Ok, so I thought my co-worker liked me due to his behavior and that fact that he keep saying relationship...blah blah but then he sent me this email after i asked him what he thought of me..
"I received your email and i feel the same, however i think you are confused. I do not view you as one of my co-workers, i view you as my best friend for now. The problem is me the only reason why i do not have a retionship because i do not want them and the reason for that is because i've been damaged by the pig who cheated on me and dumped me like i'm some sort of a toy. I appreciate you more and more however i do not have the gurrantee that you will not do the same at the same time i'm very scared cause i do not wanna loose you. I'M not ready yet for another relationship because " My hearts' at low i'm so much to manage and i think you should know that i've been damaged" i enjoy being aroud you and i really do value our friendship. I admire you and your style that you wear to work.
2006-07-24 13:41:46 · 11 answers · asked by Trina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like an idiot now, what should I do???
2006-07-24 13:42:09 · update #1
I mean I am not ready for a relationship just yet myself but it would have been nice to get to know him...damn
2006-07-24 14:18:03 · update #2
First Of All You Should Not Feel Like An Idiot Because He Has Admitted That He Feels The Same..So That Is A Very Good Thing...Like He Says He Is Just Scared Of Getting Hurt...I Think You Should Remain Friends As he Suggests And Then Later On When He's Ready For A Realtionship He Will Be There Because He Is Obviously Interested Enough To Take Your Emations In Mind As Well..The Fact That He Told You Straight Up What Was Going On Is A Very Good Thing...Just Cherish The Time You Have Now..And What Happens ..Happens....Good Luck..
2006-07-24 13:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by EvEl_LiL_kArEbEaR 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why, He did admit to you how he feels currently. He values the friendship. I'd say stay friends with him, let him get his ish together. That's not to say you can't see other people (because you can if you want) but as for him, right now he's building himself back up before he approaches another person to as out. So it's not a for sure NO! It's just a "not at this time."
2006-07-24 20:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by thoughtsofastranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looks like you are right. Id say he did like you , however he states that he is not ready for another relationship at this time as his heart is still mending form the previous. The best thing you can do is be his friend.He needs to learn to trust again , time heals all wounds so they say so be patient and what ever you do do not lead him on as he doesn't need that at this stage.
2006-07-24 21:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to heal. Be his friend first and lover later if that is what he eventually wants. He will learn to trust you when you show him that you respect the position he is in. If you rush it, you might end up damaging the friendship and his chance to be in another relationship, especially if he is as damaged as he says.
2006-07-24 20:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by danielle26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like an idiot. They just need time to recover from the past and really seem to cherish you overall. Time is everything. Maybe one day things will work out for the two of you.
2006-07-24 20:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by CrimsonStained 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's carrying a LOT of baggage...if you want to be his friend, that's fine...he could probably use one...but don't look at him as a dating prospect and realize if you do get to be friends with him you are likely to hear ad nauseum about his past relationship and how he was done wrong, etc...
Be prepared...
2006-07-24 20:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel like that as this person is honest with you!!! That is very rare!!!! Stay friends and this may be a wonderful friendship or may turn into more!!! Put it in Gods hands!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 20:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong. He probably does like you but is afraid to get hurt again. Show him that he can trust you and that you are not like that and something just may blossom. Now is that time that you need to have patience and show him that you truly care.
2006-07-24 20:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just continue being friends until he is ready. it takes time to heal. he does like you but he needs time to get over what the other girl put him through.
2006-07-24 20:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jmkisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has baggage that you can't fix. He is a gentleman for not "pulling you into the water". you should consider yourself lucky and have good taste.
2006-07-24 20:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by musi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋