I've been off of birth control pills for 19 months now with no form of contraception. Though we're not trying to have a baby, I am incredibly clucky and would love to have one. I'm freshly graduated from my technical program and do not yet have a job in my field. I've been a townie all my life and want to move but feel that having a baby would make me stay a townie forever. Should I pursue my career and go back on body wrecking birth control pills, give up all hope of leaving this town and have a baby, or keep on doing nothing about it at all?
2006-07-24 10:37:20 · 13 answers · asked by Cusp Critter 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i lived in a small town just about my whole life...i mean...our entire school district just barely reached a thousand students...i never thought i would ever get out of that place....after i graduated high school i went to the nearest college...got pregnant durring my second quarter and basicly quit after the 3rd quarter...never thought i would leave....but i had my son and moved 1300 miles away from home to the florida keys when my son was 6 weeks old...so it's still possible to leave after you have a baby....but i would suggest starting a career first...this way you'll be financially able to care for your baby....i didnt get to experience the joy of decorating my babys room or buying him things...my son is 8 months and i buy him clothes and a small toy here or there but i wish i couldve got into a career first......good luck
2006-07-24 10:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your graduation, but girl, you are so not ready to have a child. You need to focus on your life, live your life, get settled, then consider having children when you are married and ready. You are already laying blame on this child that doesn't exist for the possibility of you staying in your hometown. A child isn't whats going to keep you a "townie". That is your choice. You are incredibly lucky that you have had unprotected sex and haven't ended up pregnant or far worse, with a disease. When you spend for time living life, and have aged a few years, you'll look back and thank your lucky stars you were smart and protected your life.
2006-07-24 10:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by sarlha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be smart of you to find employment first. What was the purpose of you going to school to graduate after spending time on your career and making a better life for yourself to go an get pregnant and be just plain stuck? That makes no sense. How will you provide for the child without any added income? Children are expensive investments. Think about it... would you want your child to have very little when could have given him or her so much more than living in the same old town. Be wise in your choices because once you decide to have a child, they are your responsibility until they are able to fend for themself and that isnt going to occur until 35years of age. Enjoy your life and venture out. Broaden your opportunities. Dont get tied down.
2006-07-24 10:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by shel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you definitely would like a baby but not now! Why not consider getting a job in your field and then look to move before you have the baby? That way your life will be stable and welcoming for the new baby!
2006-07-24 10:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't made a decision, you are just leaving every thing to fate. Doesn't sound like you are ready to commit to a baby. Go on another form of birth control if you don't like the pill. You don't have to have a baby to fulfill your place in this world. There are enough children as it is.
2006-07-24 10:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
persue ur career because when u have a baby u'r not going to be able to do it or ever have that chance again, a baby can come later u'll always have time for it, live life first and after u done and accomplished everything and u feel there is nothing else to do then have a baby.
2006-07-24 10:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by shakerrawashington@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question you are not ready to have a baby. Having a baby is not just having a baby. It is making a lifelong commitment and takes a tremendous amount of dedication and selflessness. You will know when you are ready.
2006-07-24 10:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me I think the baby should be born where you have time and the money to take care of him/her. My parents always tell me to get a good stable job make enough money and then have a child so then you can support it. But it is really all up to you! Good luck (:
2006-07-24 10:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by just me (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? If so, why worry about it at all? I think God knows best the timing of making a family.
2006-07-24 10:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by jsid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have a baby. I think you'll use that as an excuse not to move and blame it on your baby.
2006-07-24 10:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋