Are there any WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH out there?

Question

are there women or men who keep on having unhealthy relationships and for whom it was or it is difficult to be happy??? i used to be a girl who loves too much, now im not really, i feel happy by myself, the problem is i dont wanna let anyone in my world, and its difficult for me to go with ppl for diner or wknd or whatever, i feel like i lose control during these activities, and im so afraid to fall into depression and suffer again that i prefer to stay alone. i read some books about that, and it says that i shouldnt trust anyone, just those who accept me and who really like me and are interested, but i dont know, i think i am this with too many ppl

Answer 1

Yea. Me! I am an older woman and I am holding on to _______
well, I will try to be nice. I came down a few notches in who I thought was a good man for me. My thing is I don't care to be alone. I know a lot of women who say they are content being by themselves. They seem happy enough. But when I try it I always end up back with the same loser. This has been going on for over 6 years. I love and enjoy my family and sometimes I can go places and enjoy myself. When I go home I am fine until the sun goes down. I have been so very disrespected by this person. I believe I will always need the feeling of a man next to me in bed even if we are not intimate. I know it sounds pitiful. and sometimes I feel pitiful.

Answer 2

I completely understand you. I am coming out of a relationship where I truly feel for the guy but life had it that we were not meant to be together. I took it very very hard. As a matter a fact im still going through it. But as i try to let go of him and the fake friends that destroyed us i find myself being alone most of the time. I stay home alot now and I dont really like meeting new pp cuz im afraid they might hurt me. And i have never been that type of person I have always been outgoing and very happy and hated being alone. But to tell you the truth i think that this time alone is very needed. Perhaps it is for u too. It is helping me feel comfortable in my own skin and its showing me that i can learn how to just depend on myself and to be quite honest its helping me get to know myslef. And trust me i know it gets lonely and i get depressed at times but its normal. when u feel like that go for a walk, talk to family, or talk to old friends (real friends). And as for the guy dept., i think u should give urself time to heal from watever u are dealing with so u dont end up worse. Learn to be happy with yourself and when u are ready everything else will fall into place.

Answer 3

You read my mind, or heart in this instance. I am the one that always gets hurts in relationships, & not because I go after the "bad boys". I have never liked them, but no matter how nice I am told the guy is before I date him, I always get hurt. It has gotten to the point that I do not want to go out with someone unless they are absolutely perfect for me because so far I have always been happier by myself.
I am told the key to being happy is to find someone that loves you more than you love them. But I think that I would have to pretend to be someone I am not (someone less feeling) to do that. And if one tries to settle, that it does not work, that I really am happier by myself.

(Have you read the book "All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise" by Daylle Deanna Schwartz?)

Answer 4

Happiness is a slippery one to find. To find another person whose idea of happiness matches your own, or is similar enough to yours is an excercise that humans have been practicing since forever but its such a fun excercise!

I keep myself happy with the thought that there are over 6,000,000,000 people out there and at least a good handful of them will share happiness with me. Whether the love we share is too oppressive or not shown strongly enough will be a matter of fine-tuning, as it is with everything.

If its hard to find a good latté, how much harder is it going to be finding that person that wakes you up with a shower of rosepetals or a continental breakfast in bed or whatever you desire?

Answer 5

hey girl, your really going through something there. its hard for me to trust ppl too. its not healthy to stay home all the time. you should go out with friends and have a good time. ppl are not going to hurt you... if you refer to guys you know we all make mistakes and the only thing we can do is learn from them and make them a lesson. keeping that in mind, why not enjoy your weekends or your days off go out or with family! be happy and try to make the most of everything you do. do you run? or walk? you should try it it helps release stress!! Doctors recommend to work out for 30 minutes a day outdoords to release stress. and it really helps even mentally! try it.!

Answer 6

i try to get rid of my unhealthy attitudes,i wouldn't want to fall in love until i was married,marriage is not a garauntee but it is still better in my opinion,i am the passionate pisces and know what you mean,love is like oxygen ya get too much you get too high,not enough and your in danger of dying,a person who isolates himself seeks his own desire and that is not good either,a few good activity partners probably wouldn't be so bad

Answer 7

Some women feel they love to much. So do you often suffer from depression ?