ok so i have to go to my dads house 3 times a week...i really dont like going there. I dont want to talk about why...but do i have to go? will i get introuble if i dont go or refuse to go. someone told me that i had the rite to go or not but i dint think that was true could someone please help me?
2006-07-24 11:59:49 · 9 answers · asked by Samatha P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to feel in your heart what is right for you. You know what it's like being with your dad. You didn't use father. When a person is close to their family they give them the honer of calling them with the respect that they need.
My father never live one day in my house, but I wanted to talk to him to see what made be me. Like it or not you have a lot of him in you. The only way you can learn about you if you are with him. Life is not easy, but one day you will have children and one is going to be just like your dad and you don't know what to do with him or her because you didn't take the time to learn who he was as a person. Because we are human that is how we learn from the one that is close to us. The apple don't fall to fare from the tree.
2006-07-24 12:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by kenyatta r 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the law in your state, and what your age is. Your parents signed a "separation agreement" when they got divorced, or the court made a decision and that is why you are going there now. I really don't know your circumstances, but if you are 18 or older and not "emancipated", meaning still in school, the separation agreement provisions that govern custody, visitation and child support are probably still in effect. In practice, there is no way anyone can force you when you are 18 to keep going there. Between the ages of 14 and 18 it's not exactly clear what your rights would be, but if you change what you are doing and refuse to go, it would probably mean your parents would have to go back to court to settle it again. Your best decision would be to talk to your mother openly and honestly about why you do not want to to.
2006-07-24 19:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what type of custody your father has. And why you don't like going.
If there are any type of laws being broken you definite don't have to go: Like he drives drunk with you in the car etc.
If it is more along the lines of you don't like the neighbor kids, or the lady you Dad is dating that is a lot tougher for you.
I would try talking to your folks about it. If they are reasonable you should be able to work something out. If the last arrangement had to be worked out with lawyers you might recommend they try getting a mediator to work this one out. It costs a lot less and the focus is on getting the family to work without placing blame.
The phone book should have some, many states have a list of Qualified/ certified Mediators.
2006-07-24 19:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal Violet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state where you live. Ask the court for a guardian ad litem. Which is basically an attorney of your own that represents your wishes. Also you may want to speak to a counselor as to the reason you do not want to visit your father.
2006-07-24 19:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to give a proper reason for it then you shouldn't have to go if you don't want to.
If your dad isn't happy about it your mum (or whoever you live with) might have to go to court and explain that it's you who wants to stop the contact (or go less often).
That sounds like a lot of fuss, but if you really don't like going it's worth it.
2006-07-24 19:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by ftmshk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I do believe you have the right to chose whether you want to go or not. But it would have to go in front of a judge I think. I'm not sure but you can talk to your mom about it, I believe that you have to be a certain age to decide on your own, check with your local laws.
2006-07-24 19:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but if you are under 18 you don't have much choice. You may find your Mom will support your wishes if you're honest with her about why you don't want to go. Moms do want their kids to be happy.
2006-07-24 19:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Leslie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to go, though someone will probably want to know why...which unfortunately means you will have to talk about it. No one can force you to go though.
Good luck.
2006-07-24 19:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do have a right cuz i have been there done that and if u dont wanna go u dont have to
2006-07-24 19:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by badb0y69420_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋