So I broke up with my boyfriend about 2 weeks ago. He can be a total asshole, and he's a liar too. But when I think about the times we kissed and cuddled and had fun I miss it a lot. I ignore his phone calls and I feel kind of bad about it, but I know that I shouldn't be with him anymore because he doesn't treat me right. Still, I feel like I want him to keep calling and caring because I still think about him a lot. I know I can't get back with him because it wouldn't end well and he's a player, plus he has a new girlfriend already. He can be and I guess he IS a total asshole, but for some reason I still think about him. What should I do?
2006-07-24 11:45:49 · 19 answers · asked by babyrooster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's only been 2 weeks, girl. Give yourself time. That's wonderful that you won't take his calls or dignify them with any response. It's what you should be doing. And you know he's not worthy of you. Just remember how much of an ****** he was to you every time you think of the kisses and cuddles. I bet you'd rather be kissed and cuddled by a guy who isn't an ****** so just take the time you need for yourself and keep busy with friends and activities. Before you know it, you'll think about him and think, "Yuck! What was I thinking?" Trust me...it will happen. Good luck!
2006-07-24 11:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's Common To Think About Things Like This. Relationships Will DO That To You. It's Always Ok To Remember Good Times In Your Life. But With The Good Theres The Bad. You Will Get Over Him In Time. He Didn't Treat You Right Remember That Because There Will Always Be Someone Who Will Treat You The Way You Should Be Treated And That's A Start To Even Better Times.
2006-07-24 18:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by nitehawk8075 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise you that will end some day soon. Yes it is possible to still love someone that you cared so much about on the other hand you know he is a total a**. Give it some time and the feeling will subside, your doing the right thing by not returning his phone calls etc.. because eventually he will leave you alone. It hurts for the moment but I promise it will subside. It's naturally to still think about him... it has only been 2 weeks. You'll be okay. God Bless
2006-07-24 18:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal to easily remember the good times and hardly remember the bad times that you spent with the wrong person. You might consider writing down a list of all the things you disliked about this person, so as to remind yourself why you are better off without the person. Try thinking about how several things in your life are now better because you are not with this wrong person. In life it is very normal to fall in love with (which is an emotional thing) and love (which is a choice) many people. Just because there is love does not mean that the person is the right person to spend the rest of your life with. Think more about what's important to you, your values, your beliefs, your aspirations, and compare these to the person you might be thinking of having a future with. Remember, your feelings are just emotions. Love between a husband and wife needs to go beyond emotions because the excitement (i.e., the emotion) of "being in love" will likely fade over time, and instead the conscious choice to love someone for the rest of one's life will take over.
2006-07-24 18:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by MJQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sure we are all guilty of the same feelings.
It isn't necessarily that you want him back, it's just the whole separation from him is still so fresh.
It's easier on your confidence to know that he still cares. That the time you shared was not a waste to him.
The fact that he still calls validates that you are worthy of his attention....
Anyways, you did the right thing by getting out of the relationship.
Stay strong, girl! Eventually those feelings of missing him will be distracted by much more pleasant thoughts.
Just give it time, and stay off that phone!
Good luck.
2006-07-24 18:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by val schmal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it more time, and move on (to another guy). You still have feelings for him because it's still fresh. You may even forget all the bad things or talk yourself out of them. But don't give in and go back to him. All those bad things won't go away. He's still gonna be an asshole.
Work on yourself - read a good book, catch up with friends, start a new sport or hobby.
2006-07-24 18:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Leia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to breakup with someone that you have good memories with. But I can relate with you because I have recently split with my husband of two years who wound up being a lier as well. He also had someone new in his life not even a week after we seperated! But I am better off and so are you. It will take time, but you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. The single life is fun too, enjoy it!
2006-07-24 18:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been broken up with him for 2 weeks. Thats not long enough to get over someone. You are doing the right thing to try and forget about him. Its normal to have feelings but we dont necessarily have to act on them. Go out and live your life and the time will come where you will be over him and ready to move on to your next boyfriend. Good luck!
2006-07-24 18:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by prince4816 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could only be using that girl 2 make u jealous cause he may still have feelings for u........ but u cant think about the good times kisses and hugs come and go and u can get that from everyone but personality's and hearts never change as much as some1 tells u that they have they never will
2006-07-24 18:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by *Bubbley_Bl0nde* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on to better things in life. You admitted that he is wrong for you. I know it hurts to miss someone and reminense about the good times. but its time to quit living in the past and concentrate on the future. Good Luck.
2006-07-24 18:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋