Im taking this girl out tonight..she tells me she likes me, but barely speaks. How do I break this?

Question

This is our first date and we went to high school together..she has told me she likes me and thats she shy, but on the phone or thru texts, she gives me 1 or 2 word answers.

How do I get her to talk more tonight? To avoid the awkward silence. Any techniques, suggestions, etc. would be most appreciated.

Thanks!

Answer 1

Time :-) it works great. Just don't expect so much and enjoy whatever happens. Expectations always get in the way of what could turn out to be a great thing... real relationships take time.

Answer 2

I have a same kind of girl.

Nothing much you can do to be honest. I tried to ask her why she was so shy. She just said she didn't know why. And when I tried pushing it... She just got too offended.

Best suggestion is to go with the flow. The most important thing you need to ask is to ask yourself, "Do you like this kind of girl?" Hey, be honest, if you just want to sleep with her, it would be a different story. If you want to get her talk, you need a lot, and I mean a lot of patient. Probably 10+ dates.

Build some trusts between you guys. Create a lot of topics. Sports, life, where to hang out, movies, Brad Pitt, girl next door... etc. See what interest her. If none, keep quiet for a bit. Maybe she actually likes to be quiet. Tell her that she is beautiful while looking into her eyes. That would help during "awkward silence".

Good luck

Answer 3

You don't "get her to talk more." Find something to talk about. Go to an art gallery or see a show and then go for a coffee (or a beer). And, perhaps you can try remaining as silent as she is until SHE becomes uncomfortable with the silence and starts taking some responsibility for the conversation. It takes two people to have a conversation--and a relationship. If in the end she really can't bring herself to have a mature conversation about even neutral subjects, she will be incapable of having a mature relationship.

If in the end she can't bring herself to have a conversation, I am not sure why you would want to date her.

Answer 4

DONT
-say the same things over and over again ("you're being awfully quiet")..
-tell her anything that you dislike about her unless it is a giant red flag against you or your beliefs ets...
-talk on and on hoping she will get the idea and pick it up too cause she'll just let you talk.
-ask generalized questions. just dont do it. she wont know where to begin and you will just get an answer like "I dont know..." and then the conversation will end.


DO
-compliment her immediately (but not a thousand times)
-notice what expressions are as you go from topic to topic. If she has a genuine smile when you're talking about pets then stick to the subject and ask her specific questions. Okay maybe pets was a bad example for the specific questions...uhhh...tv...movies...what shows does she never miss? movies she can watch over and over?

I guess thats not much, but the specific questions is the biggie. good luck!

Answer 5

Beforehand come up with a list of things you can go on about in depth that may be of interest. Then carefully watch her reaction and when she responds or shows interest milk that topic for all its worth. Or take her somewhere to watch a band or something, or to a club that is so loud that talking is impossible, dance the night away have a good time but be careful the quiet ones can fall deeply and quickly in love...That has been my experience. Good luck friend

Answer 6

thats how i was with me and now my current boyfriends first date! I absolutely hated the fact that i didnt know what to say or anything like that, finally now that we are in a relationship i can never shut up lol. She is just shy since she likes you she probably doesnt want to say or do the wrong thing. Ask her questions about her and her personality, what kind of guys shes into, why she likes you the way she does, and things like that. Make her comfortable and try to make some humor to make her laugh she will be less tense. Good Luck!

Answer 7

try to prepare some topics to talk about start with simple questions & then move to questions that need more talking and that could lead to open discussions talk about urself a little so that she doesn't feel under the spotlight give her a smile every now & then so she knows she is not missing up and that ur actually having a good time DO NOT MAKE ANY MOVES


keep doing that untill she trusts u & get comfortable around u Hope i helped

P.S. u'll need lot's of work just b patient & u'll see the outcome

Answer 8

Figure out what she enjoys and then drive the conversation back toward that. Tell stories about your own background that relate to her likes. Ask her opinion about something even if its the food. She is probably afraid that if she says too much she will say the wrong thing. Try to stay on safe topics in the beginning.

If she is shy, be patient. She will get better as she gets more comfortable with you.

Answer 9

You should break the silence by asking her simple questions that she can easily answer like where she works or what school does she go to etc. these types of questions can show her that you are interested in her and maybe she might open up and ask you some questions.

Answer 10

Ask questions that require more than a one or two word answer...ask leading questions that'll take y'all into a e discussion instead of ask/answer/ask/answer...

Realize that shy people can really have a tough time talking to someone they don't know real well...and even then sometimes we just don't have a lot to say...if you are going to date a shy person, be prepared to carry most of the conversation, most of the time...