I been going with this boy for 5 mounths most of the time when we hang out we go over his house and he always pull a move on me and when i didnt call him for 2 weeks he got made and said he missed chillin with me then we we finalled chilled again we had sex for 2 hrs and then he went to go hang out with his friends and just said ok bye call me tonight does that sound like a user or am i just dillousional???please help
2006-07-24 13:48:39 · 41 answers · asked by becca . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You are not delusional. If this boy you were seeing for 5 months got angry when you did not call him for 2 weeks, then demanded that you have sex with him when you came back, it sounds like he has not made up his mind that he wants to get serious about a relationship with you or not. He should be the one calling you after having sex with you. Sorry. He sounds just like a USER. Let him call you and do not have any more sex with him until he promises you more than a "chill".
2006-07-24 13:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys sometimes don't know what to say after.
That just how it is, i don't think that he is using you at all.
If he called you then you guys should be okay, but if he starts to ignore you then you have to worry. I say give the guy some time though, i don't really know what your relationship with this guy is but I betting that he has some feelings for you.
5 months is a lone time even though it goes by fast.
I have heard stories of people who were going out for 5 months and got married on the 6th.
I wouldn't worry about it, if you go through that same situatetion again again, then you know there is something wrong with him other then the shame of talking after.
All guys tell there friends!!! No matter what girl it is.
2006-07-24 13:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know I am not going to be the first to say this but how does it feel to be used. In everything you have just said it only appears that he is using you for a booty call. If you did not call him for weeks how come he did not try and get in touch with you. Go ahead and move on to someone else who might not be looking for the same thing he is after.
2006-07-24 13:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be....... Have you meet and hung out with his friends? if you answered no then he is using. Usually in a only sex relationship you only meet up at a place where you can have sex. If watching a movie,and having sex is all then truly it is only sex that he wants. He is only using you if that is not what you thought it was or wanted.
When a guy wants you to meet up with his friends, wants to do things out side of sex and feeds your mind and is humbled by your inner and outer beauty..... then it is something more... the start of love....
Don't get down about this for long and don't let yourself get used by this guy again. Remember that this has happened to the best of us and hold out for what you really want.
2006-07-24 14:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by shiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you got it right, on two counts. 1) You're being used. 2) He's a boy. I have seen a lot of instances where girls complain and ask for help, and then end up going right back. More often than not, it's girls that want bad boys and thugs thinking they can turn them around. Not saying that's your case, though. Just throwing that out there. So unless you're a sucker, you'll bail on him. If you're confident about yourself, you'll move on. Hope it works out.
2006-07-24 14:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by spacedog1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Your writing sounds like you're 12 or 13 -- MUCH too young to be having sex. Yes, Honey, he's using you -- and all the other guys will too as long as you keep offering up the goods!
2006-07-24 13:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by TexanByChoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt think about you unless he wants some sex, this is not good enough for a friend. Cut him lose not worth it because you dont enjoy being just called to have sex. Hes too one track minded boring, not a question of "used" or not used. Insufficient interest for you to have such a "friend".
2006-07-24 13:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by glossyart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is the sex good? Cause if it is he not using you he is serving you. Sounds like you are trying to use him to feel some obvious void in your life. Maybe you should get some friends to hang out with and focus on yourself and not what he is doing.
2006-07-24 13:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Suga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds a bit silly, dontcha think? mounths, made, chillin, finalled chilled, 2 hrs of sex, and then just dillousional? iz that buoy krazy ore whut?
2006-07-24 14:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man are very strange my dear ....meaning that you have to play it by ear cause sometimes things can be looking like he's not using you but then you find out later that he is.So you have to use your judgment on that . Nobody can really answer that but you . Its all how you feel you should be treated and respected...See everyone have a different way of thinking And how they want they man to treat them . And what make my perfect man ...may not be what makes your perfect man.what i feeling like is using you ...another may not.So that can go both way .Its all in how you want to be treated.So you tell yourself if he is using you are not . Only you know that answer ...remember its all in how you feel you want and should be treated.
2006-07-24 14:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by sexyblackgal29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋