I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first boyfriend) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Her friends and parents hate him. She would tell me how she hated the things he did and how she couldn't be his friend. Now we've broken up and they're friends, however she isn't dating him nor really hanging out with him. She's basically shut me out of her life, although she really wanted to be friends and still hang out. I still get the feeling she really misses me (she has to!) but we haven't talked in almost 2 weeks (except brief text message). She even blocked me on AIM (wtf?) yet Im on her top 8 on MySpace (it's been long enough to change it).
Im trying my best with moving on, but am I right in thinking to just be scarce in her life/leave her alone and one day she'll miss me?
2006-07-24 13:26:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know if this will help....but i did the same thing that your ex girlfriend is doing....i had a good boyfriend....and a horrible ex that sounds just like her ex....everyone hated him....i broke up with my good boyfriend and started talking to my bad ex....i shut out the good boyfriend and dated the bad ex again...it was horrible...but i eventually went back to my good boyfriend...but during the process i didnt want to talk to him and then i really missed him.....so i would just be scarce.....if her ex treats her like **** agian she will be back.....
2006-07-24 13:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jon J, it sounds like she has problems. Do you really want to associate yourself w/someone like that? I think it's best for you to move on and i don't think you should expect her to call you when she misses you or when she and that guy no longer are friends. If she does that then it looks like she was using you in the 1st place. How can someone jump from friend to friend like that, she shows lack of character in that part. I think you're probably too good for that and should just move on to better things.
2006-07-24 20:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by kayrrie101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe something happened between her and the ex. there has to be a good reason to take a guy that verbally abuses her back and leave the good guy alone. go visit her and ask her whats up.
2006-07-24 20:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jmkisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her ex threatened her. Call her or go to her house and find out what's going on. If she said she would never be the guys friend and now she is, that probably means he said or did something and made her break up with you and is trying to make her go back out with him.
2006-07-24 20:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Life Sucks Get A Helmet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it probally is for you I would have to say you need to let her make her own choices. You two aren't a couple anymore. She is a big girl and if she wants a guy who is abusive to her then that's her. Unfortunatly you need to move on.
2006-07-24 20:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start dating someone else until she is ready to contact you.
In the meantime, you should call her and tell her:
"I had a great time with you, and I want to go out with you again. Since you currently not available, here is my cell number #(XXX) XXX-XXXX. Please call me anytime you want to go out with me."
2006-07-24 21:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah leave her alone, every one loves a challenge, so be a challenge to her!!!
2006-07-24 20:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jinx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's crazy to have left you, i mean, look how well you write.
2006-07-24 20:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Tommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋