i ran into my ex last weekend and ive been thinking about him, so i was going to send him a message on myspace, but all the hurt feelings came back up when i was looking at his pictures. Its been about 8 months since it ended...and i moved hours away. how do i move on without dragging old feelings in my new relaitionship? (not that i have one or anything)
2006-07-24 14:56:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get with someone else
2006-07-24 14:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by casheye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, the first thing that came to my mind when i started reading this was this quote from The O.C.
Summer: The more time i spend with zach, the less times i think about ... God, what's his face? Built like a bean pole, curly hair, runs away like a little ***** on his sailboat, leaving nothing but a note for his girlfriend who cried over and over for him until the Fourth of July until she decides she doesn't cry over bitches on sailboats.
Marissa: Seth. his name. It's seth.
Summer: I know. I'm just doing this thing were I pretend I don't and I have to use a lot of descriptive insults to give voice to my inner pain.
So it helps to have that great friend that is always by your side that you can say anything to. Just hang out with her one day and get really mad talking about him, and say everything that you feel, then you and your friend can go to the spa and relax. It will make you feel alot better.
Then move on, there are so many other guys out there. It doesn't mean that you need to get into a serious relationship. That just means that you should meet other guys, go to the mall, or a bar or something.
2006-07-24 15:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by kdancergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship ended there must have been a reason. It's hard but try not to dwell on things in the past. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Focus on that instead. It's okay to be sad and hurt. I personally wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing that he's still messing with your head, heart, and feelings after 8 months. You'll be surprised how easily forgettable he is when you do meet someone else.
2006-07-24 15:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. Yeah I know that answer sucks but its true. Only time and understanding that what you guys had just didn't work out will be the only way of getting over it. The best advice I can give you is just remind yourself in the next relationship that this is new and this person is different so give them a try and a fresh start. Relationships are like wounds....don't wounds take time to heal? So do your feelings.
2006-07-24 15:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by D-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay away from any mutual friends because you'll either start hearing things about him or be tempted to ask for him and that will never help get over him. What I've done in the past is stay away and go out with friends, meet new people. Who knows, maybe you'll meet a new guy that you have things in common with and finally forget about your ex. Good luck!
2006-07-24 15:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by jestelap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used alcohol, but i am Irish and yes I was an alcoholic, well I guess I still am, but I don't drink anymore.. Anyway it worked.. The worst thing you could do is find another partner.. Take some time and get to know yourself.. Explore the world a little bit, have some fun, go on a trip by yourself.. I did all these things too, but I drank while I was doing them.. And yes, it was fun..
2006-07-24 15:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy getting ove with soomeone you love..if it still hurt obviously you're not over him yet..but then, ask yourself till when are you going to elt yourself feel that way...its' either you move on or stop there...you've been keep it for quite some time now..let it out just one last time then move on with your life..send him a message if you want...if there's a chance talk it out with him if he's willing, if he's not, then, let go and deal with it on your own :) loving someone and losing feels like losing a part of you too and its the last thing we want to feel..but when you love someone, u take the risks..and hurt is just one of the them :) there's no easy way to mend a broken heart but you have to let go and move for yourself not for anyone else's..for your happiness.. u deserve to be happy after all the loving and the losing, give yourself a break..breathe...and start having a life :)
2006-07-24 15:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think of him. Think bad things and it will go away. People come and go into our lives all the time. It is a time and season. Just deal with the fact that no one stays with us forever. Try to do things that keep your mind alive on healthy things and not on a loser. After all he did hurt you, why would you think of him. Do you enjoy pain?
2006-07-24 15:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by preferablyyoung 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and don't do anything desperate, foolish or anything Shannon Doroughty would do (or Paris Hilton for that matter). Keep busy and get started on all those things you put off to be with him (or cry over him or call him and hang up). And cling to friends (they'll get over it). GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-07-24 15:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait it out; you WILL have feelings for him for a while and thats okay, it's normal, but don't try to cover it up with another relationship, it only makes things worse. For every month that you have been dating him will be a week to get over him. Sorry
2006-07-24 14:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by kylie renea w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't write him for the next 2 years. Burn all the pictures and don't have a bf until someone sweeps you off your feet.
2006-07-24 14:58:51 · answer #11 · answered by Masood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋