How can I be encouraging and caring to single mothers in church?

Question

Where I am from, there is a high influx of young girls that are single parents and the fathers are absent from thier lives.

What are ways I can help these young moms, they do get a lot of jugdement very few breaks in life and not a lot of love.

I admit I was bitter b/c they had the babies I was unable to have, and God is dealing with my heart condition, but me being bitter is not going to help my situaion or these young girls either.

What are postive ways to bless and minister to the single parents in my church, in my family and in my community?

Answer 1

What a truly caring person you are to reach out to these women in need! You mention you are unable to have children of your own. Have you considered that God presented this ministry opportunity to you for reasons related to your circumstances?

Children of young single moms need extra love and attention, since their mothers are often working two jobs to support them both. What a wonderful opportunity for you to show God's love to a child and its mother, both of whom are lonely and in need of emotional support! The best thing you can do is listen, emphathize (not just sympathize!) and offer advice from your actual experience.

Also, many young mothers don't realize how fortunate they are to have a child. Reality has set in and they can become depressed, losing sight of the great gift God has given them. With your personal circumstances and compassion, you seem to be a natural choice to exhort and build them up!

And finally, I don't know how much older you are than these young women, but Titus 2:3-5 offers good advice on the important things older women should be teaching younger women. At the end of your teaching, I pray these young women will understand the true meaning of 1 Timothy 2:15 (a much-misunderstood verse!)

May God bless and keep you; may He make His face to shine upon you as you begin this urgently needed ministry!

Answer 2

first of all i dont know if there is a way to comment to hedgehogharry but If i could see him I would kick him straight in the A S S !! No one knows what situations happened to each of the single mothers out there.. if they were young and got pregnant, hey at least they didnt have an abortion and kill an innocent new life. Well i could go on.. but God is there for everyone and i am happy you want to help out. if you have a church bulletin post something in there saying you are interested in helping.. maybe babysitting for a night so that single mom can get away for a night, or if you have some extra money, maybe help out with a pack of diapers or something. See if you can start a support group in the church, something that they can all go to and just have fun.. I know when i was a teenager and got pregnant i stopped going to church because of the judgemental parishiners, I since married my kids father and have been married for 9 years.. Good Luck with this, i am sure it is a much needed calling!

Answer 3

Form a group just for them. Have the group meetings after church where the girls can talk and get to know one another. Its always nice to have someone that knows what your going threw to talk to. You could even ask them to donate for snacks for the meeting. Especially if some of them have children already its nice to let there children play with the other children. Everyone can relate. And it you don't have the time for that don't feel sorry for them that's the worst thing in the world Just congrats them ask them how they feel and how the baby is coming along as if you are one of the grandmothers of there new child.

Answer 4

single parent family=financial crisis.

try a babysitting service that is either cheap or free of charge for mothers who need to get a job or have one, but cannot afford childcare.

just be friendly and as nonjudgemental as possible. doing unselfish things for others and taking care of business in your own life will be rewarding. and you never know what kind of blessing you'll recieve.

i am recently married and have a friend who will be 33 this year--she is now recently engaged. she has always lamented that she is in her thirties and doesn't have a husband or child. now she'll have both. as soon as she started focusing on being a better friend and on her work--she got exactly what she wanted out of life.

Answer 5

Maybe you just have to realize that things happen, and noone can take responsiblity for someone else's actions. If the father isn't there I am pretty sure that the girl never planned it that way, and you have to realize that too. I am sorry that you can't have children your own, but have you thought of adoption? That may help you, fostering or adopting? You should look into that.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

you can lead a ear, sometimes it's not what you can give, it's more of if you listen to them! they been through a lot and if they are in church then they are on the right path, so sometimes it's just good to listen and let them know your there for them! just knowing that someone cares can make a big difference! i wish you well on your ttc'ing god will bless you one day with a loving child!!

Answer 8

Ask them. They will best know what they need. Family oriented activities such as barbecues and movie afternoons can be great. Occasional free babysitting, drives to grocery shopping and medical appointments, organizing clothing exchanges for baby/toddler clothes.

Answer 9

I think it's fantastic that you even have a desire to help them. You could majorly shape these women's and their children's lives simply by being there for them. Even just calling for a chat or going out for coffee can make someone feel so special.

Answer 10

I think letting them know how much God loves them and how proud you are of them doing such a job alone. Offer them help by babysitting or giving their children treats. I am sure any help you could give them they would appreciate.