She goes #1 in the potty and #2 in her pants. I don't know what to do. Her doctor says it is normal with some kids. I have 2 older daughters who have never had this problem. She starts Kindergarden in 3 weeks. I'm very worried about this. Anyone have any suggestions?
2006-07-24 14:28:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My oldest son peed in the potty by age 3, but continued to have BM's in his pants until he was 6 years old. (Though he is autistic) The doctor suggested we give him laxatives every day at the same time, and time how long it took for him to poop after receiving the laxative. It took approx, 4 hours. The next day, we gave him the laxative, and after about 3 1/2 hours we set him on the toilet, and we read books until he had to go. He went in the toilet...Yippee! He got hugs and kisses, and high fives and a new hot wheels car. We did this every day for a week. By the end of the week he would go by himself. We stopped giving him laxatives after about 8 days, (Doctor said they where safe to use for up to a month, without a dependency). In our sons case he truly was chronically constipated. After we got him regulated, we made sure he got extra vitamin C & Magnesium daily. (per doctors orders) That helped keep his poop soft and eaiser to pass.
2006-07-24 16:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't personal have this problem but my niece did. She was fine with peeing on the potty but #2 she wouldn't do it up until a month before Kindergarten. We did a reward program with her everyday she didn't go in her pants. We would give her something to get her ready for kindergarten. One day she would get crayons, next pencils, etc. After a whole week she got her backpack. She never had any accidents after that and was getting ready for school. Another idea if you have already done the school shopping is have her pick out a toy or something at a dollar store everyday she goes on the potty. And friendly reminders through out the day help a lot. "You're doing a good job today, don't forget when you have to go potty let me know so we can get you to the bathroom so you can continue earning your prizes to get ready for school" Good Luck
2006-07-28 13:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by kay2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little brother is 9 years old and still has accidents weekly. We've talked to lots of doctors about this, and even had him in a couple times. She could possibly have something wrong with her "poop muscles." Have her sit on the potty and blow up a balloon at the same time. Blowing up a balloon works those muscles. Another thing we tried with Logan was giving him a laxative/fiber pill and then sitting him on the potty until he went. Make it comfy in there for her- books, food, we even put a TV in the bathroom for Logan! With those laxatives it should come right out , and when it does- give her praise like there's no tomorrow! Does she have a problem actually going? It could just be a phase that she'll grow out of. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 22:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO do not smack her for that! (as somene suggested). My son was around 5 before he stopped it completely. Does your daughter ever have constipation issues? If so, try sennakot or senna tablets. They are natural stool softeners that help when they have to go. At first this may be more of a mess to clean as you adjust the amound she needs (my son took 1 tablet every night before bed and pottied in the morning. But take her potty every 1/2 hour during the time she usually deficates. If there has been constipation and painful bowel movements, she could be scared to go on the toilet as it "may hurt". You have to have it not hurt for a while to forget that it did hurt and then get her to go on the toilet again. Semi-long process, but worth it in the end.
2006-07-25 07:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had the same problem and we happened to have him in for a check up and we got the PA instead of our regular doctor, who also told us that there was nothing wrong, and she told us that he had a really common problem with children. He was having trouble completely emptying his lower intestines. She prescribed Miralax for him it is a special kind of laxative that is non habit forming and has none of the side effects that come with regular laxatives like loose stools and cramps. The Miralax is mixed with any beverage morning and night and within a few days the accidents stopped altogether. In a few months his body was retrained to know when and how much to go and no longer needed the meds. We mixed the Miralax with chocolate milk in the morning and made a small milkshake in the evening so it seemed like a special treat, (we gave our other children the same treat without the meds so he wasn't singled out). The difference in this child is amazing we had no idea how much the condition was bothering him. Good Luck, please don't punished her I so wish someone had told me this before we tried all the behavioral things there were so hard on him making him feel this was his fault.
2006-07-24 23:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by G-Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husbands niece had this same problem first of all alert the kindergarten teacher of this even though they will not help you with it she will be ready next send extra clothes to school with her and tell her that if she doesn't poo in her pants for the whole week she gets to pick where to eat that night or on sat she will out grow this but it does take a long while and be ready because the school will call you to come and get her when this happens but what my sister in law did was took extra clothes and changed her cleaned her up and she was able to stay at school you may also want to talk to her and tell her that some of the other kids could end up making fun of her and she also may not even know that she is doing it until to late that she thinks she may just have a little gas and surprise good luck
2006-07-24 21:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my son did that too. He stopped wearing diapers when he was about 4, but put on diapers for #2.
We tried everything, making him sit in the toilet (also potty), but he still went for the diapers.
Finally we got rid of the diapers and made him sit (no more problems with that)
Never knew why he would only do #1 and not #2..
2006-07-25 13:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok apparently people answer for points not to help.... my son is about to be 4 in september and for a really long time he wouldn't go potty at all on the toilet (he started when he was 2 and a half and stopped a few times) and all of the sudden in the last few weeks he's been peeing on the potty because i told him he could have a popsicle everytime he pees in the toilet. not the popsicles on sticks or you'll have a mess on your hands, the ones in the plastic sleeve you freeze at home. then when he was peeing like 5 times a day i would let him be the one to remind me of the popsicles. he still pees in the toilet all day but only remembers popsicles once or twice. he is starting to poop in the toilet too because i told him he gets a different prize each time he goes. sometimes an ice cream bar, sometimes a quarter so he can get a prize out of themachines at walmart, sometimes a hotwheel. that way he wants to go so he can see what he gets next. start out offering her popsicles or quarters. you just have to find out what she wants bad enough to poop in the toilet for. it took me almost a year and a half.
2006-07-24 21:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by i_left_my_mind_with_the_baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends don is six and still does that
sometimes it just isnt a proirity for them... she will definately get it sooner or later
as stressful as it may be try not to worry over it
start a chart up
what is her favourite character?
eg. if it is the wiggles start a wiggles chart... everytime dorothy goes to the toilet she gets a flower stamp and when she gets 3 stamps she gets a prize then build it up to 5 stamp, 10 stamps.... keep the tagets small so she can receive the award soon so she doesnt lose interest
get so excited when she does the right thing and dont make a big dea l if she messes up.... she will love to please and when she can she such "overexcitement" from you she will love it...
good luck darling x
2006-07-24 21:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remind her to remember to go to the bathroom when that feeling arrives (like when in #1). Many children get caught up in their activities and ignore their bodies' warnings. About your older daughters. They are not her.....she is herself and she is presently having this problem. I'll say by the middle of the school year (or sooner) the problem will subside.
2006-07-24 22:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by emplifeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋