Did I handle it the right way? I told him I thought he deserved better.
2006-07-24 10:15:58 · 45 answers · asked by consigliere 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T YOU KNOW IT'S A MAN SHORTAGE, GIRL YOU BETTA CALL THAT GOOD-MAN AND TELL him that you have just been alert of a Virus with the phone company and some messages might have gotten mixed up accidentally!!!!!!!!!!
Just kidding, don't lie, but anyway Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-07-24 10:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Prayerwarrior 3 · 25⤊ 14⤋
Try reversing the situation... would you think it'd be appropriate if he did that to you?? How would it make you feel to find out from the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with that they couldn't be with you, by means of one of the least personal forms of communication out there... a text message?
Considering the sensitivity of the subject, it definitely would have been better to lend it the respect it deserves by telling him in person, perhaps over dinner or something.
Also, he might not take it as serious as he would have if you had done it in person.
You can still fix the situation though. Just sit him down and tell him your feelings... and tell him why. After three years, he deserves the explanation. The truth... to help him move on.
2006-07-24 10:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by whateva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, after 3 years, you owe him an explanation in person. Why would you text something like that? Are you under 18? And why do you think he deserves better? If you need more help than this, you need to explain yourself better or none of us can possibly help you out. So while you get your bearings straight, arrange to speak to this man you supposedly loved for 3 years and give him the explanation he deserves.
2006-07-24 10:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably deserved better, but if the only way you could manage to tell him was by text message, then I guess it's better than marrying him and having it be a mistake.
Some folks would rather go ahead and try marrying someone they feel isn't *the one* to see if they can make it work... than to go through the two way emotional turmoil of breaking it off late in the game.
So... kudos for knowing it wasn't right and stopping it before you were married and miserable. But... if it happens again with someone else, try to pull it from your gut and do it in person.
2006-07-24 10:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, quite frankly, you didn't. You were together for three years. He deserved to hear you couldn't marry him face to face, not in a text message. You took the coward's way out. You're right, he did deserve better.
2006-07-24 10:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by rhymeweaver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been a good guy, you should sit down with him and tell him the truth. Sending a text message isn't really the proper way to tell a long-term love you won't marry him, unless you think he'll be abusive.
2006-07-24 10:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... a text message? Hello? This man deserved a face-to-face explanation. How sad that our society can't even communicate directly to someone... especially someone close to us.
No... you did not do the right thing at all.
2006-07-24 10:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe its not for you then telling him know is better then marring him and end up in divorce court and bring children in the middle. In person would have been even better. I had a friend that had second doubt but went trough with the marriage 8 months later they were in divorce court. It may hurt know but if its not right then it will hurt even worse later. Yes you did the right thing
2006-07-24 10:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Andria K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have done it in person. Text is a bit impersonal and just a bad way to handle something important like that. You should still talk to him, and tell him things in more detail.
2006-07-24 10:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by I77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a text message was the best way to handle it.
2006-07-24 10:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by fleaciante 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe for u it felt like the right thing to do but it wasn't.how can u tell a man that u think u couldn't have married him man he was a keeper there's not many man who will be willin to marry women as ur self.I guess u never what u have until it's gone. Do u regret it?Just call him up and set a place to meet and just sit and talk about ur feelings and his u'd be surprised what he'd have to say...good luck....i hope my advice helped
2006-07-24 10:21:06 · answer #11 · answered by talor h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋