She is 22 so it's not like some teenager kind of love. She did email me this so I thought it was strange because she isn't shy at all. She told me before that her last relationship lasted 2 years and towards the end she thought she loved the guy. But she also told me she is not sure if she has ever been in love before. I'm not sure what to think right now or how to respond?
2006-07-24 14:03:17 · 24 answers · asked by Koolam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess you don't love her back. You know that you love or not, you just KNOW. And, don't confuse BEING in love with love.
Sometimes that line is kinda fuzzy and be upfront about it with her, it maybe REAL love (in which case I have to wonder as to how long you've known her) or just that she really likes you and is very happy and comfortable with you.
Just for god's sake DON'T freak out, be mature dude.
2006-07-24 14:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sleep Terror 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look my friend, saying I LOVE YOU can mean a multitude of things when women are concerned. She loves you but may not in fact,be, IN love with you. There is a difference; that she says it now ,so early into the relationship, may only mean that she actually is considering you as a more permanent beau, than that of just a friend. You can actually love someone and be concerned for their welfare ETC. without being totally IN LOVE .........ya see! How long into the relationship with this past boyfriend, did she drop that line of love and was that the reason for the break up. Some people dont do well under pressure, YOU DONT HAVE TO RESPOND IN KIND, a simple "I'm flattered that you've found such an affection in your heart for me this soon in our relationship" may be the needed prod to get her to ask "WELL"??... so how do you feel about me.? This is where you are left to show your softer side. Your hands of velvet... I say this because no matter what you respond with, it will not be considered enough.. if you say, I love you, she'll ask how much and you'll have to learn to dance. Dancing and learning to do it well is what leads to eternal bliss.She may also be testing the water with this to see if your gonna run from her affection. Truthfully man there is NO-ONE on the face of this earth that can in all ernest say that they totally understand women. NOT EVEN ANOTHER WOMAN...... YOUR BEST BET IS TO NOD YOUR HEAD, SMILE A REALLY BIG SMILE, AND SAY" THANK YOU DEAR".
2006-07-24 14:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by lowell0210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ....... a month...... think she's crazy ? just joking . but tell her the truth don't leave her guessing . that is not cool. if you don't love her tell her your not at that point in the relationship yet but that you hope you will be as the relationship matures tell her that things like this take longer for different people and right now your just not done assessing you feelings for her b/c feelings can be tricky and you don't want to lead her astray but that you hope you can in the future find out just how deep ans pure and far your love for her goes but right now you just want to make sure. what to think really don't know just sleep on it for a little and listen to your head (not the smaller one ) and your heart they will tell you what to do and if your still indecisive i hope you know God and can pray b/c only he can answer all that troubles you.
2006-07-24 14:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respond by telling her that the two of you have not known each other long enough to love one another! after all if it took her almost 2 years to realize that she might have loved the other guy, how does she know that she loves you after just one month?
2006-07-24 14:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first question that comes to my mind is have you two had sex yet? If so i would have to say that throwing sex into a relationship early can make a person think there in love when it's just lust, for the moment anyways. Now you say she sent it in an email. Did she say I love you? Or love, (her name)?
2006-07-24 14:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her and she hasn't scared you away (lol) tell her you really like her but you want to slow things down because when she says she loves you it's a bit to soon for you. Sometimes when a person says they love you you're tempted to say it back.....for goodness sakes don't do that because it'll just make the situation worse.
2006-07-24 14:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thank her n then tell her how u feel about her.u do not have 2 say u love her if u r not ready 2 but let her know how u feel.a lot of times guys dont let a girl know what they r feeling or thinking n that sucks.
2006-07-24 14:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? Isn't it that before you become gf/bf, you have already declared your love for each other?
Did the rules changed already? Am I missing out here? I find this weird...
If you feel the same way too then tell her, if not why stay?
2006-07-24 14:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you that there is no "right way" to respond. You should tell her how you feel. Whether it be love or strong like or whatever. I once told a guy that I loved him and he said, "thanks." LMAO, that was great. He actually loved me too, but never knew it until I left him.
2006-07-24 14:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by nicolehope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should just be glad she feels this way about you and tell her that you really like her to. Just because she says she loves you don't mean you have to say it back.
2006-07-24 14:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋