go. That is the good part. There is no bad part, except, that as a dad I realized she is growing up. She won't be that loose toothed little girl forever showing off her bumps and bruises(not from me, but from being a tree climbing tom boy) and being completely uninterested in boys. Those days are numbered. It is a double edged sword. It is great that she is more independent, but it is not so great that she needs me less. There is a question in here somewhere. As parents, how do you/did you react to this? You want to hold on, but you have to let go.
2006-07-24 12:25:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh, I forget. She was starting a week of girl scout camp. The whole summer is one long regimen of soccer tournaments and camps for her.
2006-07-24 12:29:00 · update #1
Walk her down the aisle? She is not dating until she's thirty. Just kidding. We all go through the same things as parents, but it is always different.
2006-07-24 12:43:40 · update #2
Walk her down the aisle? She is not dating until she's thirty. Just kidding. We all go through the same things as parents, but it is always different.
2006-07-24 12:43:51 · update #3
Ok you are so tugging at my heartstrings today. Why? Well just Sunday I put my 11 year old on a plane up to Maine. All by herself. Ok nevermind that her mom hates to fly and has a real fear; that wasn't the point. The point is........what you are describing right now is exactly what I said to myself as tears ran down my cheek.
She was beaming.......so excited... waved as she disappeared at the gate. She said she felt so independent and grown up and I had to say to her, "You are grown up!" She packed herself.......I snuck stuff in her suitcase and she literally came downstairs and said, "Mom, you silly goose. I have plenty of clothes packed!"
I have this need to be needed and I suppose as parents we face the fear of no longer being necessary. But I'm so much older and still need my mom daily. She's no longer here.......but I still need her. It's just that as our kids grow they need us in different ways. No longer do we pull teeth and kiss scratched knees and make the most delicious peanut butter and jelly sandwich ever. We guide in a much different way.........yet they still turn to us.
(((hugs him))) I so feel your concern. I embrace it too. But just as parents before us have gotten through this fear........we will too. :)
2006-07-25 14:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Just keep the good memories and make more good memories. I remember when my eldest child started seeing a boy for the first time. I found out at a carnival. We happened to be on the same ride and, when the ride stopped, our seats stopped, facing each other. Talk about a lump in the throat!
Your little girl is growing up. Be there for her when she needs you and always tell her you love her and you may have to let go, but you won't lose her.
2006-07-24 13:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am answering this with my newborn grandson in my arms. I know that memory of which you speak. I have his older sister beside me, chatting up a storm. I remember when my own were this little and it breaks my heart to think that I have lost all that.
I relish the moments that my daughter shares her little ones with me. To hold that warm, little body in my arms and marvel at the perfection. To laugh at the little girl when she says, 'Bye, bye birdy.' To hear that baby cry and feel that tug at my heart the way it did 20 years ago. To look at my granddaughter and see her mother in her.
For those moments alone, I am back to when mine were all little and how much I enjoyed them then.
The years travel quickly once you have children. It is as though someone pressed a Fast Forward button and walked away. You become so busy with everything that is going on that you tend to forget to 'smell the roses' and 'count your blessings'.
Why do you think scrapbooking has become such a popular hobby? I am glad to know that it is, because that means people are taking an interest in their families and treasuring what time they have with them. They are looking to re-enforce those positive memories and keep them close to their hearts.
2006-07-25 04:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Y!ABut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son turned 38 this summer and whenever we visit, we have a great time together. Somehow I cannot get used to the idea that he is an able businessman. I can only think of him as this young boy who was lazy, easy going, average student in school.
I have a hard time to fathom my children being capable at doing anything, but yet they do. They have wonderful families and are great parents.
So you see, in our hearts, they will always be that little boy or girl.....smile
2006-07-24 16:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be growing up fast, but just think of the great things there are still to come. as long as u love her and care for her no matter what, she will always need you for something. weather it is for money or for a ride to the movies with her friends, at least u know u r needed. just wait until she gets into high school, she will need ur advice sometime. she will grow up and she will get married and have a life of her own, but there has to b something special about a father. he gets the chance to walk her down the isle.
good luck,
..::Catherine::..
2006-07-24 12:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you know it you will be a grandfather Mr. Enzyme. Seriously the time does fly by. My one and only son is getting married next summer, although it was only 'yesterday' I watched him play little league baseball. This past weekend we did a father-son trip to Philly to see the Phillies play. Friday night we walked around downtown until midnight. Saturday the game was rained out, but we enjoyed just sitting and shooting the bull. He is a grown man now, obvious in his intellect and appearance, but
he still is that little boy to me sometimes. She will always be your little girl Mr. Enzyme, no matter what.
2006-07-24 13:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sanitizer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little girl is growing up. Kids will always need their parents no matter how old they are. Maybe not as much but they will still need them. And parents will do what many have been doing for years, they will help their kids and be there for them.
2006-07-24 12:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a parent is filled with that from the time they first learn to smile. everything that they learn to do helps them become more independant. thats what your still there for, to help her out along the way. every step she takes by herself, praise her. never forget that you will ALWAYS be her parent. she will never NOT need you, her needs just become different.
as my daughter gets older and more independant i think about how she will always know she can come to me for anything. i just love her, watch her grow and remind her a thousand times a day that i love her. :)
2006-07-24 12:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to let them grow up...but you have taught her what she knows and she is acting on it. have faith and trust that you did her right. Wait till shes 16 and it seems like she only wants ya for a taxi..lol....thats my job now days...but I wouldn't take her any other way. She says I'm the best mom and I'm sure your daughter would say none the less....your sadness will turn to pride as time goes by...sit back and enjoy the ride!!!!
2006-07-24 12:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it might seem obvious, but do tell her how great she is. Make it clear to her, not go on bragging to others. Do some half hard responsiblity stuff, like give her something a little more challenging in responsibility to do, but not as much as an adult.
2006-07-24 12:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Too Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋