Obviously my mom has had a bad day at work, she came home crying [something she normally, or has never done] and I asked her what was wrong, and also let her know that if she wanted to talk, im here to listen, and im not going to force it out of her. She left for like 3-4 hours earlier and now she wont tell me where she has been and when i asked she just said "what difference does it make?" I dont know what I should say to her to put her in a better mood, and she has never done this before. I know shes not sneaking around or anything, but she is still crying.
2006-07-24 14:59:42 · 15 answers · asked by sarah :] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks for all the help, but she can't get fired either because she is manager and partial owner of a wholesale flower business. i cleaned the house before she got home from wherever she went, and we have a really close relationship. she won't answer the phone when anyone calls, and she has already taken a shower.
2006-07-24 15:10:42 · update #1
Its ok, she just got fired from her job.
2006-07-24 15:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it is distressing for you but you may not be able as you would like to put her in a better mood straight away but your comfort and support will help especially when she realises what a caring wonderful child she has raised. Its hard when you realise that your parents are humans just like you with their own lives that do not always go right. But just as your ups and downs are helped by knowing that there is quiet support at home whatever happens, so it is for your mom. Being calm, sympathetic and strong will help both of you, and maybe when she feels a little better she will be able to share with you what the problem is. Try not to worry too much it will be of no help to either of you if you try and take on her burdens for her. She's got a lot going for her...after all having a child that cares so much for her is a reflection on her as well as yourself.
2006-07-24 15:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by uplate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful kid. Make your mom a cup of tea or hot chocolate (something she'll like). Maybe straighten up the kitchen or do a chore to lighten her load tonight. Give her some alone time. If she's still terribly upset, call her sister/brother/best friend and ask them if they can call her. Tell them she's very upset and that you don't know what's wrong and that you're worried about her. It may be that she's just very, very tired... and just needs a bit of time. If the crying doesn't stop within an hour, call someone she trusts (and you trust). And, hey, take care of yourself. You're a good kid.
2006-07-24 15:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard for parents to dump on their kids when they have problems.
Just give her a hug, tell her you love her (which you obviously do...what a great kid you are), and give her some time.
See what you can do on your own to help out around the house to give her a bit of a break from her normal routine.
Let her come to you. You already offered, so you just kinda have to wait for her to take you up on the invitation.
Just realize that in her eyes, you are her responsibility, not the other way around.
2006-07-24 15:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relize that adults have problems that kids don't have wisdom about. This is the perfect opportunity to just sit back listen and run some bath water. Nice warm water with some sea salt *or table* and how about some herbs from your mom's kitchen? Cinnomen can be a nice touch along with some candles and soft music. Tell her you love her and your there for her no matter what!
2006-07-24 15:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jennilee H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is try to be as supportive as possible. That is all anyone can do. Offer a chance for your mother to talk, listen, and try to soothe the problem. If she won't talk, just wait until she calms down inside. Parents deal with a lot of stress and sometimes it is unbearable. Relationships hurt, work gets on our nerves, friends upset us, regular stress affects us. Be supportive, back off if she insists, but do try. Good luck.
2006-07-24 15:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u can tell her u love her show her that u care bye hugging her not really asking her whats wrong that some times tends to make it hurt more just tell her u love her and maybe make her dinner or take her out something fun
2006-07-24 15:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by meow! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk. try not to ask her too much. give her a hug and try to get her mind off of it. if she walks away maybe she needs some space. of course sometimes a card helps cheer things up. maybe she had a b/f who left her or someone close to her at work died? just give her comfort and let her know that you are there
2006-07-24 15:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by darkness_follows2death 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've extended the invitation to talk, but you'll have to step back and let her accept it.
I don't want to speculate on what happened, but it's a tough job market out there, and.....well, she could be looking for another job soon, if my initial guess is correct.
Good luck to you and your mom whatever the case may be, and I hope you get to talk.
2006-07-24 15:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by wheezer_april_4th_1966 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space. Obviously, she doesn't want to spill the beans right away. Wait until she feels better to talk to her.
2006-07-24 15:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell he that you are really concerned, but that you respect her needs therefore you will give her space but reassure her that you love her and that you will be waiting for when she is ready to talk.
2006-07-24 15:07:45 · answer #11 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋