I shot my mans self esteem and now he thinks we shouldn't be together because he isn't what I need. I know he loves me but I have told him maybe we should break up so many times and now he thinks it too. How do I make him understand that all the horrible things I might say when I'm mad isn't how I feel about us as a whole? How do I make him feel better about us and let him know that I will do anything to make it better? Can I even make it better? He says he still wants to marry me but how can that ever happen when we aren't even toghether or on decent speaking terms!!!
2006-07-24 12:26:48 · 5 answers · asked by toobadfaya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe this might help, because eveyone is making me seem like I am a horrible person and that is no the case. Him and I have been together for four years, I haven't seen him in 8 months. No Christmas gift, no birthday gift. I know he loves me but I feel like I need more to be secure. He broke up with me in our 2 nd year and then we got back together it made me very insecure about our relationship. We never really discussed it and it has been eating away at me. So when I get mad it comes out. I know its wrong but can anyone understand where I'm coming from? I told him all this last night and he says he still doesn't feel his heart is in coming to see me!! HELP
I want him to come because I feel if 8 months can go by with no visit its possible for another 8 to go by with no visit. Of course he cant see this
2006-07-24 12:27:46 · update #1
Sorry correction we have not seen each other for longer than a weekend in 8 months. He doesn't live around the corner.
2006-07-24 12:36:00 · update #2
I know where you are coming from and from a mans point of view I can tell you that after awhile a man will get the feeling that the relationship is like the blind leading the blind. I say this because I have been there and to this day I am still friends with the girl, but the scars that never heal are the ones you don't see. BTW we were together for quite awhile, but although we talk on-line as well as over the phone almost every day we have not seen each other in over 20 yrs, and we don't live that far apart, so Hun if you really do love him and you really do want to be with him, might I suggest you seek some professional help, you might be depressed and not even know it or you may have a disorder like bi polar that causes you to snap and say mean things and not realize it, but to the person it is happening to it is very real and he might really feel that there is no hope although he may remain friends with you, some day he may wish to get married and that will naturally cut down on his contacting you. I hope you are taking what I am telling you in stride cause you sound like a good person that is just wanting an answer to try and save something that you really care about.
2006-07-24 12:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not move on? There's other fish in the sea, sounds like you've been 'round the bend with this one, time to strike out for fresh waters and happier times...
2006-07-24 19:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like you got what you had coming to you, if a woman kept shooting me down I'd be damned if i would come back to her.probably better you get on with your life and chalk this one up as a learning experience.Good Luck in the future
2006-07-24 19:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months is a pretty sure sign its over. Next time learn from your mistakes.
2006-07-24 19:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by hi t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-07-24 19:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by tampabayfriends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋