is he done with me??

Question

My bf doesn’t call me the way I want him to call me? like today I called him this morning and I talk to him, and I seen him spend the day with him, and I want him to call and say I miss u or see what’s happening what are u doing??? He doesn’t do that. I don’t want to keep calling him and sound all dispirit which I am really?? What should I do I am in love with him so much. At first I didn’t love him he try so hard to get me and to even get my number and he use to call me all the time, when ever I was around him he would not keep his hands of me know it is the other way around, I am scare that he might leave me, but again he talks about as moving in together, having kids together. How can I make him love me again I worry about this so much…….. What should I do I need details step by step please

Answer 1

First of all, you should make sure, if its really love or just infatuation. Like ask yourself if it's really love or not, because he seems like he isn't feeling the same way. Be careful because you said that he couldn't stop getting his hands off of you, that could mean that he's only interested in you for the pleasure. Did he used to tell you that he missed you and everything? You shouldn't be in a relationship where you're always scared that he might leave you, because that shows that he isn't showing you real love, care, and trust back to you.

If it really worries you about what to do, and are afraid, you should talk to him. And ask him for real what's up and if he means what he says. Be sure not to be fooled ok? He could be telling lies, as hard as it is to accept it, it could be unreal. I trust that you can judge for youself if he's being true or not. Be sure not to get hurt ok? But you deserve better if he's causing you stress and confusion. Be strong and dont' always depend on him. And remember, that there is brighter things that you can see yet. Good luck!

Answer 2

For us guys, sometimes is hard to keep the fire burning. Come up with beautiful words to say, that at the same time should sound sincere and from the heart.

He may feel he has nothing to say, that you already know his feelings for you. Has he back down from the idea of moving in together? If not, you can work around that idea to re ignite the spark. Does he seems absent or in bad mood when he visits you?

Tell him what you are feeling, ask him if there is anything wrong? If he has any problems he has not talk to you about, let him remember you are there for him. Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all step back and take a deep breath. It sounds like he needs some space. At first when he couldn't get you you were a challenge and he wanted you bad, right??? Now that you are available 24/7 he has lost some interest ,right???
You have to find some kind of happy medium between needing him all of the time and him not needing you enough.
I honestly think if you loosen up your grip he may come back closer in. Kind of like fishing...
I understand that you are afraid that now that you are all in love and stuff that he may want to leave. You need to back up a little and give him some space or he may very well leave due to suffocation.
Find some other things that do not involve him to take up some of your time and let him breathe. It will improve your self esteem and give him some room to breathe and hopefully bring you closer together.
Plus if your whole life is only about him you may become boring and loose yourself. You need to remain strong and have interests outside of his world to become a whole person.

Answer 4

He may not call because he doesn't want to have to everything you want. If you spend the day with him, then there shouldn't be a reason to talk anymore unless he keeps to himself. You might be desperate or unsure of his love if you have to keep calling him. Maybe you're just worried about not getting married. Maybe you got so use to him calling that you're not use to him being secure enough now to stop doing that. He must be secure with you, but now you're worried because he's changed. He feels very comfortable with you now, so he doesn't need to constantly make a connection. Don't worry, be happy!

Answer 5

Give him space and just try to spend your time doing other things. If you don't call him, he will for sure call you.....If he wants to be with you, which seemingly he does, but he's having fun at your expense by having you chase him now.

Start doing things on your own or with friends or if you don't want to go somewhere and he's asking you what you are doing make up something that you had plans he'll start to get the hint that you're not desperate any longer and start hitting you up more often.

Just give it time and space and do your own thing and let him call you....I've done this before and it works....Trust me.

Answer 6

Yeah girl, he is history. Sounds like one of those guys that play the game of getting you to love them and not loving you back. He showed you how to express your feelings and that is a good thing. Don't dwell on him not being in your life anymore.You got experience now and I bet you are a fine looking chick. Go play the field.

Answer 7

You must be a young chick... 19...20... you don't know anything about men,men have their own mind, they decide if they want to call, when how to do it, sometime they just show how much they love you without saying it, you look too pushy, too insecure, you'll scare him away, Personally....I wouldn't want to be with someone like you... too immature to have a family with

Answer 8

he got another person i am in the same situition so i know what u going through try to move on i know it hard i am trying so back to move on for my daughter sake.

Answer 9

honey ive been here it more than likely just wont work out

Answer 10

yes