I'm worried about my friend...?

Question

She's going out with boy that is two grades above her and has questionable judgement. I have reason to believe he has tried drugs..
She also sneaks out every other night at 2:00 to see him, even though that's when bars get out and she lives in a VERY dangerous neighborhood....her parents still dont know

When i try bringing it up she says she'll never do drugs...but when she's around him she acts very different=[ She assures me nothing has happened...yet.

I'm worried about her and i dont want to tattle to her parents, but i dont want to see her get hurt either=[
any advise?

i've tried talking to her and i can't seem for it to come out right




~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~she's 14~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Answer 1

This is a really tough situation to be in. You should probably go to your friend's house as soon as you can during the daylight hours, it won't be as dangerous then. Then, you could tell your friend's parents without your friend being around what she's been up to. Don't hold back any info. If you with-hold information, you're only asking for it - you will be accused for not guiding your friend when something happens to her and you have to remember which stuff you did tell her parents and which info. you didn't which gets you in an even worse situation.

If you don't want your parents to know about this, call her parents (even if they're at work) - THIS MATTERS. It's like some trauma waiting to happen. Okay, this guy sounds like a real jerk. Is there any way you can contact her that's not in person since she won't listen to you. For instance, you could IM her, e-mail her, phone, anything that helps your friend out.

People who have a bf/gf like this tend to lose their consciousness whenever they're around him/her. Try taking your friend to a place where she can't yell at you because you're telling her what she should do, not what she wants to hear.

Peoples' minds don't develop entirely until they're 30 (that's the front part of the brain that I'm talking about.) This part of the brain is used in judging situations and making ethical choices.

If you don't step in your friend could start using drugs and ruin her entire life, waste a real important part of her life on someone who isn't ethical or rational, get pregnant, get drunk, get in a car crash, become mentally disabled or handicapped.

Most people at this age do things their way because they don't want to be like their parents - they want to be unique. Her parents are probably very nice and ethical people and so she becomes the exact opposite of that. As you grow up, your judgement and decision making skills will get better.

This sounds like a drastic enough situation that you may actually have to call her parents when she's actually out at 2a.m. to prove that you're right and their daughter is making a huge mistake, it honestly could turn out to be the biggest mistake of her life unless you step in to the situation.

If you were the parent of this girl and she was doing these things, wouldn't you want to know? Take this into consideration. Your own judgement is always the most reliable source (most of the time anyway.)

Even though I'm only 15 and I'm talking like people my age are ignorant, only because some of them are, I still think this is really good advice.

Good Luck in getting this situation resolved.

Answer 2

She is 14! Tell her parents! She will not be your friend much longer anyway if you do not. You may be reading about her death in the newspaper or on TV when something bad happens to her at 2 in the morning. This is not "tattling" because tattling involves something irrelevant and petty. This is serious!! You could call her parents when you know they will be able to see her getting ready to leave, then they do not have to know you told them. You could have an adult who knows them to tell, but you MUST tell the adults responsible for your friend's safety- or you are not her real friend.

Answer 3

.... you have not heard from her in some days? on the subject of the situation, i may well be apprehensive too. possibly attempt calling her lower back .... or text cloth message her. in simple terms enable her comprehend you're slightly apprehensive, and that each and every physique you like is for her to call you and enable you to comprehend she's alright. she will fill you in on the small print at a later date. i comprehend the sensation. a individual i comprehend left as a results of 3 different circumstances and that i've got not heard a peep out of her in months. She grew to become into under a ton of rigidity that's the reason i grew to become into so apprehensive. i've got stopped hectic. I determine, she's the two lifeless in a ditch someplace, or hates me now and thanks to this i've got not heard any information. She knows i grew to become into apprehensive, and nevertheless not something. So, that's what it fairly is. desire your buddy calls you. ?

Answer 4

Please talk to her mother and have her mother get a protective court order against the kid. I'd say your friend is in great danger and doesn't have the background to protect herself. Many 14 yr old kids think they are indestructible and they aren't. If you can't talk to the mother talk to a school counselor, a minister or priest. Child protective services of the state may be able to help also. IM me with your city and state if you need phone numbers. You're a good friend.

Answer 5

Just tell her parents when she isn't around that you are worried about her and think she maybe getting mixed up in something she really don't want to be in. I'm not going to go into anymore detail. She will be sneaking out Tuesday at 2:00 am please catch her and don't let her know I was involved.

Answer 6

Someone needs to tell her parents. Doing the right thing hurts at times.
This is a form of protecting her. She will probably be angry for a while, and that's okay.
Anger passes.
Better that than being a parent at fifteen or dead . Dead IS dead.
Someone needs to let her parents know.
God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 7

This story ends one way Pregnant,stoner dropout who has no future. If you really care about her narc. Ask her parents to try to catch her in the act so she doesn't know you were the one who told. A good piece of advice; nothing good ever happens after midnight.

Answer 8

omg shes 14? thats horrible!!! uve gotta tell her parents, yet also tell them to not say a word that you told them. Tell her parents to make sure shes in bed at 2:00 and catch her when she gets back so it wont seem like you had anything to do with it, best of luck to u

Answer 9

aw. omg this sounds really serious. you should talk to ur freinds mom and dad about this. say that u have proof that the kid does drugs. if they say why didnt u tell us before just say that i ddint want [ur friends name] to get mad at me...
and its okey that ur telling ur paernets b/c they will see that u really care about ur friend. and a 14 year old shouldnt go out in the middle of night at 2:00 ..she can seriously get hurt and u will be half responsible b/c U KNEW THAT SHE WAS DATING HIM AND SNEAKING OUT OF THE HOUSE. .. so the best thing would be is to tell her parents as SOON AS POSSIBLE!
if ur friend gets mad at u just tell her that u really care about her and u dont want anything happend to her.. wat r freinds for?

good luck =]

Answer 10

well since she is dating a 16 year old whos hormones are probably racing and since she is only 14, u NEED to tell someone it is your duty as a friend to tell someone, anyone someone that u trust that could come you up with a real ansewer someone that knows her. maybe just a tip to her parents, they NEED to know. sorry u are put into this prediciment. but she needs a friend, that isnt a 16 year old boy that wants to jump her bones. or u could end up with a pregnant friend that u will come to visit and have to help get around and get her craving food.