2006-07-24 12:20:50 · 19 answers · asked by sabcarbus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be there for support. Not much you can do but understand there will periods of mood swings. They have nothing to do with you as a person so just be understanding when they happen.
2006-07-24 12:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by alfredenuemann98195 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly, I lost my mum to cancer 18 years ago. Sounds a long time, but I still miss her terribly. My best mate really did her best for me, I was a wreck and yet she was always there, not sad (which would have set me off)-not smiling (not trying to pretend nothing happened)- just there, and it helped a lot to know that she was a solid lump of flesh that I could hug whenever I wanted and could cry in her ear and she would wipe my tears away. Let your friend lead the way, if she wants to talk she will, but if you REALLY think she needs help with depression -then ask her to go to the Doctor with you - that's a good way of getting appropriate councelling that I never had
2006-07-24 12:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by DonnaDoop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression and grieving are different things (I know this, alas!)
It will just take time. You can only be a good friend. Don't try to avoid the subject, don't over-sympathise. For a while she may think that she has to feel bad. One day, she will realise that she has spent an hour without thinking about her father. Later, it may be a whole afternoon.
As others have recommended: talk about her favourite memories, to remind her that her Dad wanted her to be happy.
2006-07-24 13:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too just lost my dad. and you sound like a very good friend. your friend is going to go through a whole of emotions. as she heals alittle.she will keep alot of her feelings to her self. and slowly let some out to you, that just a maybe.there is so much you keep to yourself and over the years she will talk alittle more about thinks that her dad did and that. just being her friend is good, one thing that you can try but i don't know if it will work when she is down is to try to get her out. but to be there my self and a have a good friend that i grew up with is always phoning me or emailing me with these beautiful ecards. plus time heals all wounds where you can live again without so much pain inside, you learn where to put it and you don't go there too much or try not too. just be the same old friend that you have always been to her. good luck. and all the best to your friend that you care deeply for.
2006-07-24 13:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Linda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard as i lost both my parents to terminal cancer nearly 3 years ago, they died within 3 months of each other and i dont know what on earth id of done if my husband hadnt of been there to help and support me trough it.
all you can do is be there for her and listen to her and give her a hug if she needs it, it will take time and although she will never forget, it will after a time get better as it goes along.if you are really worried about her speake to either her gp with her permission or a mamber of the family if she has any.otherwise just be the best m8 which im sure you are, that you can ever be for her and alweays be there.
2006-07-28 09:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by jennycamuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is little you can do other than being there whenever she needs you.
You could also advise her some therapy, like trauma counselling but she'll have to decide whether she wants to do it or not, you can't push her into it.
I'm a massage therapist, aromatherapy can do wonders for bereaved people, so why don't you offer a day at a spa with her?
2006-07-24 23:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Littlegreydevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be her friend and let her cry until she can't cry anymore. As much as it will hurt you to see her like that, that is what she is going to need to do. Getting drunk or partying is not going to take away the pain. This was her father. Get her to tell you about him. All the things they did when she was growing up. Funny times will make her smile. Talk about good things to come and just be there for her.
2006-07-24 12:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by georgia_chick1011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her..show her your kindness.. yes there will be a lot of tears and your friend will feel down ...she will feel as if her world has come to an end...talk to her about her dad about the good times they had,,,of holidays they might of had...tell her she is not alone in losing some one to cancer...she will given time get over it ...it might take a few weeks or it might take a few years...
just be there for her that's what friend are for
2006-07-24 12:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by spotonmybum01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her- and do all the boring things that she needs to still do but cant be bothered to such as shopping etc tell her to celebrate his life like he would have wanted he certainly wouldnt want her to be depressed- its gonna be a long hard road i know but if you stand by her shell come through it and even tho the pain never leaves it does ease a little each day- god bless you and your friend xx
2006-07-24 12:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you can do is show you love them try and tell the person you will be there no matter what go with your hart and make sure this person see that you love them and that you are around them in this time of need
2006-07-24 12:31:01 · answer #11 · answered by Mr KENNEDY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋