How do I tell my boyfriend that he is a terrible lover& that I'm going to leave him if he doesn't get better?

Answer 1

How long have y'all been having sex? Hopefully not too long or you're at fault for letting him think for a period of time that all was groovy.

BUT what you need to do is talk to him about it. Don't accuse, don't criticize, but suggest things that you would like to have change in y'alls sex life...tell him what you like and how you like it...ask him the same so you can be sure he's diggin' what you're doing...

Don't tell him he's a terrible lover...but tell him there are ways you think you both could enjoy sex more..

Be gentle...think of how you'd feel if your partner told you that you were lousy in bed...

Answer 2

Well, you need to be more considerate of your boyfriend, just telling him that he is a lousy lover will not only break the two of you up, but crush his ego. No one is born with the innate ability to be a great lover -- we all must learn.

Why not try to easily guide him to become better? If it is his technique, try to tell him to calm down and not rush things, guide him to how you want to be loved. He is not going to be able to read your mind and know what makes you feel good or how you want to be made love to, you'll have to show him.

Please put the shoe on the other foot. Would you want someone to just tell you that you were a lousy lover?

Answer 3

In a relationship I feel as though u should sit down and talk to your better half about the issues that u have with him sexually. Teach him to be a better lover for u and tell him what you like and need and if that doesn't work then consider other options

Answer 4

Firstly you do not go in and say "you are a terrible lover". He will be straight on the defence and will not want to listen, only argue or cry.

I think you need to take some responsibility for this. If he is doing something you don't like, gently say "I prefer it when you do (insert something you would like him to do)". If it is a case of he is a premature ejaculator or something like that, understand that there may be a physical reason for that. But you could try using condoms to reduce his sensitivity.

Answer 5

Yikes, sorry to hear that for you. Men have very fragile egos, so rather than telling him that he's terrible I'd make suggestions to him on how he can satisfy you better.

Good communication is the key to any relationship. Talk, talk, talk about what you both want and it may turn out being fun and taking your relationship to a new sexual level. He might be more open to suggestion then you think.

Answer 6

Ask him if he thinks if you are a good lover. That will make it easy to tell him. You need to communicate better. This is the sort of stuff you both need to be able to talk about.

Answer 7

you tell him . Get it over with and if he doesn't perk up the sex life
then leave . Maybe try to talk with him and tell him what you like and how you like it. and what he should do and how to do it..
Train him into a good lover you are happy with. It has been done

Answer 8

"You are a terrible lover and I'm going to leave you if you don't get better."

Answer 9

Do not tell him like that!!!! He may not know how to please you. Start telling him during sex as what you like. Get some books and read together and say "lets try this". This is a very delicate thing for a man to handle so take care on how you go about this.

Answer 10

hi(pretend that u dont ave any interest in em any more) can u plzz tell me how can u call em a terrible lover.. plzz jus for experience , so that nobuddy call's me the same