2006-07-24 13:23:57 · 43 answers · asked by tanya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best thing you can do is just tell him that you are not interested in him and to please respect your choice and leave you be. If he continues to harass you - you might need to be a bit mean. I have had to do this twice. Men, guys, what have you, some of them need to know why... they can't take no for an answer. so you might have to say something like, "You are just not man enough for me." It has worked both times I have been forced to use it. I only suggest this after you try more sympathetic words and fail.
2006-07-24 13:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What makes you think he "loves" you if he is turning you off and making you want to get rid of him? His feelings should not matter to you more than your own feelings. Just tell him in public " I WANT YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE BECAUSE I AM NOT INTERESTED IN SEEING YOU." Look him directly in the eye, do not smile and be straight forward and unwavering in your statement. After that, treat any further efforts on his part to forcefully be with or near you as stalking or attempted rape and call the police. Tell your parents and all other friends if he gets nasty. Be sure to tell him in a public place where he can't assault you without it being seen if he tries it.
2006-07-24 13:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry you. Have the whole wedding planned out. Tell him you have to start having kids right away and you want your mother to move in an help take care of him. Make sure he knows he has to get a second job because you certainly aren't working as soon as you're pregnant and he needs to buy you a new car worthly of driving your baby in and he'd better be able to afford a nice house or you're going to divorce him and seek alimony and child support.
If that doesn't make him leave, well, congratulations on your new life.
2006-07-24 13:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by barelyliterate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him the same way that he does, you need to tell. Do not hold back and expect that your friendship with him is over. Once you tell him how it is he probably wont want to talk to you, he will have a pretty bruised ego. If he doesn't get the hint and is crazy try to distance yourself from him as much as you can. Sometimes it takes time and constantly turning him down before he gets the hint. You can also try to get him to like someone else
2006-07-24 13:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by shiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You led him on and allowed him to fall in love with you, right? Now you want others to solve your problem for you. You sound pretty arrogant to me. If you are a good person sit down wiht him and tell him directly what you feel. Don't be cruel but be firm and honest, and don't let him think that there is a chance. Just because someone loves you is not a reason to cause them pain. You should be glad that someone really loves you...Even if he isn't Mr. Perfect. Be honest, straight up and firm...
2006-07-24 13:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by JAR2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the worst things you could do is ignore him. Making excuses would be a better option, but it is still somewhat inappropriate. The best way to handle the situation is to tell him the truth. Try to be really nice about it, as hard as it sounds. You'll feel better that you let your feelings out and he'll respect you for the way you handled the situation, no matter how angry he gets.
BE HONEST
2006-07-24 13:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by AmiJames 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him every 15 minutes "just to chat".
Tell him you want to marry him.
At least 50 or 60 times a day tell him you can't live without him.
Demand to know who he is with all the time .
Get all jealous on him everyt time he doesn't answer the phone the first ring.
I've got much more, but you get the idea.
2006-07-24 13:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, youre going about this all wrong. You arent attracted to him and are not going out with him. Theres no need to avoid him. If you want to be nice about it just sit him down and tell him honestly that your not interested, not only in him but in anyone. If that doesnt work and he is stalkerish then you can go to your local police precinct and issue a restraining order against him. If it is simply just the phone, you can have the telephone company block his number or you can just all together change your number.
2006-07-24 13:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Buddah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look.. ignoring him may make him try to have achance with u more...don't ever make any reaction to him..if he got u flowers give it to anybody infront of him....if he is calling u just let the answer machine replies or u reply and tell him that u have to do something important..ishow him that u r not that sweet...and u r looking for aman in ur life but not him...that if he is such ahard peson...u can always take the easy way and tell him to stay away from u and continue his life if u know that he will leave u alone when u say that
2006-07-24 13:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by doctor^love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Tell him how you feel, tell him that you are sorry that you do not feel the same. Be gentle and kind. He will appreciate your honesty in the end. Leading people on serves no purpose for either side. You do not sound like someone who is trying to use him for your own personal gain. Be honest and gentle.
2006-07-24 13:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by saultdebbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋