what can i do to help myself not be so insecure??

Answer 1

When you think something negative about yourself, ask yourself if you are doing all you can to live to your full potential. If you are working towards your goals of becoming a better person all around, of deepening your understanding of life, of learning more about others so that you can help them in THEIR journeys through life, you can remind yourself that you have no reason to feel insecure. Imperfection does NOT mean 'worthlessness'. EVERYone is imperfect, and just because someone is "more perfect" in one respect than you are, you can say that there are areas where you are succeeding and they are failing miserably.

I noticed in your other questions that you are concerned about your weight. Physical appearance is such a temporary and changeable thing. Please, do not base your sense of self-worth in such a fickle thing. I know women who have been beautiful all through their youth, and they have been praised for it. People flocked to them, complimented them, gave them gifts. These women came to expect these things. Now, sliding into middle and old age, gravity and time have taken their toll, and their feelings of self-worth are slipping away with their youthful beauty. If they only realized that if they had taken the time to become beautiful on the inside, their beauty would have remained with them, no matter what their age. But instead, they are left wearing an empty shell. And sadly, they try in vain to patch and polish what's left of their physical appearance to resemble their younger counterparts. Again, please do not let this happen to you.

I liked the suggestion of helping others. It is true. Your life will improve when you live an "other-centred" life of service. Giving selflessly to make the world a better place for those around you DEFINES you as a good person.

Answer 2

O hunny, I have struggled with insecurity forEVER...

For me, it is no joke. This may not apply to you, but I have suffered from depression and alcoholism for years, and I believe much of it is rooted in my insecurity. A few simple key things I have learned (and I share them here CONSTANTLY):

1) I find things to be grateful for in my life, and try my best not to focus on what I DON'T have.

2) I am attempting to LIVE IN TODAY - I have always regretted the past and tried to manipulate the future - meanwhile, the present moment has passed me by. I want to start adjusting myself to what IS, and not try to manipulate people, places, things, events, and situations to suit MY desires. (Yesterday's history, tomorrow's a mystery.)

3) I strive to help others more, without expecting a reward.

4) I have decided to stop chasing happiness and just let it find ME - it's like that butterfly you try to catch - when you chase after it, it's almost impossible to catch, but if you sit down and forget about it, it may just come and land on your shoulder.

This is all hard work, but I am feeling MUCH better about myself and my life lately.

PS: This is all on top of the fact that I have stopped drinking, and I'm taking better care of myself (eating, sleeping, working out again, etc.) - and also I have been PRAYING like CRAZY...

Answer 3

Try helping someone else.

Volunteering to help older folks, handicapped, non-profit groups, or just about anything like that.

This will get your mind off of yourself, be helpful to someone in need, and make you feel better about yourself and who you really are.

Don't ask for pay or expect praise, just do it because you want to.

I started doing this, a couple of years ago, for a wildlife rehabilitation place that cares for wild birds that have been injured.

No, I didn't do medical stuff, just cleaned cages and fed the wild animals and other grunt work.

It helped to perk me up, and feel better about who I am. If nothing else, I learned something new about life.

Answer 4

Seek God's help. Dwell into his words by reading the bible and seek guidance from him. Ask him for wisdom to overcome this stronghold. Break the soul tie in his name. Amen. Just draw closer to JESUS. Its an invitation! Ask you shall be given, seek you shall find, knock the door shall open to you. [Matthew 7:7]

Answer 5

chicka, ur hott! dont let the bitches get u down. their just jealous that u look better than them. when u look in the mirror, focus on the things that u like, not the things that u dont like. everybody feels insecure at times, but you just have to tell urself that you are beautiful. and dont just say that ur beautiful, believe it too.

Answer 6

Believe in yourself, and your good qualities. Spend time with those who have similar interests, and don't hesitate to participate in fun activities but enjoy the challenges and gathering of great friends.

Answer 7

believe in yourself and tell yourself you beautifal and forget what other people say about you cuz usually they are just trying to bring you down so brighten up and feel good about yourself

Answer 8

Wow girl your really beautiful ..... you should not have this problem at all sweet heart