What is a real date anyway? Do you have to go out in public together and does he have to pay for something?
2006-07-24 12:25:31 · 31 answers · asked by love154100 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it is not considered a real date unless the sex part lasts all weekend.in a real date the guy picks you up,takes you somewhere you like going,and pays for the majority of the costs involved in both you having fun.if your being told that sex is a date. i would like to know what you are doing this friday night.
2006-07-24 12:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting together just for sex is not a real date.
A date involves building emotional intimacy that progresses a relationship towards a more serious or deeper level. If things go positively over all it will eventually result in engagement and marriage.
Getting together for sex involves physical intimacy, but no emotional intimacy. It is the great tragedy of our time. It hurts the relationship because it is used in place of the natural place of emotional intimacy. People "feel deeply connected" because their bodies have touched in deep places. But in reality they would not "die to save the other person" like they would for their best friend.
You shouldn't have sex with someone who isn't your best friend first. But people do all the time because they want to feel pretty, or accepted.
A "real" date doesn't have to be in public. He doesn't have to buy anything fancy.
A great date might be picking up a rented DVD and getting drive through. For a total cost of $10. But if you spend the night getting to know each other. And really sharing who you are, and listening to them talk, you will feel the warmth of connection. When it is the right person it is sweeter than any other thing in this world.
On the other hand, it can be the "hottest guy". The most "It" bar. You have a designer dress. He brings you a $100 bouquet of roses, picks you up in a great car, and spends a fortune on dinner. Then wraps a very "in" little charm bracelet on you. Then you have a hot night at a pricy hotel. Total cost $1000 for the night. You feel beautiful and you can wait to tell you best friend about all the great places you went with..."what’s his name?" Basically you are a prostitute. You didn't agree on a price ahead of time, but he paid and you laid. Same dif.
I hope that clears it up for you.
2006-07-24 19:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Violet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a date or anything even close to a date. A real date is that you spend time together whether going out or staying in, and getting to know each other through talking. If your only getting together to do the *deed* that's a friends with benefits or as someone earlier mentioned a f*** buddy.
Any guy that really respected you and wanted to develop a relationship would not just come over to get a nut off.... sorry!
2006-07-24 19:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no hon, that's what called a booty call. are you two together anyhow, because sex is something that is special and it should be with someone you love and who loves you and neither of you are seeing or having sex with anyone else. i don't think that for it to be a date that it has to be public or that anyone has to pay for anything a movie night at either home or just a candle lit meal, or a late picnic on the beach or in a park. as to what a date is as defined by me of course is when two person decide to meet or one collects the other person for a specified or unspecified time to go somewhere and spend time in the others' company getting to know each other. anyhow whatever you do enjoy and be able to respect yourself the next day. all the best.
2006-07-24 19:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Is that ALL you do? If all he is there for is sex, and nothing else, that's a booty call, and he does not respect you.
If he takes you out first, and does things with you outside of your house or his house, that says that he respects you and likes spending some quality time with you. Now, that's a real date. If you two get together indoors, after quality time together outside, then you'll know he's not around just for the sex.
2006-07-24 19:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting together just for sex is a "booty call" not a date. It is what it is.... If a person takes you out (in public or have a nice romantic dinner waiting for you) and then you have sex, that's a date. Not just f#@king, if you want more don't let a person disrespect you like that and don't settle for less.
2006-07-24 19:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date has nothing to do with sex. Sleeping together usually occurs in a private place... not a Taco Bell! A date is going out, and sex is staying in.
2006-07-24 19:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Momma 83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just a booty call!!!
a date is meeting up, doing something (dinner, movies, dancing, etc.) the both of you would enjoy together to get to know each other. there are many ways of paying for the date, one person pays (the guy - i am old fashion) or the bill can be split in half. it doesn't necessarily have to be in public... you can make dinner at your place or vice versa, rent movies, etc.... but for the sake of safety, if it's the initial meeting... don't go to each others house. just use common sense.
2006-07-24 19:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by charwants2know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying isn't necessary to be considered. You could go for a walk, bike riding,sit inder the stars. Sex as a date? That's a toss up question.
2006-07-24 19:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he doesn't have to pay for something, u need to read some dating books or talk to some ppl about dating cuz u r clueless. and getting together to have sex is no date at all.
2006-07-24 19:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋