we had a few problems but noths major till recently weve been at this stage where we cant seem to get any where all we do is fight and i feel like he doesnt love me the way he used to..so he tells me the other day that he needs me to be understanding while he goes away for a while and im already really mad cuz 3 months ago he jut up and left me with no warning and then he just came back like its fine he says he loves me but i dont know and i dont know what to do anymore i told him i wasnt going to talk to him till after he came back from his"trip" and he agreed how is that love so i decided id try and get over him and not love him and then when he came back id be moved on is that the right thing to do???
2006-07-24 14:05:55 · 21 answers · asked by dream_star16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes that is the right to do. It seems like you're more upset, mad, and sad being with him than happy. It shows what kind of person he is by how he just left you like that, and expected for you to be waiting for him so he can come back to you whenever he feels like it. It's almost as if everything has to go by his schedule.
And if you get just even the slightest feeling that he doesn't love you like he says, then its probably true. I would say you should let him go because you won't have to stress over this anymore. And you never know, you will be much happier not having to deal with all this hurt and confusion. Good luck to you though.
2006-07-24 14:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Verie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably try 2 find out the problem is. I think he is starting 2 maybe feel like he's closed in and needs space. Ask him if that's what he needs and if he says yes, both of u seperate for a little while and try 2 wk things out while being seperated. I've been here before and after 6yrs it was another women and that's o.k only if he was only 2 had told the truth about it. Don't take this wrong cuz I'm not telling u that that is what is going on in ur situation. Either way ur gonna be ok it might hurt 4 the moment, but it will be alright.
2006-07-24 21:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by shortyb5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, there's 2 options. Either work it out or leave him. I mean, it's all up to you. If you still have as strong feelings for him as you did earlier in the relationship, work it out; but if you feel like you are growing distant and rekindeling your love wouldn't work, I'd say leave him. If I were you, I'd give working it out a try. Just explain to him that you don't like him just up and leaving without warning. Talk to him and try to make compromises. If this don't work, apparently he is the one with the problem and you should look for a better catch. I mean, I can understand him needed to leave for work, but just up and leaving for leisure, no! He needs to give you a heads up when he's going to leave. You don't deserve any less. You deserve the same respect that you give him. I know it's hard trying to talk to some men, but if you've been together 6 years, you should be pretty open. Just try talking about the issue and try to add some spice to your relationship. Always welcoming him home from a hard day from work in a new "costume" may make him NEVER want to leave. Just try adding some flare to the relationship. New techniques are always good. I hope that this helps dear. and good luck
2006-07-24 21:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dear Sweet Tragedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely, this is the right thing to do. He does not care for you nor love you. Although perhaps he did at one point, he no longer does. If he has left you multiple times, he will do so again. While he's gone, change your lock and don't let him come back to you like nothing happened. He's out banging someone else, expecting to come back to you and have everything be fine. Don't let him use you like that. It's not gonna work out-- you need to realize this and protect yourself so he doesn't hurt you anymore.
2006-07-24 21:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are forgetting some rules, If after a year the guy doesn't propose, it won't happen, If you feel he doesn't love you ...He doesn't. After six years If you keep fighting...You don't love each other, you are used to each other,habit hard to break, just a habit,and the last one : man never leaves a woman, he always comes back, as long as you take him, please put him out of his misery, break for good, free him, he is stuck on you
2006-07-24 21:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by class4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a better question? Why the hell do people gauge everything in stages?!
Then marriage, then kids, the what? Death? Do you just look at each other and go, "We did it. Lets die now."?
Just go with the flow. If you mutually feel the need for some kind of binding contract, then go get married.
....sheeesh.
:^`
2006-07-24 21:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joe CRUD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years and you havent gotten a proposal? Sorry to say but if he dosent want to commit then move on cause you'll just always be in this on again off again cycle. It's not fair to you and it will not be fair if you two have childern down the road. Find someone that you can depend on.
2006-07-24 21:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think communication is the key you not talking to him isn't going to solve anything.. why not tell him how you feel and see where it goes from there if it goes nowhere break up with him now and by the time he gets back you will be stronger
2006-07-24 21:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to take out the garbage!!!! He has been with you for 6 years and he needs time off to think? What has he BEEN thinking about. Really move on you will be way happier in the end.
2006-07-24 21:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Alyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to "**** or get off the pot." If you have been together for six years he needs to tell you now if he wants to be with you forever or not. And, if not, or if he's wavering, dump him and find another man who will give you the attention you deserve!
2006-07-24 21:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Janiffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋