am i weirdo or not?

Question

i've got a big problem of always putting people's feelings first, i forget about my happiness and what i want. i'm just a normal guy but i think i'm very weird in a way. first people say i'm too serious for my age, cause i'm always thinking beyond the normal things, especially when it comes to the topic of love. get into my room you could only here love songs, on my files i've got inspiring words about love. i've been hurt a lot by love so much that i've grew fond on the subject of it? am i a freak or what?

Answer 1

If we were all the same, the world would be a cack place to live. Everyone is different and unique.

Most people have been hurt in love in the past, it's the lucky few who don't. But if you never made mistakes, you'd never learn.

I also am sometimes told I'm too serious. It's important to listen to those who care for you, they aren't out to hurt you, even though it may seem like that at the time.

Life's a big challenge, and it is what you make of it, how you treat others and your happiness that ultimately makes life rewarding.

Answer 2

Your not weird, you're artistic and creative (invest in a talent maybe art or poetry- which is what i did- or a writer who writes about the trials and tribulations of love?) and from what it sounds, you are very connected with your feelings, ignore these people they probably don't get relationships anyway but girl's will tell you they like that in a guy deep down, they may want a bad boy but only for protection and the challenge to change him. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Some people are very mature for their age it's nothing to worry about its how you are and how you were born!

The probable reason for your sensitivity is you being hurt so much so you consider other peoples thoughts, be careful because you can ignore your happiness and that isn't healthy for you. Even if you are weird there's nothing wrong with that! You push the boundaries and are yourself. If you changed you wouldn't be thinking of yourself nor being happy or being you! You have a nice nature alot of people would die for their partner to be, you being mature for your age would attract alot more girls because most guys are 4 years behind girls for maturity. Be yourself and be comfortable with you.

But on another level you are naive with love and you learn as you grow old, you learn from hurt and this is why you keep giving and not taking maybe you'll grow out of it in time but if you dont, well theres nothing wrong with that you just have to say no. I can be like that but I've learnt not to let people to tread all over me its something I think everyone has to learn I'm exactly how you describe though, the difference is I can switch it off...well not control but with my moods, but you have to think that love is when you give and take emotions and feelings.

Answer 3

It worked for Shakespeare my friend and I believe he made quite a good living out of it :-)

In the way people are fascinated by natural disasters or aeroplane crashes you seem to be fascinated by disasters of the heart and to be fair it's a bit more interesting than obsessing about football transfers. Even so, it will scare the **** out of any girls you get involved with. It's not that you are weird just a little intense maybe?

I'd start adding something a bit more credible to your CD collection - Oasis, the Kooks, Kaiser Chief etc- just for varieties sake. Try to give a less romantic persona when you do get a girl. Let the romantic in you uncover gradually. And if you feel like penning a play or two remember to give me a mention in the acknowledgements!

Answer 4

I totaly understand you.

I do the same thing, i always have to make sure the other person is okay and feeling fine, i don't care about my own feelings It aint till they have hurt me till i think about my own feelings.

On the subject of love, would you do anything just to have someone love you? the same way as you would love them?

My problem is, i left people get close to me, i start to care alot about them, would do anything for them, then it all breaks down, and it does not matter how i feel cause they don't give a dam.. same for you?

But i think we learn from our mistakes.. and i think you will too, you have to start putting yourself first, as well as thinking about their feelings also think about yours, and don't rush into things really quick, or give into them too easyly cause then they know they can just walk all over you and hurt you as much as they like or even use you.

I don't think your a freak, if your a freak then I must be one, and i don't think I am lol.

Its really cute that your listen to love songs :) love songs are nice..Im sorry if all i said does not help, or you do not understand. :P

Answer 5

Love is just a feeling of attachment to the other person. After getting hurts, you still have to mood to love? Think you just want a replacement for the love you had just lost. You are not a freak but only crazy for love.

Answer 6

no ur not. ur just a guy wiser beyond his years in the subject of love. u sound like a really sensitive, sweet, and caring guy, a guy that i wouldnt ever mind dating, knowing that u would at least be more caring than any other guy i have seen, and maybe the most trustworthy. but sadly i cant do that. cuz i have someone that sounds as sweet as u.

Answer 7

nah..think its called co-dependency. You judge yourself by person you with and how happy they are therefore always put them before yourself. Many ppl like that...not too good tho cos you'll always end up unhappy or hurt. And just give more next time. Bad cycle..kill the snake by loving urself 1st...yes i'm a guy..no i'm not gay.

Answer 8

Write some songs or poetry or become a marriage councilor , you might even someday write that book on relationships everyone needs to read.

Answer 9

nah sensitivity is a great quality in a guy and as for being more serious for your age that makes it nice to know that there are some mature guys in this world

Answer 10

yes your weird weirdo ,