for about 2 years now (after being in a relationship for 8 years). ive had my flings.. they've been great. ive also very much so enjoyed my free time.
but.. now im lonely from time to time. seems like when i meet someone i find a way to not like them. how do i avoid this?
is it because im comparing?
how do i find the one?
is there really the one out there?
2006-07-24 13:45:35 · 8 answers · asked by Sweet96 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps you are looking for reasons not to re-enter into a long term relationship, and find faults to ensure this?
2006-07-24 13:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by cheekandfolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way... only it have been 6 years! wow... but I mean there have been tons of opportunities....but honestly i think that find someone that you can spend alot of time with and be deeply involved with doesn't happy within 6 months or sometimes even 20 years. I am like you i freak out anytime someone wants to get serisouly becuase I have standards.... i know what I want and need... you must too. There is someone out there for you ....you haven't met yet. And about loneliness... yeah I am lonely sometimes... but seriously i know lots of people that are lonely and they are married....Maybe your life style might be an issue... i move around alot... soo it is impossible to start anything. Don't even try to find the one in someone else either... you will know it is them the minute you meet them. Hang in there!
2006-07-24 20:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a 5 year relationship which ended then a few months later I started a 7 month one. I had a two year break from any serious relationships and then started dating a guy seriously 11 months back. I just broke it off with him two days ago.... and I'm happy about it.
I enjoy my free time like you and so I know that I need a guy that understands that. I also want someone who wont lie to me, cheat on me, treat me like a fashion acessorie and doesn't like porn. I break it off with guys as soon as they don't comply with any of the above, every girl is allowed to have their standards.
I know that if I weed through the jerks and leave them sitting on the curb because I know I deserve better, then he will come along one day. But if he never comes then thats fine by me.... I would rather be single and happy with who I am, then attached to someone who makes me un-happy.
You just need to learn to be happy single.... enjoy the time to figure out who you are and what you want in life. Once you have done that, there is speed dating. :)
2006-07-24 21:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're comparing men to the man you had the 8 year relationship with you need to remember something wasn't right there because you're not with him. If you really want to be in a healthy relationship maybe you need to take sometime and get to know what you really need and want. While you're doing this update on yourself you shouldn't have any "flings". It clouds things up.
2006-07-24 20:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell u much, im very proud of u for bein single for 2 years after a long relationship. think about it, throughout this time, u've have grown more than just a person, but as an individual. yes, i know it sucks to be lonely from time to time. we're all human. but if ur rdy to look for a relationship, u shouldnt really be comparing people. cuz everyone is amazing in their own unique special way. to find the one for, admire them for who they are, dont try to "FIX" them, cuz then ur not really lovin him for him bein true to himself. he'll just be ur mold. is that fair to him? and i believe in soul mates, but i believe dares more than 1 soul mate out there for each person. u just gotta find him, or let him find u. just keep ur eyes and heart open. in time, i hope it comes to u =)
2006-07-24 20:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by JustiN CrediblE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are scared to love or be loved. You are finding excuses to not commit. I am guessing the ending of your 8 year relationship hurt you quite a bit. Take it slow and be a little more available.
2006-07-24 20:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is someone out there for you.In given time it will happen.you are just being comparing other People with whom you have been with for 8 years. It is a natural thing .
2006-07-24 20:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there is, but do not look for them, if its the right one they will find you.
2006-07-24 20:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by barnaby jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋