Okay me and this guy have been dating a week and we fooled around the other night. it was great but the next day he dropped me off at my house then said he was going to come and pick me up later he didn't he never called wouldn't answer my phone calls but he answered one from my cousin cause she had me on 3-way. right after she talked to him i called and he was at a girls house and she answered his phone and told me he was in the pool and that he was staying there tonight. what did i do wrong i really like him but this hurts.
2006-07-24 10:28:55 · 42 answers · asked by flutter_by_baby20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's why the 3-week rule for sex is good, it helps to weed out these type of creeps. If they'll hang around and make nice for 3 weeks, they might be more genuine than just a player. Honestly, that soon as you guy went at it, even the nice guys can get the wrong impression and decide they're not interested for any meaningful relationship. (too easy, honey, I don't want to say it, ouch, dammit! :-(
2006-07-24 10:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are living a contradiction. You've only been dating a guy for a week and already you are sexually active. This is called servicing. He took you out just long enough to be serviced and then moved on. What you did wrong was enter into a one sided relationship. Next time, hold out the sexual favors until you find someone that truly enjoys the person you are...not the body parts you have. Look for guys who love you with their mind and heart not their genitals. There is an old saying that you should try to remember...Why buy the cow when you can get the milk free?
2006-07-24 10:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do a damn thing wrong. Take yourself out of the situation and look at it. He's at another girls house spending the night? The way I see it, he has habits and I wouldn't bother wasting my time on him. You were only dating a week and that sort of thing is happening already. My advice, stay clear of him, he's done those things before and will do them again. He's not worth the heartache.
2006-07-24 10:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dated a week.
Then you slept with him.
And now you wonder what you did wrong ?
Lord, child - will you people never learn ? This has been going on since the beginning of time and young people ALWAYS think that they are "different" and their "relationship" is "different" and the oldies around them are just "out of it" when - in fact - this was going on when we were your age.
He wasn't interested in you.
He was interested in having sex with you.
He got that.
He moved on.
Yes, it hurts. Now snap out of it! And learn to respect yourself. Take a look at how quickly you are slipping into a relationship and how quickly you are giving yourself away and ask yourself if, perhaps, you are worth more than that. And then, start acting like it.
2006-07-24 10:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women alike tend to test the waters and be gone without a trace. It's not worth asking why. Maybe he didn't feel like you two were physically compatible, but didn't have the heart to tell you... I mean it could be anything. You shouldn't pursue someone who is going to treat you like that anyways. So many things in life are a mystery and love shouldn't be one of them. Go and focus on is the next man... the better man who can appreciate you and treat you like gold.
2006-07-24 10:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by leufiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fooled around with him without getting a commitment. He basically got what he wanted from you and now is trying to score with someone else. The boy is a player and out to just see who he can score with and isn't interested in a relationship.
2006-07-24 10:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did do something wrong you fooled around with him. It sounds like hes a bad boy and take it from me bad boy like good girls. You fooled around to soon. I believe it's only lust it will go away soon. sorry next time keep it to yourself longer and find a guy that's not a bad boy.
2006-07-24 10:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Andria K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a bad decision without enough information. Forgive yourself, forget the jerk. Move on and do better next time, by figuring out what you should have known about this person and their commitment to you before you put so much trust in them.
2006-07-24 10:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by xamayca.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that happened. Maybe jumping into the sack a week after you met isn't the best way to learn whether he's a good, solid, caring person?
2006-07-24 10:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I tihnk you've just been used. Forget about him. IF HE DOESN'T WANT YOU, HE'S OBVIOUSLY NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU. Thats one of the reasons why they say its better to have sex after you get married. Sorry about your heartbreak, but I think that the next time he calls, you shouldnt pick up.
2006-07-24 10:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by dotbrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋