Just ended relationship with ex 1 1/2 weeks ago, it was a mutual agreement. I still love him and we agreed to be friends. We now live in two different sattes and i have a date tomorrow. I'm not looking for another love connection because I'm aware I still love him but it I feel I need to go on with my life instead of livingnin the past. My friends say I'm moving too fast but I just want my own life. Do younthink it is to soon.
2006-07-24 10:27:32 · 19 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No.. I do not think its too soon. You need to get out and get over the feelings of sadness in your life. What better way to get over them than to just go out. You dont have to go out with the intentions of finding another love connection.. go out to enjoy yourself. Who knows.. that next guy may be the love connection you are looking for or maybe you will run into someone that is your next love. But for the time being.. just go out.. enjoy yourself, laugh and have some fun. Time heals all wounds and with time you will feel like trying to find that next guy in your life. You are correct.. you do need to get on with you life and not sit around dwelling on the past. Its difficult not to dwell on it.. if your mind isnt being occupied with something else. And it doesnt have to be another guy or a date.. it could be a night class for something you have always wanted to do.. or join a gym.. or visit long lost friends.. or even volunteer at your local hospital. Lots of things do to out there to get over something. Yes it does take time and alot of control in your life.. but have faith. YOU can do it. Good Luck
2006-07-24 10:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you're going on this date because you expect this new guy to heal all your wounds and make you forget your ex, get drunk, make out, have sex, or any of the above, then yes, it's too soon.
If you're going out on this date because you met someone new, you would like to get to know him a little better, and you want to get out of the hosue and have some fun, then by all means go.
Relationship break ups take a while to get over, but that's no reason to shut yourself off from the world in the meantime. Good luck.
2006-07-24 10:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long was this relationship??? If it was long then yes it could be a little to soon but yet we have to start some where so why not tomorrow. It's a date not a proposal. Dating should help you get over still loving your ex.
2006-07-24 10:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be too soon for dating, but it's never too soon to make new friends and get out there. In the future, don't accept any dates until you're ready to date unless you make it very clear that you want to go out just as friends (and if so, be prepared to split the bill). Spend more time with your friends and get back into activities you love and soon, you'll be ready to open your heart to love once again. Good luck.
2006-07-24 10:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but you should let your date know that you aren't looking for love.
just someone to spend some time with. If you feel you are ready to get on with your life do it. if you need someone to help you get on with your life do it. People deal with things differently so if you would rather get over your ex with a new guy instead eating a gallon of ice cream with 13 boxes of tissue well watching romance movies. Do it and have fun it's your life not your friends.
2006-07-24 10:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by fly on the wall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too soon. You don't have a broken heart to heal and you need to get on with your life. Don't get into anything serious for awhile though. The best way to get over an old relationship is to get out and have fun. Your friends are wrong.
2006-07-24 10:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long where u w/ your ex and what are the chances of ever getting back together? If u can answer those two questions you might have a better idea of whether or not it's too soon.
2006-07-24 10:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Christy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a date and not love. Nobody says you have to jump on the "love boat" again. Perhaps it would be better to give the love life a chance to heal and just hang with friends. Only you can make that decision.
2006-07-24 10:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, why dont you go out with your friends instead? Or take up a hobby because youre running the risk of being with someone for the wrong reason. Good luck
2006-07-24 10:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Fer22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know that. what does your gut tell you. Only you can tell for sure if your ready to move on and let go of what you had before. I know this is cheesy but just listen to your heart. No one on yahoo can tell you if its too soon. you have to decide that for yourself. Now if your worried that your ex will be super hurt if he finds out you had a date, then its too soon, cause obviously you still care about hurting his feelings.
2006-07-24 10:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by lovegwen4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋