ok my ex broke up with me and he said that he watned to be friends. of course i care so much about him. but everytime i show that i care about him and im worried about him he gets all defensive and says "you still act like were going out". what is that suppose to mean? i cant be his friend and care about him?
2006-07-24 13:11:13 · 11 answers · asked by Britney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seveneight and D-Man made a well-put point. Not everyone can be friends with an ex. And even if You can, it may be that you need time apart for a bit after the breakup to achieve the feeling of distance that you'll need to think like a TRUE friend, instead of hurt/disappointed ex-girlfriend. But, some guys either cannot see this right away because they are nice and don't want to lose you at all but know it won't work as anything else or have ULTERIOR motives. (http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/men/menu/articles/0,,426378_661495,00.html)
So there are several ways to know if it's ok. But right now, if he thinks one thing and you are confused as to why he and you need a bit of space and then you could be Good friends, even. It does happen sometimes. But, for that to really happen, you need to go through your grief of losing your boyfriend, YES, now is the time to LOOK after YOU, he will be fine, YOU need to watch out for yourself and get some new guy friends and hang out with other persons, and then you can clearly see whether or not he is someone (yes, you still care for him) who really cares enough for YOU to be A GOOD Friend for you, because that is equally important, not just the being friends, but the motives...a real friend looks out for your best interests, is he?.
2006-07-24 13:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion u cant be friends with an ex because most of the time one of u still has feelings for the other person. Its hard being just friends with someone that u had feelings for
2006-07-24 13:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you can't be his friend and care about him because it's just too difficult when you see him w/other females. It's better just to be hi and bye friends and just move one. And guys usually say they want to be friends so that they don't feel so bad about breaking up w/you. But they don't actually expect to continue to be friends, which is why he reacted the way he did when you tried.
2006-07-24 13:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by kayrrie101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care the way you care about him. I would say that as much as you care about him and want to be his friend it's just not going to work out that way. How are you going to feel if he starts to date someone and tells you that he really likes her and things you just don't want to know because your still head over heels over him. It will make you upset! I say to save yourself from futher hurt just tell him that you still have feelings for him and at this moment you just can't be his friend as much as you want to be you just can't.
2006-07-24 13:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what he means by that is that even though you guys have broken up he doesn't feel as if it is different. He might want his own space and to learn his mistakes on his own. It is not your fault that you still care for him because obviously you would but to him it feels as if you still want to be his girlfriend even when he has made it clear he doesn't want to be.
That is my take on it!
2006-07-24 13:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by nht_5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been friends with any of my exs. Does he still flirt with you ? sometimes they want to be friends to have sex still. Just be careful and watchout for signs of that.
2006-07-24 13:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by D-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical men, when they say they want to be friends, they think they arent hurting you, and they're also moving on to "bigger and better things" as if. if you ask me "can we still be friends" is kind of an impossible line to a lot of people.
2006-07-24 13:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by Janeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be his friend
care about him
but don't get jealous if he talks about other girls
treat him like one of your girlfriends
don't flirt with him (it's hard, i'm sure)
don't look at him "that way"
ask him about "boyfriend advice"
ask him for favors, but don't expect him to be buying you flowers for no special reason.
2006-07-24 13:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Fox 34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say NO .. they are just trying to be nice but dont have anything left in heart for u
2006-07-24 13:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a man..dont be friend with ur ex..cut off the communication..u have ur friends i guess...u dont need ur ex as friend...
2006-07-24 13:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by seveneight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋