In your opinion which of the three is the most important to teahce your child love,honor,or respect?

Question

I know that is a broad question, so I will narrow it in the details. My child is grown now, but , I have a five y/o nephew that I spend a lot of time with. I emphasize respect to him all the time. I put a lot of emphasis on that when my son was young too. For instance, he got into trouble one time at school and I had to go to a parent teacher meeting, this young teacher was a nervous wreck trying to talk to me about what he had done. I finally had to tell her to just spit it out. When she finished telling me that he had popped off to her in front of the class for laughs, his head was hanging because he knew what was coming. I told him that he didn't have to learn anything but he would sit in that classroom and keep his damn mouth shut. She couldn't believe that I got on him instead of her. To me tha's a sad statement when the teachers are afraid to talk to the parent . So for me it's respect.

it is a loaded question isn't it? I wanted to see how many serious answers I would get. I am a registered nurse and worked in a very small rural MS hospital, it's amazing to me the disrespect that people have for not only others but themselves. I am very proud of my own child, he's turned out really well to have been raised in a single parent home. I think I did a great job actually, but I don't agree that all three go together automatically. Criminals love their moms, and their families (look at the mob, etc.) but they have no respect for anything, and there is the old saying "Honor among theives". Teach respect and respect others and the world will be a diffirent place.

You know JohnB I respect your opinion, I don't love it, or honor, it necessarily, but I do respect it. As for love and honor going hand in hand with respect, well, as I stated in my second addition to my comment, people are capable of love, and some have their own "code" of honor, but they don't really respect much of anything. That was why I wondered from other parents which of the three held the most importance for them in rearing their children. I have dealt with many children throughout my life, some of them my son's teenage friends. They loved their girlfriends, their parents, their friends,etc., but many of them had NO honor about them and even less respect. Love is a very important , but honor and respect don't always follow love.

Answer 1

You know, I try to instill these charecteristics in my kids on a daily basis. I don't think I have tried to have them learn or taught them these things-it's more a way of life. It's more what they see their parents do on a daily basis. If the parent brags about being on welfare, doesn't work, does drugs, curses, and is a slob-that kid will grow up to be the same way.

I work in a jail, and although I'm 44, I'm considered "old-school" by my staff. It isn't because of my age-it's the way I present myself; I open doors for people, I respond with "thank-yous", but most importantly, I care for those who work for me: they are my family, I love them dearly. I would do anything for them, at anytime. And you know, although I've been there half my life, and the average age of my employee is 25, people tell me, that I'm rubbing off on others.

Since taking command, our turnover rate has declined, harrassmnet amoung staff and inmates is is non-exisentent and people seem to be in a better frame of mind.

But let me also say, we interview new applicants everyweek, and you'd be surprised who comes to these interviews dressed like they've just gotten back from a Jimmy Buffet concert, t-shirts and lsat winter I had a guy come in in full camos, with a hunting vest-he took time out from his trip in the field to get interviewed?!

I never look at those with experience, I look at those who come in, are polite, dressed nice and have a good demeanor about them. My best applicants are retired or former United States Miltary personnel.

So, I guess I really never answered your question, and I am sorry but I firmly believe it isn't what you teach in as much as it is how you present yourself.

Good luck though, there's plenty of time for the 5 year-old. I do miss raising kids that age.

Answer 2

It is sad that we would even think it was necessary to pick one of the three. Although, really - I am not sure you can teach love as it is an emotion that has to be cultivated and grown. And I am not sure you can teach honor as it is something that is reflected rather than given. But - if I have to pick one - I would have to agree with you that respect is the thing that should be taught. If a person is respectful, most everything else will follow.....

I, too, had a mother that addressed my behavior before she attended to anything else. When I got in trouble, which wasn't often, the first question ALWAYS was "what did you do" (or say or whatever.)

If a person is respectful, they will learn not to interrupt; they will have manners; they will be deferential; they will have well-modulated voices; they will learn to use their words carefully; they will begin to understand how everyone has a valid place in the world and how it all fits together. I think, perhaps, if you can teach a child to be respectful, they will learn how to honor other people....and they may find themselves in a place where people gravitate toward them - love them - and then they have it all.

Answer 3

The Bible says, "the greatest of these is love". You see without love a person can't learn respect or be respectful. I question your respect when you would say in front of the child, "Shut your damn mouth." That in it's self is NOT respectful. It is rude. You should respect the child--any child and the adult in your presense! This child will grow up and talk like you if this is how he hears adults talking. Speak softly, with respect, be loving and kind. Be thoughtful. I think, you need to show his teacher more respect. Get a grip on yourself. You should be in control of your behavior at all times. The child is going to mimic the adult behaviors he is around. If he doesn't hear cussing he isn't going to cuss. Love starts at home. It is NOT loving to curse!

Answer 4

Hi. I feel that teaching your child respect is very important. They will learn love from you. I think it's hard for a child to learn respect just from watching....they need lessons in it. When they are disrespectful they need to be called on it. I think you did a great job with the parent teacher conference. You taught him that respect is important. Honor is also important but I feel that Respect is the most important lesson. LIke I said, love is learned, kids feel it and learn it from you, they don't need to be taught to love if they experience it.

Answer 5

Your story lacks one vary main ingredient and that is love and without it there can never be any Honor or respect to really love someone or something is an Honor and that is how we learn to respect, without love there is no Honor and without Honor there is no respect, start loving the other two will follow.

Answer 6

I think if you teach a child respect , love and honor will come.
I believe you have to respect someone before you can love or honor them.

Answer 7

All three are very important, Respect then honor then love. Without these three we will be not better than animals.

Answer 8

Oh, my Dear. Such important questions. Gotta say all three are necessary. If you can't love, it'll be a very tough life. Honor is essential too to be a good, productive person. And you've done great on respect.
Good for you.

Answer 9

I believe respect is more important. If you don't have respect for one another, than you can't honor or love anyone.

Answer 10

If you love your child, you need to teach him respect. He will already know he's loved, and honour will follow.