Yesterday I saw my boyfriend hanging out with another girl. He has a few chick friends, so I didn't think much of it. They were sitting on his front porch and as they went in his house she put her hand on his waist and they kissed. It was just a peck on the lips but how could he kiss another girl? I don't want to break up, what should I do?
2006-07-24 14:23:32 · 24 answers · asked by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, wow. You shouldn't let him do this to you at all! Well, if she's the type of girl who just does this to every guy and one of them happened to be your boyfriend and he didn't really kiss back then it's not as bad. But that's not what is sounds like.
Boyfriends do like to flirt with girls to see how their girlfriends react. Just like us girls do. We always want someone to be a little jealous because it makes us feel special. But kissing some chick is wayyy to much.
If he was the least bit worth your time he should have atleast pushed her away or said something like, "I have a girlfriend."
I had a recent experience similar to this, when one of my 'friends' always tryed to hook up with my boyfriend behind my back. She would try to hold his hand and make him kiss her and try to get him to sit with her instead of me. Luckily, I had a nice guy who told her he was with me and she should know that he was off limits.
My opinion is that you should give this guy one more chance, that is if he didn't do this before. If so, throw him out. If this is the frist incidint like this, tell him you don't deserve a boyfriend who's okay with another girl to kiss him. I doubt he'd like it if you let some other dude kiss you, even if it was just a peck. Besides, the type of kiss doesn't matter. What matters is that it was a kiss in the first place.
If he can't respect you then find someone who will. Behind all the jerks are some good ones. I don't think your boyfriend is a jerk.. yet. It could have just been an innocent thing that he doesn't even remember or care about. But if he keeps it up and does this kind of stuff then he is a jerk. A big one. Who doesn't deserve a girlfriend.
2006-07-24 18:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie,
You are only hurting urself! If u let him stay, ur opening doors so he can make more mistakes because he knows for sure you will take him back. Theres a quote that says " you can continue to compare her to others, You can continue to use her when u need her, you can coninue to hurt her because u know for sure you'll take him back...but one day she'll open her eyes and realize what she deserves," and u deserve better than that sweetie! C'mon...look at you! I think ur gorgeous, and not only can u get any guy, but u can get a guy that will treat u the way u deserve to be treated! I dont even know u, and I know ur a nice, loving girl. And u deserve a guy that will feel lucky to have u and special to be with you. Sweetie...as hard as it is...u need to let him go! And I know u are probably not gonna listen to me cus Im just a stranger and maybe I dont known the whole story behind this, but I was sort of in the same position...and turns out, the strangers were right. "LET HIM GO." theres someone better out there 4 u!
2006-07-24 14:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you could do a background check on what's goin on first before you confront him. Like ask friends if they know if anything is going on...then confront him. That way you'll get a rough idea what's going on and he can't hide or cover his tracks later. Before confronting you may want to just keep a watchful eye on what they're doing...it's not spying...it's called protecting your interests! That way you would have built up legit evidence before confronting him. Then you can see whether you wanna break up with him or not. Good luck!
2006-07-25 08:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by twisted_goddess_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are hot ( I dont meen that in a lezbo way) you could have any guy you wanted, but if thats not what you want, I would try to talk it out with him... If he lie kick him in the but an dump him like your old trash, if he says he wont do it agin give him another chance. But if he dose it agin, well you know. Boys are like shoes girl you can get a new pair, lol. God bless hun
2006-07-24 14:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him treat you like this...if you are going out you should be the only one hes kissing if you guys dont kiss yet he has to deal with it or not be with you.. imean if he likes you or loves you that much he shouldnt betray you that way its just wrong....first confront him and if he does it again break up with him he needs to learn that you want respect from him and if you dont get it then you wont let him walk all over you...both of you need to give each other respect!! thats how to have a good relationship
2006-07-24 14:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him, first. No relationship will ever work if you don't trust each other, so have an honest conversation, and try not to jump to any conclusions. Chances are that it was the chick who initiated the physical contact, so if you're going to confront any one, might be her.
2006-07-24 14:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Blissbug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they r "just friends" it shouldnt mean too much. but it might to her... so tell him ur uncomfortable with him even pecking his 'friends' because u dont want them to think more of it. if hes not in aggreement with that i would think twice on the not breaking up thing, good luck =P
2006-07-24 14:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in a my man having a lot of females friends, do he kiss all of his females friends? Kiss your male friends let him see how that feels. Good Luck
2006-07-24 14:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. Now. Ask him how would he feel to see you kissing another guy even in friendship. You need to make your boundaries VERY clear on this.
2006-07-24 14:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either break up with him or accept the fact he is kissing other girls and possibly more.
2006-07-24 14:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋