What a girl to do..???

Question

Ok i wanna leave my house and go to my 2nd parents house, no relation, what should i do, ive talked to my parents they dont listen im terribly miserable at home, not abusivly, but it feels like it, i cant stand it here, i NEEDA leave, im 13.

Ok a 2nd parent is a person who feels like your parent and that you consider family and can tell and trust them with anything.

Answer 1

You are 13, so I am sure the not listening goes both ways -- and all teenagers are miserable at times and happy at others.

As a Single parent, my two teens have been through these ups and downs -- and what I do not hear here is what YOU are doing to help the situation. Are you disobeying your parent's rules in the house? Hanging around with kids that they don't approve of? Leaving your room a mess or anything else that would aggravate even the most patient parent?

You are NOT ready to leave anywhere -- much less take care of yourself at that age, and can't even get a job. Honey, did you even think how unsafe it is out in the world today (and how many predators are out there looking for girls like you?)

Just saying this for your own good. THINK about your behaviors for once -- and ASK your parents what is bothering them. Most of the time this is because the teen won't follow the parental house rules, and that is for your OWN GOOD.

Answer 2

One thing you didnt mention is WHAT makes you so miserable at your own house ?

My advice is to go to school and do your best, when you get old enough get a work permit , find a job. GO TO SCHOOL !
Save your money. Perhaps work something out with your parents where you can go over to this other persons house on the weekends.

Then there is the question.. As the mother of a 14 year old child, and yes I do say child. Have you really sat down and talked to your parents without yelling screaming , slamming doors ? I am sorry to say but teenagers dont always think before they speak - nor do us adults - but think before you speak , remain calm and nuetral, I am sure you will be suprised.

Perhaps you might get a decent education , some money saved up , your parents (real parents) trust, and when you are an adult you can do what you really want , like move into your "adopted" parents house so you can live by their rules.

Id say if you can not agree with your parents on this , bring a school counsler or other trusted responsible adult in to advocate for you.

Stay in school , keep things cool , and get a job.

Answer 3

Wait a minute here....You are claiming no abuse by your parents, and yet you are miserable?? Sorry but it is time for a freakin wake up call and large dose of reality here. You are 13 years of age, and still legally under your parents guardianship. You have no hardship case (at least none that you have stated), what in the hell are you miserable about. Perhaps this is perception because your parents are not willing to let you get away with the same crap your friends parents let them get away with. Not to say there are not some over controlling parents in the world, but this sounds more like the case of a spoiled brat not getting it her way. Eventually you will grow up and figure out that perhaps your parents are doing you a favor. Until then they are still your parents and they have a legal responsibility to you and your health, and they will make decisions for your life based on that until you are 18. Then you can go about screwing up your own life in any direction you want to.

Answer 4

go to your guidance counselor at school at talk to them. You're 13 and someone else is always "cooler" than your real parents. Trust me it's the age. Stay close with these people who treat you so well however. Throughout school my sister had a guy friend who didn't have the best home life. He would come over our house and eat, talk, and just hang out to get away. He's now 20, calls my parents Mom and Dad, tells my kids to call him Uncle and is a part of our lives and family forever.

Answer 5

Sounds to me the 2nd parent is letting u do what u want or u wouldn't have an issue!!I maybe wrong as I do not know the full story.Can u talk to a councilor or anyone about this?All else fails u must sit down with your parents and tell them how u feel,or write them a letter if u can't sit with them and talk.Your 13,I know u think u know it all and what is best for you.But u need some sort of guidelines,please let us all know how u get on.good luck.Put another message up id u need to hey!!!

Answer 6

Do you have an older sibling or friend you could confide in. Maybe a guidance counselor at school? This would be my first step. Have you tried talking to your parents at all? Do you ever get along with them? Try talking to them. It sounds like they're being overprotective. Let them. They're your parents. Sure, you'll have a life, but with the world and how it is right now I just think they want you to live your life but not grow up too fast. Good luck

Answer 7

That is a tough situation. I wish they would listen to you. It is hard when they won't. But what will leaving solve? This is a situation you need to conquer or you're be dealing with it your whole life. Keep talking, and myabe some day they will grow up and see you as a person instead of a daughter.

Answer 8

tell ur parents how u feel. when i was ur age i went to live with my grandparents for 6 months because i felt the same way.. but parnets will all grow out of this phase..they still percieve u as a child who is just whining at them. wait a couple years and they will start listening better

Answer 9

i am going through a very similar situation. check out my question i posted and see for yourself. i am also 13 going on 14 though. i think i know what you are going through unless it is just normal teenage drama. try going to cps if you are being abused... you could be adopted if neither of your parents care. do you have a reason to be miserable? e mail me and i can help maybe...

Answer 10

have you talked to your "second parents"? if you have a solid reason for hating home, you could always call a councelor, or social worker. they can help you deal, and if a house change is necessary, then they can arrange that.