Should a woman expect a man to support her, or should she be following her own career these days?

Question

Once upon a time, just the man working was enough to support a family. Nowadays, with prices going up, up, up, is it realistic to expect your g/f or wife to try and bring money in, too?

Answer 1

I have always thought that I can take care of myself and the man should be able to take care of himself. When they get married and have a family they pool their money and take care of the family. The woman staying home to care for the children is the perfect situation if they can afford it and if she wants to stay home. But for most families in today's economy that scenario is just a dream.

Answer 2

It depends on what kind of life the two of you want. Nowadays, there aren't many multi-millionaires out there of either sex. I can see how a multi-millionaire could fall in love and say, "What would you like to do?" That's because he or she can afford to say that.

In today's world, some people's spouses or significant others will someday drop them. Also, either partner in a relationship could die early. That's just a fact.

That's why it's good to have a career to fall back on. That goes for both males and females. Everyone should "be prepared" for anything happening.

Plus, with two people working, you can sock away more money for retirement.

Another thing: In today's world, if one partner wants to work outside the home, and the other wants to take care of young children, it's all a choice that a couple can make. It's a trade-off -- money vs. hardly any money for most people.

With a minimum wage that is below the poverty line, most families today MUST have both parents working. It wasn't always like that, but that's the total truth today. That could change if the country adopted a living wage. But, realistically, there isn't a living wage today, so most of the time, both people in a relationship should work outside the home.

So the answer is, most of the time, "yes," and only sometimes "maybe."

Answer 3

I would say it all depends. Do they want to raise kids? If they do, then I'm one of those people that believe in stay at home mom's. It would be great if they both had their own jobs of course. I wouldn't want to have to depend on a man to look after me. When we got married, I didn't work right away, instead I had 4 little kids. Once my kids got older, then I went out and got a job. It's true that a woman should help bring in the money too, cuz its just too tough out there nowadays! If they can get by for awhile so mom can stay at home and raise her babies, I think that's very important. If not, then maybe she can babysit or work at home somehow. I don't think anyone should "expect" anyone to look after them. What happens if the one working up and dies? It's good for the woman to get out there in the world too, just in case one day..

Answer 4

Based on the quality of men these days, any woman who counts on a man taking care of her is a fool.

Nah, seriously, it's up to each couple, what their values are, what their priorities are. If they want to have kids, maybe they want to have one parent (whether husband or wife, I've known both) stay home. Or if material possessions or financial security are important, they probably both will need to work. And, of course, what jobs are available to each partner, what their passions are, what they want to do with their lives. As long as the arrangement works for both of them, and allows each partner to pursue what's important to him/her, doesn't matter who's bringing in what. Societal expectations shouldn't dictate lives.

Answer 5

I believe that a woman should follow her own career path these days. It takes two to manage a household in today's world. You will find that more and more women are pursuing their careers in lieu of being house wife and staying home with the kids.

Answer 6

The one thing you here all the time is equal. I agree with that saying. But if the home needs more income to survive the yes the wife should work. If she has a career and wants to pursue it she should. But neither your career or hers should interfere with your family lives.

Answer 7

well i don't think u should expect a women be a house wife or not have a job cause women are moving up in life. Take Condalezza Rice for example

Answer 8

Yes to both of your first questions. You should try to take care of the both of you by providing enough money for food, rent, car and savings. Her income should cover more food, a second car, more savings, expenses, et cetera ... those things are almost like needs but really extra. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

I think one thing can lead to another.

I mean, you just can't live pursuing your carreer all of your life. We humans NEED another human, and your carreer can't give you emotional support.

A woman needs a man that *can* understand her actions, support her in what she wants, but you can't dismiss the emotional part.

Answer 10

nowadays you have to work together to create a good life for your fanily. relationships work out better if everyone feels like they are on a level playing field.also i like to have my own independance to buy what i want and such and i cant expect my husband or bf to just get me what i want.