Should I have my 2 children aged 4 and 2 present at the home birth of my third child?

Question

My 4 year old is a autistic boy but very able and my 2 year old is a very active little angel.
Both know I am having their baby brother who we have named and I am very close to my children.

Answer 1

It could be fine. Just make sure they are watching with an adult so if they get scared or upset about it the adult can take them in the other room. Congrats on #3!

Answer 2

That is a personal choice and one that rests upon a few factors;

1. Do you think that your children would be able to handle seeing their mother in pain for hours and hours?

2. Will someone be on-call if your children freak out at the sight of blood?

What may be a beautiful experience for you can be frightening for an autistic child and a child of 2. I would give it some serious consideration.

I'm sure you will make the best decision for you and your family. The best of everything to you and may your baby be happy and healthy.

Answer 3

I wouldn't have them in the room with you. Have a trusted friend or relative keep them occupied in their rooms or another part of the house. After the baby's born, they can come in to see their new brother. At 2 & 4, they're really too young to understand the whole birthing process. They also might freak out & start crying if they see you're in pain.

Answer 4

Many people do this and embrace the beauty of birth as a family.

Personally I'd be swearing to much for a child to be present and would be worried if something went wrong they would winess it. Also seeing mummy in so much pain might be disturbing - esp at such a young.

Its a completly personal choice, only you know how your children will react!

Good luck with the birth!

Answer 5

Do you really want to spend the rest of their childhood explaining what was going on?

While a birth can be an amazing thing, children that age are not able to understand what is going on. It will leave them horribly confused.

I would say no...but hey, i don't know anyone who has gone through that from the child's point of view

Answer 6

You know your children best. Will they be able to handle this? My only concern with you and home birthing, will your other 2 children be alright with seeing you in pain if you will be going all natural?

Personally, I am all for it. We had our 3rd boy 8 months ago and did have our other 2 boys in the room with us. They were very well behaved and loved the idea of being apart of their brother's birth.

Good luck to you and congratulations.

Answer 7

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

It doesn't matter a child's age, or condition. A mother should not make her child watch her give birth! How traumatizing! Apparently you don't want your children to ever have their own children?!

Be a good mother, get a babysitter. Probably in a different house. Let your children welcome the baby after he/she is born. NO child of any age should be put through that!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

It's a matter of personal preference, but I'd be afraid that the experience would cause them to relate less to their peers. I don't think children of that age are able to truly comprehend what is going on and may not be able to communicate that effectively to their peers. Furthermore, thier peers may have some preconceived notions of sexuality and the experience may make them uncomfortable, and they may make your kids uncomfortable in return.

Why not have them near during the birth, but not in the same room, and have them see the newborn shortly after birth, but not during?

Answer 10

I think that is a great idea as long as you have a couple of good "aunties" there to focus on the children, make them dinner and snacks and take them out if it gets too long or too intense for periods of time. What a wonderful progressive mother you must be!

Answer 11

Mine were a little older but both were present up to the point of pushing.My dad took them out of the room but I was happy with them staying in.Just keep them off tot he side and not right in full view of baby being born.I say it is awesome.