My boyfriend and I are apart for the whole summer, and he's in his hometown and hangs out alot with this girl that he used to like for AGES in elementary and middle school... This girl is really pretty and talented (even though I'm decent as well) but I can't stop thinking about all the events they're organizing for kids' summer camps and just stuff they're doing together, and I can't stop looking her up on the internet and looking at friends' photo albums to find her pictures and compare myself against her! I've been with my boyfriend a year and I do trust him, but I don't know this girl at all and always wonder if she's gonna flirt with him or whatever... please help me... I don't want to be a jealous stalker...
also: GUYS:-- what would you think of this if you knew about my problem and was in my boyfriend's place?
2006-07-24 11:48:56 · 15 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's totally normal to be jealous, I'd probably be jealous too. But I wouldn't worry too much about this, summer's almost over, and if he decided to stay with you even when you guys were going to be apart for three months, he definitely loves you. It'd be easy to break it off with you if he had any interest in this girl, but the fact that he hasn't broken up with you shows that you're the one he wants. No matter how pretty or talented she is, if he loves you, she can't do anything to change that.
2006-07-24 11:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Natalia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he told you about this friend of his and makes no attempts to hide her from you should put your mind more at ease. If he were sneaking around, he'd be very hush-hush about the stuff they're doing for the kids and stuff. Just because he had a crush on her a while back doesn't mean he does now. He's with you for a reason and you need to have some confidence in yourself. There will always be someone prettier, smarter, more taleneted, etc. than you, but it's you that makes you YOU! Different, unique and special from everyone else, and you have to have faith that your boyfriend sees those wonderful things in you.
2006-07-24 18:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did say that you know your boyfriend didn't you? Well trust what you know about your boyfriend. This other girl is no better or worse than you are, in fact you must be better, you've got the guy. Why waste your summer being jealous of someone you have never met? She isn't you and can't compare to you.
As for the guys...boys will be boys. They all live for the moment. Trust your boyfriend and continue to be you. If he doesn't return , you never really had him to lose in the first place.
Be confident in you!
2006-07-24 18:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, I know this problem, first hand, frontwards, backwards, side to side, second hand.. well, you get my point. I'm a very jealous person myself. My boyfriend tends to hangout with far more girls than guys, which makes me nervous. Not only are these girls wonderful, but great looking. There is no 100% cure to jealousy, but you should talk to your boyfriend about it. I know what you're thinking, that's what everyone says. It's true though, just getting it off your chest is a great release, explain to him what you're going through, have a nice cry. Most of all, keep yourself occupied. As we all know, out of sight, out of mind. Don't torment yourself anymore, get active, go out, have fun.
2006-07-24 18:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by CrimsonStained 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy, I would smile at the thought, but I would take things downa notch with the other girl. There are ways to be nice and to be friends without flirting or hitting on the girl. She probably will flirt with him a little bit, but if he loves you I wouldn't worry.
Jealousy is natural, but it can eat you up. Dont let it.
2006-07-24 18:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by FM?FU! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN DNT GIVE A FLYING **** what other people might think...You know one of the rules is not to tell ur bf...everything so keep that type of **** 2ur self...it is completely normal to feel jealous from what ur telling here...but PLEASSSE zip it....
ANYWAY, from all the info that u have, If I were you and you have the possibility to be in the picture, Ill be there in a flash, since she represents a BIG threat...is not that u dnt trust him or ur not secure of ur self...BUT theres an british saying that goes like this: IF YOU DONT TAKE CARE OF WHAT IS YOURS, THEN YOU SHOULD LOOSE IT...
If is not in your hands to go to him make him come back as soon as possible with any excuse....if neither of this is possible let him go, if he comes back at you he is yours....
Remember being secure of ur bf or your relation dnt mean to be negligent about it...or to leave him loose like that...but allways using your head....dnt let him see you coming or knowing your biteing your nails about it...ok....good luck
2006-07-24 19:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with him that long you should know wether or not to trust him. He's probably just hanging out with her because he has nothing else to do if you were there you would be the person he was hanging out with. Tell him how you feel and he'll set you straight and tell you theres nothing between him and this other girl.
2006-07-24 18:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be open and tell him how you feel
he should be able to understand
but usually relationships between a guy and a girl that start of in elementary school stay as a "just friends" relatioship
and face it, if that girl was better than you
then your boyfriend would be going out with her
but he's not with her he's with you
2006-07-24 18:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by M<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just confront ur boyfriend on it and try to go down there and spend some time with him. and also meet this girl cause u never know she might have some serious issues or somethin that are keepin him from liking her. but u truly dont kno till u confront him on the subjuect and see if u can visit him down there
2006-07-24 18:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases you have to trust him and know if he really loves you the he won't cheat on you knowing he will lose the girl he loves the most!
2006-07-24 18:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jazmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋