-07-24 15:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by www.ayntk.blogspot.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This woman is worldly as he is. You are loyal and honest and have higher morals. She is jealous, but sees him as her kind and not yours. She is correct. She sees him easy pic-kin's.
Something is wrong in Denmark sweetie. Is she trying to best you? Does she want your job? Is she trying to get under your skin?
How is she contacting your boyfriend anyway. Is he allowing it? I'm very curious about this channel of communication. Is she calling him after hours?
I suspect this guy is not loyal to you. This is typical of guys who keep long distance relationships. They have control of keeping girlfriends apart.
Sorry, but I see this guy with other women in more than casual relationships. You made a mistake bringing this woman into your circle of personal friends. Maybe the lesson here is for you to keep relationships at work formal and separate from family and friends.
I don't know you, right? You will have a promising career. People will follow you by example. Keep on the path of your aspirations. Focus and sacrifice to achieve in your field of interest. The right man will fall into your lap. You no longer need to pretty yourself up to get a nice looking guy. Just be yourself.
The way I see it. She can have him, they deserve each other.
2006-07-24 16:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's on him.
So either 2 things; he does like her, and you're being conned, or for some reason he feels powerless to stop her. Either way, it's a red flag.
You need to ask him regardless of what you think, does this really bother him? If the answer is yes, then the next question is why aren't you doing anything about it? If the answer is no, well, then you've got a choice to make.
Either way, don't tell him what to do. No matter the outcome, you will lose.
2006-07-24 15:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, you are an hour away. Even if you could. That isn't the wisest choice. This is his turn to prove you wrong. Don't do anything, let him handle the girl alone. Tell him he can do what he wants but he knows it's wrong and let him know you are upset but you shouldn't do anything because the whole overly jealous crap ain't going to work in your favor and also he has a responsibility as your bf to prove you and your insecurities wrong and prove you that you are his only one. You will feel better after when he does it for himself. Good luck!
2006-07-24 15:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are secure in your relationship try not to let it get to you. He should talk to her and tell her about you. He can also ask her not to email or text message him. Gently and straight forward is the best way. No need for hard feelings especially at work. I agree that he should not be accepting anymore gifts from this girl as that sends out mixed signals.
2006-07-24 15:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by saultdebbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is the one that has to handle this. He should return the gifts and not answer her texts. If she doesn't get the message he needs to tell her outright that it is causing problems between the two of you and he would like to keep it a work relationship only.
Make sure your boyfriend knows you trust HIM though and that you appreciate him understanding your feelings and acting on them.
2006-07-24 15:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me i get super jealous, and i take care of the situation asap. i scare the crap out of a girl. like this one girl was hitting on my bf all the time. try to run her leg up his and try to touch him when he was off guard. i got her number and i sent her
THE MOST scary and horrible threatening txt message possible. she rarely ever did anything after that. cuz no matter how much he told her and pushed her away to leave him alone she wouldnt. so then i took care of it. i trusted him but i made her quit fast. and this other girl i know watches what she does, cuz she heard about the last girl.
2006-07-24 15:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Carlino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there; it sounds like your bf needs to tell her politely to cease her pursuit of him; and also that he should return her gifts. Moreover, if he really does not want to have her attention, he should consider changing his telephone number and then NOT give her the new one, as well as discouraging her in other ways. I too have an LDR, I know what its like, its difficult but he has to tell her that he is not interested. If you cant trust him then you have to decide what to do, and you have to do what is best for you. Good Luck.
2006-07-24 15:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by saint7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont stress that this girl has a crush on him, not her fault if he is a cutie. relax because at the end of the day your the girl he is calling and thinking about not her. he is the one that needs to tell this woman to stop, trust in him
2006-07-24 15:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by La Princesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do in that situation is just to ignore it...that's if you really love your BF and you trust him. if you feel that you are secure with ur BF and you know that he will never replace you for that girl who is hitting on him, then there's really no need to worry about that. if another girl is hitting on ur BF, u should just treat it as a compliment....because that only shows that your BF is appealing and u know you picked the right one and they're just jealous of you because you're his lady. you dont have to pick a fight with those girls who hit on your BF bcause u dont want to put yourself in their level. just be cool and collected, and show your BF that he can never find anyone like you again and maybe then he'll value you more. relax girl... you're smart.
2006-07-24 15:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋