My fiancee and I have lived together for 4yrs and have three kids,we have finally decided to tie the knot.Should we just pay for everthing ourselves?
2006-07-24 12:45:26 · 20 answers · asked by simply2priceless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're going to have sit your father down and just ask him. I asked my dad what he could afford to chip in, so he didn't feel obligated to pay for the whole thing because I didn't get married until I was 31. My husband's parents ended up paying for half and my dad the other half. Definitely ask him, he may have always planned on paying for the whole thing anyway.
2006-07-25 06:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should pay for everything yourselves. After 3 kids and living together for four years, you've put the horse before the cart, it's up to you to pay for your own wedding. If you can't afford a big lavish wedding you could always go to the Justice Of The Peace and then have a family dinner. I would imagine with three kids there's not a lot of money to blow on a wedding anyway.
What's more important to you? Being married to the father of your three children or spending a sh*t load of money to impress a bunch of people that are going to bring some butt ugly useless wedding presents that you'll end up selling on eBay?
2006-07-24 12:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answers...you have been living together and have already started your family. To ask your father to pay for anything regarding your wedding is in bad taste. He may volunteer to help pay, which would be fine...but foot the bill yourselves...it's the right thing to do. At this point in your relationship it's not all about the wedding anyways...it's about legalizing your partnership. It doesn't have to be expensive.
2006-07-24 14:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition says that the father of the bride pays for everything.
However, if dear ole dad is cheap, or can't afford it, or doesn't want to, because of the choices that you've made in your own life...then you have to do this:
go half way. Let dad pay for half and let the groom's family pay for the other half.
You love the guy so much and you love your family too., so that should be only fair., no matter what!
2006-07-24 12:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for it yourselves. In the old days, a gentleman would ask for the hand of the daughter fromt he father. Then dad would pay for wedding.
You've already started your life had your kids and lived together for 4 years. You're not daddy's little girl anymore.
Pay for your own wedding. It's not his responsibility anymore.
2006-07-24 12:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to customs from many years back the brides family pays for the wedding plain and simple.But being that you have been living like a married couple with children for four years now that really might not apply.I would talk with him about it and get his thoughts about the subject and go from there.
2006-07-24 12:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have two kids... and plan on getting married soon. But Im still going to ask. I have figured out the little part I would like him to help with, and plan on approaching him with that. I dont think it hurts to ask, plus I know my dad will help. So what.. sometimes children come before getting married. Thats how I look at it. People need to get over that. Just ask him... who knows he might say yes and he might tell you no!
2006-07-24 13:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by JustWondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would just say hey dad ur little girl is getting married. Are you going to be able to help out on some of the expenses. He will give you ur answer. If he just says yea, ask how much. Are you can go thru the back door. Ask mom does she think they can help out and if so will she check with dad. good luck
2006-07-24 12:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you're kind of old to ask your dad for money, but try this: Dad I'm getting married next year, will you be able to help us with any of the expenses?
2006-07-24 14:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋