I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. I love him with all my heart. An old flame has come back into the picture now...and I can't get him off my mind. He meant a lot to me and I know I did to him. Our situatuions were hard at the time. I am stuck now and need a little advice. Anyone?
2006-07-24 14:37:57 · 15 answers · asked by latinluvly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look if you're in a good realtionship with the 7 yrs. dont leave...you'd be a fool to pursue something that's over 7yrs old...
2006-07-24 14:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by klee0926 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, hold on a sec.
1. Your "Ex" is an "Ex" because at some point you didn't want to be together any more....don't romanticize that past just cuz he's back sniffing around.
and the biggie....
2. Why are you still dating a guy after 7 years? how old are you? a 7 year courtship? You should seriously investigate why neither of you (or one of you) have not made a real commitment yet... hmmm.....7 years...that's a long test of the waters (or milking of the cow...)
2006-07-24 15:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Stormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there had to be a reason that u guys broke up in the first place. there also has to be a reason that u have been with your boyfriend for 7 years u must have a reason for being with him. there has to be something there or else u would have left a long time ago. hang in there and find out why this other person came back he might not want u as any thing else but a friend. everything will turn out the way it is supposed to
2006-07-24 14:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is be verry careful.. I would give it a lot of time to see how things work out. The passion of an old flame is a very strong thing and it can be very impulsive too. Tread slowly and don't burn your bridges behind you.
He may have changed in ways that are not appealing to you and you might not find out until it's too late.
It's gonna stir up alot of emotion in you, as you already know. Just give the novelty some time to see if it wears off.
2006-07-24 14:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by miso1cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it Lady! A bird in hand is better than two birds in the bush. At this point you know what you have and if you truly love him; honor him with your faithfulness. Besides, people change and you might find that, that old fond memory has changed into something you wouldn't desire. What happens if you ruin a good thing for a unsavory roll in the hay?
2006-07-24 14:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the guy of seven years. That is so disrespectful to lust after another man after this guy has invested seven years into you. Sounds like you need to spend some time alone to figure out what you want. I think you're just afraid to be alone; it's not fair to use these guys as hobbies. If you really care about your man, let him go or forget all about your ex. Remember--they're exes for a reason.
2006-07-24 14:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence...are you willing to risk losing a 7 year relationship over a guy you don't even know if he wants you back or not? Chances are pretty good you'll end up with NEITHER guy...
2006-07-24 15:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously considering this old flame, then you don't truly love your boyfriend of 7 years. If you were in love with your boyfriend, this old flame could not come between that.
2006-07-24 14:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by candace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love your b.f or you wouldn't be asking this question, You sound like one of those girls that can really change the life of a nice guy just for some sex. don't do it, biiig mistake. been there done that
2006-07-24 14:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by class4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drcide which one you love the most, and don't want to betray. Then marry that one. Forget the other one.
2006-07-24 14:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋