My boyfriend and I are apart for the whole summer, and he's in his hometown and hangs out alot with this girl that he used to like for AGES in elementary and middle school... This girl is really pretty and talented (even though I'm decent as well) but I can't stop thinking about all the events they're organizing for kids' summer camps and just stuff they're doing together, and I can't stop looking her up on the internet and looking at friends' photo albums to find her pictures and compare myself against her! I've been with my boyfriend a year and I do trust him, but I don't know this girl at all and always wonder if she's gonna flirt with him or whatever... please help me... I don't want to be a jealous stalker...
also: GUYS:-- what would you think of this if you knew about my problem and was in my boyfriend's place?
2006-07-24 13:52:42 · 12 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you trust your guy you gotta stop worrying...it's just going to make you miserable.
Just take a leap of faith and deal...or risk losing him making him think you don't trust him. Put yourself in his shoes....if you had to "work" with a guy would he trust you....would you do something to make him doubt you? Have faith I'm sure he loves and misses you to much to even notice if she is flirting with him.
Good Luck.
2006-07-24 14:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look u said it urself U TRUST HIM
i know u r jelouse i would be too but its normal if shes pretty and u know he had a past crush on her
but if ur bf really loves u he would never do anything to hurt u
and so what if she flirts with him as long as he doesnt back
and its 1 summer when he comes back u can tell if has done anything with her or not by the way he acts around u (trust me u'll know)
and if for some sad reason he did dont be sad
would u really want to be with a guy who would just cheat on u everytime he sees 1 of his past friends that r girls?
i mean think of that
i know how u feel
but just talk to him about it
and if u both really love eachother something like that will not tear u apart
~hope that helped ♥
2006-07-24 13:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by hotloverxo328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jelousy is something expected as long as u love him don't worry...u want to end it...just tell him that u r abit jelous...then feel his answer...if u felt love coming out of his words then nothing wrong dear...but if u felt that he is refusing to talk about that that's an alert....u said u trust the guy...then it's ok.....if u can visit him sometime do it...or try to make his world much more better when u see him again...or if u won't see him for some time....just go on and love the guy quitly :) ....
2006-07-24 13:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by doctor^love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said in one of your answers that u believe in real love .. and it happens when u think about someone else more than your own needs .. i guess that is what u have to find here .. if u and him have real love for each other .. u dont have to worry about anything .. being jealous is a good sign .. it shows that u like someone too much .. if i were u, tell him that u are jealous and he is going to love u and care about u even more than before ..
2006-07-24 13:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i've answered this question soo many times. so ill give u my opinion. if u really trust him, then u woudnt be jealous of her at all. dont compare urself to her, cuz ur bf loves u for u. and if i was ur bf, i'd be LOYAL and be thinkin and talkin tou everyday. so dont worry about him enjoy ur summer. and if something does happen, take it from there. dont worry about things that didnt happen and its all in ur mind.
2006-07-24 13:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by JustiN CrediblE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if you trust him then there shouldn't be a problem. He was friends with this girl for a long time and theres nothing you can do to change that. But deal with it..
2006-07-24 13:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by ladym963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's tough i think that u should talk to him and tell him that u love him a lot if u do then i think that u need to ask to talk to this grl and tell how u feel and make sure that she knows how much that u care about him
2006-07-24 13:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by hot_blonde_2952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow there isnot really any thing you can do to stop the jealousy maybe you should get you friends together and go do some thing to get your mind off of it
2006-07-24 13:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your jealous because you are picking up on something
..the saying goes if you think hes cheating he probley is
our not a stalker just smart. call him everyday at least 10 times
ask him about his every move thats the best wat 2 handle it
2006-07-24 13:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and trust him!!!! He probably misses you very much!!
2006-07-24 13:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋