my lil sis is in so much ****, she doesnt listen to my mom or anyone. shes on probation she comes home when ever she wants never tells us where she is at. i just dont know what to do with her no more its not right for a 13 year old to b acting like these what can i do to help her
2006-07-24 13:58:54 · 14 answers · asked by sandra b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be a big sister to her and do things with her. Think of something fun to do with her tell her to keep a certain day open because you would like to take her some where. Just go out to dinner, putt putt, bowling, park....something where you can talk to her and let her know that you love her and care about her. Let her know that you want to be there for her! Just do a girls night out or day out. Alot of times teens don't want to talk to mom's but they will talk to sister's if they trust them.
2006-07-24 14:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if u can get her to go shopping or out for a meal and casually ask her if she could possibly talk to u about what she is feeling. don't criticise but tell her u are concerned about her and u will be there for her anytime she needs to talk or just a shoulder to lean on offer advise only if she wants it otherwise u could make her with draw from u.Remember only she can change what she is doing but u could have a big influence if u include her in your activities showing her what is the right way to do things. Don't come between her and your parents though because that could be more damaging that just leaving things the way they are.
2006-07-24 14:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by swan1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am the older sister.
I set a good role model for by sister and brother.
They felt that our mom needed to pay for what she did to me and since I would not hold her accountable, they did.
My sis is 2 years younger, my bro, 10 years younger.
I tried to reason with them, it was my decision to grow up fast, I didn't mind being the "Mom & Sis" so they had no right to make mom pay for it since I alowed it.
Truthfully honey, they did it anyway.
Our mother has be gone now for 11 years and my sister still bad mouths her.
My brother has found some peace since he accepted responsiblity for his own screw ups in life.
And relaizes that he did what he did becsue he wanted to.
I pray for you and your sisters sake, that she will turn out to be like my brother, accepting his own limations, and become a loving and forgiving indivaul instead of someone like my sister, someone who is always blameing someone else for their problems.
She is my sis, she choose to stay away from me, and their is nothing I can do to change her mind...she is 46 years old and has been this way all of her life.
2006-07-24 14:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with her - ask her to go out with you and YOUR friends, show her other ways of having a good time than what she's doing - she's going through a period of rebellion because she's trying to decide who she is - give her a push in the right direction, but don't try to convince her one way or the other - she'll probably just do the complete opposite.
Good luck, dear!
Toodles.
2006-07-24 14:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by MarQus1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im 13 so if i was doing something like this...then i would rather be looking for attention, have something bottled up inside of me that needs to come out but cant really say it, or just always angry at my mom..when im mad at her i dont talk to her or tell her where im going.....
try locking her in her room for a couple weeks and talk to her...ask her whats going on
good luckk ;-)
2006-07-24 14:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by poprox556 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out why she's acting like that first. you never know what someone is going through. once you find out what is causing her destructive behavior, it will be easier to help her. in the meantime, lead by example and give her positive feedback when she does something good, she might be crying out for attention and maybe she feels that any attention is good attention.
2006-07-24 14:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by ~it's me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she sees and understands how her bad behaviour is affecting her life, she shall change her ways, and sadly, not until.
She may be looking for attention, or this may stem from bad friends. Either way, lead by example.
Good luck!
~Because sometimes it is rocket science.~
2006-07-24 14:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by cheekandfolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are the bid sister she looks up to you and she needs to know that she can trust you so you need to sit her down and talk to her. Not just about what shes up to but about anything.
2006-07-24 14:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good role model and spend time with her
2006-07-24 14:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap her. then put her on check by spendin more time w/ her. and make her stay home. and drill into her mind, friends come and go. but its family that lasts forever.
2006-07-24 14:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by JustiN CrediblE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋